Q&A: How to Manage Expectations?
The topic of expectations and how they relate to deliberate creation came up a couple of times this last week in interesting ways.
First, a Money Mojo Magic participant shared an exciting development in her life that could lead to a huge influx of income.
This master manifester wondered whether to not get too excited about it or whether to let loose with imagining just HOW wonderful it could be.
My suggestion was to let loose and have delicious fun while entertaining really BIG thoughts about it! I told her doing so would open the door wide for Universe to have some fun with this amazing new opportunity for success.
The next day Good Vibe reader, Anne, sent a link to and inquiry about my thoughts on this Zen Habits blog post (thanks, Anne!) about a beautiful method to find peace of mind.
Basically, the Zen Habits article suggests expecting the worst so that we can more easily accept it when things inevitably go wrong.
I have to admit, “expecting things to go wrong” didn’t sit quite right with me, although I am all for peace of mind and accepting what is.
At the same time, I know I’ve been in situations before where it felt prudent to caution myself that yes, this possible thing that might happen is super cool, but it might not (happen), so don’t get too attached to it.
(Like when Oprah called, and when Jack Canfield asked for permission to use three of my stories in his Mastering the Law of Attraction book, and when Kim Falconer suggested we might co-author together, and when my super hot new date asked me out again, etc. etc.)
We know attachment is a sure way to shoot ourselves in the LOA foot. So that’s good to avoid. But do we really have to achieve non-attachment by managing (i.e. reducing, limiting) our expectations?
Isn’t there a way to keep the energy clean and pure and positive without holding back what we’re willing to imagine possible?
It seems an important question to answer because what we imagine is what we create.
Thus, being able (and willing) to imagine the BEST things seems like the wise and powerful way to use our deliberate creative power!
And yet, sometimes that’s exactly what kicks our gremlins into action – with a chorus of “don’t get your hopes up, you know what happened last time!” and “if it sounds too good to be true it probably is.”
So I’m opening this up you wise ones. I’d love to hear your take on how you “manage” your expectations … do you let ’em rip, or do you keep them in check? Or does it depend?
What helps you stay in the most powerful place of manifesting when it comes to your expectations?