Relaxing with the Truth

How to Relax with the TruthSometimes conscious creators report they have a hard time with affirmations or acting as if because it isn’t “true.”

It’s hard for them to say, imagine, think or be something that isn’t factual.

  • “I can’t pretend I’m in a happy relationship when I’m still single.”
  • “I don’t know how to feel rich when I’m not.”
  • “Acting like I’m at my ideal weight is too far from reality.”

Here’s the deal, though … successful manifesting includes releasing our tight grip on the “truth.”

Because if we aren’t willing to think/see/feel it different, we can’t create it different.

We gotta relax about the truth or we just get more of the same.

So here’s some inspiration to help relax with the truth:

When asked her age, Dr. Christiane Northrup just says that she’s 40. Her wikipedia page would not agree, but that doesn’t stop her.

When Adam Levine coached his Voice contestant to sing someone else’s song like he wrote it himself, Adam added: “Hey Jude? I wrote that.” (And if you heard Adam perform that one, you’d understand why he gives this advice!)

Megan Trainor confided that when she performs on stage she pretends she’s Beyonce. It’s what helps her deliver her very best to the audience.

The heavyweight boxer did it when he signed his autograph as ‘world champion’ before actually stepping into the ring to win it.

Before she was Lady Gaga, Stefani Germanotta walked around town as if she were already famous. It didn’t take long before that was so.

When walking into auditions, George Clooney affirmed that he was the answer to every casting director’s dream. (What a nice reality to choose, right?!)

These things weren’t necessarily “true” but it didn’t stop them from engaging thoughts that took them where they wanted to go.

If they can do it, so can you.

Imagination is key to creating the reality you prefer.

And to engage imagination you’ve got to be willing to loosen your grip on reality. That’s all there is to it.

Know that part of your manifesting success comes from not being such a prude about the truth.

Besides, reality isn’t what you think it is anyway. Let this runway modelΒ (winner of Project Runway season 8) inspire you:

Science is starting to confirm what religions and spiritual teachers have taught for centuries – everything is happening now and it’s all happening and is all already done.

If we truly understood what leading quantum physicists have been theorizing for years now, we’d know everything already exists. Simultaneously. Right now. Infinite alternate realities are just waiting for us to choose our favorite version through our focused attention.

Which means there’s a version of reality where that dream of yours is a done deal. So it’s not a deviation from truth to choose that one, it’s just a deviation from your present reality.

And that’s what conscious creation is all about.

You can’t be a powerful manifestor while tied to the facts and evidence of what you don’t prefer.

I’m not saying that you have to speak things into the world that make you break out in hives, but in the confines of your own imagination at least, give yourself a little leeway.

And if you do insist on being factual, tap into the facts of your preferred reality. It’s already there waiting for you to say yes to it.

  • June 4, 2015
  • I have several people I would like to be more like, and imagining them in my presence and them maybe allowing them inside me and absorbing their qualities might be a good imagination to manifestation technique.

  • Tammy says:

    Thank you Melody your way of manifesting really resonates with me right now. This whole post is very timely and much appreciated.

  • Katy says:

    Personally I have always loved this idea…I’ve just never played it out long enough to see how well I can do! Your post is giving me some motivation to do just that! Hmmm….rubbing hands together…I think I will reflect on this one a day or so and decide ‘who’ I can become more of – to allow in something that I’ve been wanting. And I can’t help but quote one of the greats, George Costanza: It’s not a lie if you believe it LOL πŸ™‚

  • Imagination is one of humanity’s greatest gifts. Neville Goddard’s quote, “Imagination Creates Reality” (The Law and the Promise) is our reminder.
    Not surprisingly, all those in my 2008 AffirmingSpirit study who were able to *suspend reality* while focusing on their customized affirmations were also the ones who were most ‘successful’ in manifesting.
    As children, it was so easy to ‘suspend reality’ while we played. How wonderful it would be if we could suspend it more often! πŸ˜‰
    Many blessings,

    • Jeannette says:

      I was thinking that, Nancy – what great examples kids are of our ability to do this!
      I love your suggestion to pair up affirmations with reality suspension. Makes sense that that would allow even greater success.

  • Excellent examples Melody. While exaggeration to manifestation can work, nothing works if the underlying conditions of the subconscious mind are not first brought into some harmony with the ability to create in a positive manner, since we all create good and bad things, depending on our underlying beliefs about our selves and what we deserve.
    Cleanup your view about who and what you are and what you deserve, and many other aspects of conscious creation start to improve as well.
    Thanks for the examples.

  • Melody says:

    I used to have a problem acting as if, and it was because I had conflicting beliefs like ‘I don’t deserve what I want,’ ‘I am not powerful enough to make that happen.’ etc.
    Operating systems like that can make it impossible to focus in such way to manifest a desire. So as much as I knew the material, and I could willpower my way into doing it for short periods, it wasn’t self-sustaining because those old operating systems were still in place ready to go back online as soon as I was distracted.
    So I practiced the vibe of a bunch of different general beliefs to support my manifestation like ‘I am safe,’ ‘I am powerful,’ ‘I deserve,’ ‘I am free from the need for approval’ etc.
    I would pick one idea and focus on it for a couple days until I could feel my vibe had lifted on that topic permanently. I just naturally reacted differently and felt differently in all situations without any effort. Then I would move onto the next subject.
    Now I can manifest really easily, choose to feel good really easily whenever I want. Also, it has given me a lot of confidence in the reality of conscious creation, because by giving something attention for a few days and really shifting it for good, the resulting manifestations become very obvious.
    A couple examples, I was working on being comfortable with money for a week straight, and I received a very unexpected 5,000 check a week later. Then, a couple weeks after that my husband and I decided to move to a much bigger city that will be better for my career. My husband got a new job working for a non-profit making a lot more money, and we moved it a much nicer apartment with an indoor pool and fitness center across from a huge park. I also acquired a lot of new things that made my enviroment feel more abundant. Now, I didn’t focus on wealth while all this unfolded, I focused on other things, but I had spent enough time and energy in that one week to install a new operating system that is always working in the background. I would have to spend at least that much time and concerted effort to dismantle it.
    Another example was working on my self-esteem. I focused on it for three days exclusively and like a week later I was inspired to dye and cut my hair, and I am much happier with it. Then a week after that, I was inspired to start volunteering, and that made me feel good, and so on.
    I also focused on health for a few days, and like a week later found myself choosing healthy foods without any effort or conscious decision, even when I am in social situations or tired. My husband bought me cookies that have been sitting in the cupboard for a month, because i just haven’t wanted them. They seem genuinely unappealing.
    I have found I get an initial manifestation within a week, and then the full flowering in a few months with this method. It also helps because by focusing on one thing at a time, I am not offering any more resistance on the beliefs I have already upgraded.

    • Jeannette says:

      Wow! That’s very powerful confirmation you’re experiencing, Melody! Love this!!
      Thanks for taking the time to share it with us all. πŸ™‚

  • jennifer tilley says:

    I read somewhere that Mohammed Ali used to use rhymes for what he was going to do before he got into the ring. ‘sing-songy’ chants, music that lifts my vibe, and things of that nature work for me. and, I also love the comment about ‘exaggerating it into manifestation’… going to have to try that one! πŸ™‚

  • Cat says:

    Your posts are always so timely, Jeannette! πŸ™‚
    My two cents: In a holographic reality — which this is — everything is present all at once, all the time. This includes what you’ve currently got manifested in 3D, but it also includes all the things that are only potentials yet. I’ve come to a realization recently that we do ourselves a disservice when we equate “imagining” something with “making it up.” Your imagination isn’t a paintbrush, it’s an eyeball! You have physical eyeballs for seeing physical reality; you have imagination for seeing nonphysical reality — and what it sees, it sees for a very simple reason: THE THING ALREADY EXISTS! It’s not actually an untruth to say that you see it, feel it, dance with it.
    I’ve been having beyond-fantastic results with manifesting using this idea of the holographic universe (I call it the Buffet of Infinite Reality πŸ™‚ ). With practice or a shift in perspective, it feels less and less like lying to get to say things like, “Yes, I’ve got a fantastic boyfriend. When do you get to meet him? Oh, how about sometime after I do?” πŸ™‚

    • Susann says:

      Wow. I LOVE this! Thanks for sharing this, Cat.
      Anyone else here a fan of the movie The Abyss (one of my all-time favorite love stories *and* it has Ed Harris *and* Michael Biehn, not that I’m shallow or anything): After the “water tentacle” alien has come into the damaged underwater rig & checked everyone out, Linsay is talking with Bud:
      “We all see what we want to see. Coffey looks and he sees Russians. He sees hate and fear. You have to look with better eyes than that.”
      Even before I got into LOA, I loved that line.

    • Jeannette says:

      I agree with Susann – that’s a really brilliant way of putting it, Cat!
      “The thing already exists!” I hope that helps many a fellow creator get more comfortable with expanding their definition of “reality” and “truth.”

  • Sharne says:

    Yes love that Jeannette! ATM I’m affirming it is already a reality. Something I am playing with now is that it’s ‘all’ just like a video game and I’m moving up to the next level, wherever I find myself is the level I am moving up from. I like to think/imagine the level I am heading to, sometimes getting to that level requires, from every day life, a different way of looking at ‘what is’, like the strategy change in the video game to move up. Hope that makes sense, it does in my head, hehe!! Thank you for the wonderful insights. Much love and light Sharne

  • Janette says:

    A great reminder that ‘the truth’ can be highly overrated!
    I like to remember that our brains can’t actually tell the difference between ‘real’ and ‘imagined’. You – as the user of your brain – get to choose which version of reality you want to play in. And you do that by choosing your focus (I also think appreciation helps a LOT with this – like a magic carpet which can transport us from one reality to another – but I digress!)
    There’s a little experiment you can do, to easily demonstrate how slippery ‘truth’ and ‘reality’ both are – if you’re willing to just go along with me for a moment.
    Read this next bit slowly, out loud if you can (reading out loud helps you read slowly enough for your brain to go along for the ride):
    There is a slice of lemon on a plate in front of me. It’s just been cut from the whole fruit, and the fine mist of juice and lemon oil are still lingering in the air. I can see the vivid yellow of the skin; the drops of moisture on the shiny plump flesh. I’m lifting the plate close to my face, and inhaling that unmistakable zesty tang – my whole skull feels like it’s filling up with the sharpness of the lemon. I know as soon as I put it in my mouth, I’ll experience a burst of sharp lemony flavour, and my mouth will fill with saliva…..
    If you read that slowly, imagining the reality of the lemon in front of you, I bet your mouth began to water.
    You’ve just deliberately created a reality for your brain in which the presence of ‘lemon’ was so strong, your brain triggered all the necessary physiological responses you’d expect if the lemon were ‘real’. There is no lemon, but your brain believed there was.
    That’s like a superpower!
    We have the power to be the USERS of our brains, not their helpless victims. And I think it’s fun to break that stranglehold we have on ‘but it’s true!’ when we’re looking to activate a different reality!

    • Sabs says:

      We had a speaker come to work who went through that lemon exercise. I wound up feeling like I was going to be sick because of the mouth watering! Pretty cool πŸ™‚

  • Sabs says:

    You wrote this for me, right?? Haha this is a great post…I’m going to read it a few times and then work on stretching my truths!

    • Jeannette says:

      I thought of you when I saw your forum post this morning, Sabs!
      But truth be told, all of us could use a reminder about prying our focus off of reality in order to make room for what wants to unfold next, myself included.
      What I’ve found most challenging is when someone asks me “how it is” I feel a sort of responsibility to speak what’s so in 3D world right now because otherwise it might be considered misleading. (As in, I would never say I made a certain amount of money or had a specific number of clients or pounds lost that wasn’t so in this current 3D reality. I don’t think I’d feel that way if I wasn’t an LOA coach making my living in this field, but whatever’s contributing to it, I feel I need to be really deliberate and conscious about how I answer.
      One of my favorite outs on challenging subjects has been to simply respond, “That’s not an approved topic of discussion for me currently.” Meaning, I’ll talk about this when I can do so without violating my point of alignment.
      Or I’ll say, “Here’s how I like to think about it …” which feels like it gives me enough wiggle room to stay focused in the direction that serves.
      Or there’s ways we can answer that are vague enough we’re sticking to the ‘truth’ without speaking something contrary to our desires.
      That’s just when interacting with others, though. In my own mind I have much more fun with myself. πŸ™‚

  • Melody says:

    Also, someone can always just do something else: affirmations, gratitude journals, eft, meditation, funny movies, hypnosis, feng shui, spells, etc. Any ride can take you there. It all works, if you work it (that if is key!).

    • Jeannette says:

      Good point, Melody. Worst case scenario, just make a point of feeling good and having fun and that alignment is bound to serve! πŸ™‚

  • Meant Spock from star treck, dropped the c and added an e and got Spoke, and Spokes always lead to the center of the wheel as well. Oh well.

  • As Spoke would say “Interesting” raising an eyebrow. At another juncture he might declare, “It’s not a lie, it’s an exaggeration.” We need to exaggerate ourselves into a new manifestation, or cling to the idea that something is not and never will be true for us, and hey, you’ll be right on that too.
    Excellent article.

    • Jeannette says:

      I LOVE that, Dr. Ian: β€œexaggerate ourselves into a new manifestation.” That feels very much in keeping with what Abe says about growing into our expansion.
      Very empowering way to think of it – thanks for launching this discussion! πŸ™‚

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