Right and Wrong with Tiger Woods
Household discussions have been interesting here about Tiger Woods and his latest reason for being in the news.
While some (i.e. Russ) thought it was unforgivable that Tiger would flagrantly betray marriage vows, others (me) thought it was sad that Tiger’s closest friends would leak sensitive information to the media. Talk about betrayal!
(More evidence that we get what we vibrate, huh?)
Still, how embarrassing to have your secret voice mail played on the nightly news!
(Ok, I don’t know if it was actually on nightly news, but it may as well have been for all the places it was broadcast. And if you have no idea what I’m talking about, kudos for being outside the vibe of celebrity gossip.)
Which reminds me of sage advice I’m not sure whom to attribute: if you’re ashamed of it, you shouldn’t be doing it.
Not an Abraham quote, but sounds like it could be, right? I think it actually came from dad when in 6th grade I stood up my best friend to go trick-or-treating with the cool kids, and didn’t feel good about any of it.
Which doesn’t mean if others think it’s wrong, we should be ashamed of it or not do it. It just means if you think it’s wrong, you’re flowing a vibe that will not likely lead to good things.
Which further means, if I were embarrassed about following celebrity gossip, I would either want to make peace with it or not do it. If I didn’t feel good about violating copyright laws by sharing an occasional (really really good) Abraham track, I should refrain from doing so. And that if someone felt guilty about committing infidelity, they’d either want to get over it or not engage it.
It’s actually pretty simple: make your choice and line up with it!
We’ve got to take this business of doing what feels good more seriously! ha
Because the vibration created when we go against what feels good, right and true for ourselves does not take us to fun places.
Here is an Abraham quote on the topic:
If you can follow your own heart and feel good while you’re doing it, then that’s always the best route for you to take. We always encourage doing what rings your bells and then find a way to line up with that rather than doing what’s most comfortable. We like to say: find what thrills you and make that the right decision.
Another related Abe quote:
There are no wrong paths. There are no wrong actions. There’s just wrong attitude within the action.
And if you can clean up your attitude, which means go with the flow, you could take any path and get to San Diego.
(San Diego being where we want to go, for those of you who aren’t familiar with this Abe analogy.)
So it’s worth a gut check before engaging in a highly charged decision, thought or action:
- Does this sit right with me?
- Do I feel good about this?
- Would I be embarrassed for mom to hear about this in a court of law? (wisdom via Heidi Fleiss)
That last gut check question can be a little tricky, because it’s not others’ judgments or opinions that we’re checking in on; rather just ensuring that if this were something played across the entire globe, we could hold our head high knowing we made the right choice for our Self at the time.
In conclusion of my excuse to talk about Tiger (to whom I’m sending loads of compassion), he’s given us a prime opportunity to check in on whether we’re betraying our own Self and values (as defined by you, not those who trained you).
No one else can say what’s right or wrong for you. Which is why it’s of utmost importance that you figure that for yourself, and do your best to honor it.
Something for me to remember next tax season. 😉