Settle or Hold Out: When the Manifestation is Close But Not Quite
Thad’s big dream is to leave his copywriting profession behind and become a motivational speaker. Actually, to be a highly paid motivational speaker.
But right now it does just feel like a big dream, while he pays the rent by “selling his soul” (his words, not mine) writing ad copy for other professionals.
While manifesting his big dream come true, Thad (not his real name) has been sprinkled on by Universe with a variety of close calls, aka “signs of land, “good omens” or “near misses” (depending on who he talks to).
- One was when his local business networking group asked if he would speak at their next meeting on the topic of copywriting.
- Next was when his local boys & girls club asked if he would lead a meeting for new volunteers.
- When he finally got one response from over a dozen inquiries he’d sent to various groups, it was for an unpaid gig.
By now Thad was losing his sense of humor.
He started wondering whether he should hold out for the paid motivational speaking gigs he really wanted, or just try to make the best of these other options that weren’t really what he had in mind.
He’s not alone, is he? Many of us have found ourselves with a “close but not quite” manifestation.
Like when the guy we’re dating has all the right qualities except that he’s several years younger than we’d prefer. Or when the dream house we’ve been looking for is perfect except for the power station next door. Or when we said “swift natural healing” but the doctor’s recommending surgery.
Sooner or later we’re faced with the question whether to accept this “less than perfect” option or to hold out for what we really wanted.
Some believe if we “settle,” we send a signal to Universe that sabotages the true dream. Others believe it’s a sign we’re headed in the right direction, and it’s okay to babystep our way to our happy ending.
You probably already know what I think. What feels better?‘
I don’t think anyone else can tell you what’s best for you, and I believe what’s best for you is what feels best to you.
After all, you’re the only one who knows whether it feels better to give the short guy a chance or not waste your time; whether it feels better to practice motivating your colleagues about copywriting or hold to your ideal of highly paid motivational speaking; whether it feels better to put an offer on the practically perfect house or thank Universe for getting it almost right, knowing the perfect one must be around the next corner.
But I will suggest this: if it feels like you’re settling, don’t. If you can’t shift perspective so it feels empowering to accept this into your life, take a pass. Because when you send the vibration of settling, Universe will hear and respond. That’s not a habit you want to get into, right?
I also know this: when I was building my six figure practice it felt better to work than not work, even when it meant giving sample and discounted sessions. That felt like steps in the right direction, and I loved the work. While I could have seen it as a “failure” or “settling,” I chose not to. I looked at it as the ship starting to turn. Things starting to go my way. That I was on the right track and just needed to keep moving forward.
But that was me.
Someone else might have experienced it as a huge compromise shifting them completely out of the vibe that allowed a perfect manifestation.
When I was manifesting my next guy, I imagined he would have a dog. Russ showed up without a dog, but that was an easy one to shrug my shoulders about.
Turned out to be a good thing, since I already had three of my own and we moved in together a year later. Plus, I really meant dog LOVER, not dog OWNER.
On top of that, I know lots of girls happily married to short guys, and lots of guys living out dreams come true with girls who are mothers to someone else’s kids.
Does it sound like I’m making a case for compromise? I hope not! What I mean is that Universe delivers the best our vibration allows, and that sometimes stepping into that next place is what allows us to fine tune things even more, so the next manifestation gets even better.
If you can maintain your positive vibe while holding out for the very best match to your big dream, you’re golden! Don’t let anyone tell you what you should or shouldn’t be doing to get there. (Including me.)
So remember, as you’re answering this question for yourself, pay attention to what feels best to you. And if you can shift a belief or a perspective that takes you to an even better feeling place, by all means shift away!!
As always, I’d like to hear your thoughts and experiences on this!