Savoring the Problem

big problems lead to big solutions“In life when one door closes another always opens, but the hallways are a bitch.” ~ Ronnie Kaye

I laughed at that quote when I read it on facebook this morning.

And realized it’s the exact opposite of the law of attraction tip that lit me up yesterday:

In a recent workshop CD Abraham suggests that we learn to savor the problem as well as we savor the solution. That was a foreign if delicious thought.

But it’s not that hard to accomplish when you understand how the system is set up.

Here’s how it works according to Abe: when we have a problem we automatically desire a solution. That desire creates the solution – on a vibrational level.  In order to experience that solution in our physical real-world reality, we have to become a vibrational match to it. That just means feel better – or as Abraham says, “get in the vortex.”

So when I savor the problem, which I can do be realizing it’s leading to even better life, I become a better match to its solution.

Okay, that’s how it works in theory. Does it work in the real world?

It did for me when my boyfriend broke up with me last year.

That’s when I remembered that this awful thing that was happening was HUGE contrast that was automatically taking me somewhere REALLY good, if I would just quit slamming doors and swearing about what a jerk he was. Once I dialed in on love and appreciation (it took more than a minute, but I was persistent), I became a match to an even better relationship than we had before.  Cool how that worked!

I was thinking Jerry Hicks’ latest hospital stay is what propels him to his desire to live to 120. Big problems do that – take us to big dreams come true.

That is, when we don’t get stuck in the problem.

When we get a handle on how it all works, it IS possible to savor the “problem.”

Which is an important manifesting technique to practice – because as long as we see big problems as big problems, we block big solutions.

However you find a way to ease up about whatever seems wrong in your life (distraction, acceptance, reframe, etc.), in doing so you open the door for Universe to deliver something ridiculously delicious.

And I want to hear about it when it happens!  🙂

  • August 19, 2011
  • Joe D says:

    “When love is not madness, it is not love.” ~ Pedro Calderon de la Barca

  • Patty says:

    Jeannette you have no idea how much I NEEDED this message I will certainly follow it to the T and will let you know how I deliberately turn my big problem into a BIG solution

  • Chip, I’m appreciating your reminder that problem and solution are not that different – part of the same stick, after all. Just different ends of the continuum. Not like I gotta go find a whole different stick – just move towards the other end a little, one better feeling thought at a time.
    Lovely. 🙂

  • Anna says:

    Chip’s breakdown reminds me of momentum – for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction.
    I like seeing things in my life along the same line – so for every month I’ve not been able to pay all my bills, I know I’m in for one when I’ll have a fantabuilous surplus!
    I heart momentum!

  • ChipEFT says:

    Being in an analytical mode, I’d like to break the concept of problem down a bit.
    We run into contrast when we look at something we have created in the past and no longer like it.
    It becomes a problem when we decide the contrast is too much and we have to fix it. We have to do something to make it better.
    And yes a problem and and the solution are part of the same energy vortex, or as Abe puts it a “stick” with what you want on one end and what you don’t want on the other.
    The solution, of course, is to become okay with where you are on the stick and find the thought that feels better in the moment.
    This becoming okay and feeling better process is a whole lot easier if you can embrace the “problem” as being a good thing–part of the process of moving from what you wanted in the past (but no longer like) to something you want even more.
    It how we bet better at the Law of Attraction game.

  • Oh, Tania, you sound like a soul sister! (Mutual breakup, purple shoes not fitting in banking world, movies and chocolate, yay!)
    You have got a great game plan together, my friend: breathing and heading toward your brightly painted door. And enjoying the mid-flight entertainment.
    You really rock, girlfriend.
    Post more!!! 🙂

  • Tania says:

    Hi Jeannette
    I’m writing from Sydney Australia where it’s a bright but windy winter day. I’ve been enjoying your blog for quite a while but this is my first comment. Your opening quote today made me laugh a lot. Thanks for all the laughs! I always enjoy reading.
    I’m in one of those hallways at the moment. Glad to have walked out one door but not without the occasional panic. Left the corporate bank job, or it left me, hard to say, it was kind of a mutual break-up. I wear purple shoes, I never was banking material. And did I mention the zebra stilettos, the orange clogs or the red platforms with flowers on the toes… you get the idea. An ex-colleague has fangs on her favorite shoes. I wonder if it’s quite her dream job either 🙂
    Anyway, so here I am in the hallway. Most days I’m comfortably walking towards my dream of becoming a writer. Except yesterday, suddenly I had a mini meltdown, tears and tears. I gave up and went to the movies with half a block of chocolate. Walking back home again I realised I was panicking because it’s working. That part time job I wanted – got it, within a few weeks. It was advertised as an ongoing position. I only want it for a few months, I thought. They offered me a short-term contract. The HR guy was confused about why. Perfect, I said.
    How scary. It’s working. I’m already a long way down the hallway, that’s what’s scary. Just breathe. Just keep focusing on the door. It’ll be the brightly colored one, purple or red, I’m guessing, maybe with something subtle like a wildly waving hand and a very big sign, “OVER HERE” 🙂 There may be people welcoming me through the door wearing very strange shoes. Hi Honey, I’m home! 🙂
    My new business adviser is called Mr Wise and days later I saw an owl in a tree, metres from my walkway (in the city). I think it’s working ok.
    I guess being in the hallway is a bit like being on a plane. You eventually arrive somewhere new and often exciting. In the meantime maybe just sit back and watch the movie 🙂 Are we there yet?
    Thanks again for all the laughs and the interesting ideas.

  • Yay for easy, Anna! And allowing surprise money in. I LOVE when that happens!
    Thanks for reading and for posting, Fe Fi Fofanna!

  • Anna says:

    Oh how I live for stuff like this!
    I liken it to hanging out long enough to realize that giving is actually receiving, receiving is giving, “sucking it up” can be letting it go… as hanging with the problem can be bringing on the solution – love it!
    Recently finding myself feeling pretty comfy in the midst of a biggie (“problem” that is, of the financial kind).
    And today, comfy cool copacetic with whatever comes about, I’m still tickled giddy about an extra $332 deposited into my account – totally unexpected, not sure why they did it but giggling happy they did!
    What’s next?
    I can hardly wait to find out!
    Still blows me away how everything in life comes down (or up) to the way we feel. About anything. And everything.
    Choosing the easy way in, out & all around!
    Anna da Mama
    , as it is more commonly perceived)

  • Glad it hit home, Angela, and I love the right timing of it, too.
    Sending good thoughts and holding good pictures for your really nice developments. 🙂

  • Jeannette,
    Perfect timing. I was feeling low today and wondering if I’m making headway with my goals or just wasting precious time. After reading your post I’m choosing to tune into the vibe of the solution. Thanks for explaining things so well.

  • I’ve never heard it quite like that, Kim (“all success feels like failure in the middle”) so I’ll be quoting YOU on that! Love it!
    Looking forward to your report back as you savor this lovely problem you’re visiting with.
    Thanks for posting, my friend! 🙂

  • Kim Falconer says:

    I LOVE this post and it is such grand timing. I am in the middle of a ‘problem’ and as we know, all success feels like failure in the middle (who said that?)
    I am so in the middle!
    AND, I know this middle ground, this dark woods on the hero’s journey, is going to be one of the most interesting and exciting to remember once on the other side of the hurdle.
    What am I ‘doing’ about it? First, there was a small pity party (no one showed up but me) and after that, a venture into despair and failure. When one of your core values is accomplishment, you have to make friends with failure, right?
    Then I went fishing with my son and grandson. (This is the occupation most cherished by my cats. I fish for them 🙂 For the first hour (surrounded by sunshine, turquoise sea, white sand, palm trees, loved ones and a spectacular coast, mind you) I could think only of how ‘failed’ my life felt. (ridiculous or what?)Then somewhere along the line, I forgot about rejection and marketing and genre blending taboos and just felt the sun and sand and sea.
    I woke up feeling a LOT more optimistic about my ‘problem’ this morning, and then here was you post!
    I will report back with how this all works out as problem turns to situation turns to opportunity turns to success! Stand by!
    And thank you, Jeannette, and everyone, for being there, (here!)!

  • It IS a totally different way of relating to a “problem,” isn’t it, Lisa? So glad you’re finding inspiration in it!

  • Lisa says:

    Love this! Since you quoted this to me last night I’ve repeated it to others at least 3 or 4 times. Sound advice indeed.

  • Janette says:

    I love this post! It’s often easy to see how good things came out of past problems, but seeing the value in the problem while we’re wading through the sticky oozy mudness of it can be tricky. For me, it’s about finding the relief wherever and however I can.
    Years ago I was sacked – painfully and in the most humiliating way possible – from a job I thought I was doing okay (in hindsight, I sucked…. but that’s another story LOL!).
    My ex-hubby, bless him, took one look at my ravaged, tear-stained face when I got off the phone, and swept me out for dinner at the most expensive restaurant he could find. He got a bottle of wine into me, during the course of which I moved rapidly through maudlin self-pity, to vengeful rage, to hilarity. Now, I am NOT recommending wine as a panacea for all things, but on that occasion it was perfect. I slept like a log, woke late the next day and felt strangely okay about the situation.
    And the day after THAT, I got a call from a contact who’d put me up for another job – which she’d not mentioned before as she thought I wasn’t available. Even the fact that my sacking was done so clumsily, in a VERY small industry where everyone knows what’s going on…. even that was part of the solution. Because that new job led to a decade of lucrative, interesting work.
    Now when the problem seems insurmountable I can look back at that. And I don’t reach for the wine bottle, but I do reach for the hilarity via whatever means necessary (including revenge fantasies if needed). Knowing that’s the path to the solution, and trusting it to work even when it feels impossible – that’s the key, I reckon.

  • Janette, I think that is a super powerful way to reframe our perspective on a current “problem” – looking back on an old one and how well it served us.
    Nice job! (And smart hubby!) 😉

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