Sneaky Self Love Test

Self Love TestConscious creators know alignment is the name of the game.

Whether you think of it as alignment to Source, or alignment to what you want, or lining up with who you really are – it’s what makes the difference.

Closing that vibrational gap is a game changer!

And we also know that the external reflects the internal.

Which is why this little test of self-love can reveal your state of alignment.

All you do is look around the room until your eye lands on something in particular, and as you’re contemplating this item, answer the question, “How is this thing like me?”

Don’t overthink it; just let your answers be uncensored and unedited – whatever comes to mind.

Note that you’re not answering this question with your conscious mind; rather you’re just making room for your subconscious to speak up.

For example, you might glance around and notice the cup holder full of pens on your desk. As you focus on it, ask yourself, “How is this like me?”

And you might hear yourself saying something like: “A colorful variety of potential. Bright, fun, ready to play.”

Or you might hear something like: “Chewed up, used up, not working right, ready to be replaced.”

Can you see how this thing you’re describing can offer insight into how you feel about yourself?

It’s kind of magic.

Again, it’s a simple test:

  1. look around for something specific to focus on.
  2. while looking at it, answer the question, “How is this like me?”
  3. don’t edit your responses!

Your answer will be a reflection of how you feel about yourself.

Let’s try another example …

Maybe you glance around and see the Scooby Doo bobblehead on your shelf.

When you ask how this thing is like you, you might hear: “Delightful, entertaining, beloved by all. A true classic.”

Or you might hear: “Outdated, past its prime, no use to anyone. Taking up space.”

I don’t know what you’ll hear, but I suspect it will clue you in on your state of alignmentΒ these days.

So if it isn’t glowing and lovely, it might time to amp up your practice of self-love.

If you need tips for that, I wrote a whole book on it.

I talk about this subject a lot because I believe it is the single most important key to successful manifesting (let alone successful living).

But a powerful self-practice can begin with something as simple as learning to treat yourself (in thought, speech and action) the way you would treat someone you love.

It doesn’t have to be complicated.

At any rate, I hope you have fun with this little alignment check. I’d love to hear your results if you care to share!

  • June 24, 2015
  • Raji says:

    Love your site ..
    I am one of the 2 friends of Pallavi πŸ˜‰
    how insightful this exercise has been.. we did it since you posted…
    and we have been able to identify a pattern in how we see ourselves..
    We will implement your suggestion..
    We feel so awesome about the universe and how we are all geared up about it

    • Anonymous says:

      And I am the third!
      Thank you for your response. The exercise is unbelievably effective in knowing how my thoughts are actually aligned.. And your response to Pallavi’s question only made it better!
      Needless to say, totally love your blog.. And I shall be forever grateful to these two friends of mine for introducing me to this blog!

      • Jeannette says:

        What a wonderfully empowering group of friends! Such a pleasure to meet all three of you.
        Thanks so much for chiming in on this one! Hope to hear more from you on other posts. πŸ™‚

  • Pallavi,
    Excellent question I too was wondering about that. I can see that it might be possible.

  • Pallavi says:

    This is a superb exercise!
    I and two of my friends have a group wherein we start each day with 1/2 things we are grateful for…
    “Grateful for how my hair look today” or “grateful that the brilliant tea this morning”etc etc.
    And now we have added this to our daily morning “wishes”.
    Some awesome discussions follow thereafter, also brilliant insights.
    Just one thought though,
    Apart from revealing the state of our alignment, can we use this exercise to in fact get ourselves aligned to what we want?
    If yes, how?

    • Jeannette says:

      I love how you think, Pallavi!
      Yes, let’s find a way to use this test to get aligned.
      What if … when I came up with a negative response, like my Scooby Doo is outdated and useless … what if I just paused right there to find a different way to see it? What if I chose a new perspective that had more love and appreciation in it? Like … Scooby Doo has brought laughter to the whole world! Scooby Doo knows how to appreciate a treat! Scooby Doo is timeless.
      And then once I’ve found those nicer thoughts maybe I could see how they also apply to me, too. ?
      I don’t know .. maybe if I got purposeful about finding a new perspective on the thing I’m looking at, and translated that to my own self as well, that might be a way?

      • Pallavi says:

        I was thinking on similar Lines Jeannette.
        I also thought of seeing it from a different person’s perspective. for example, my friend Raji invariably describes the object as ‘Hot’ in some or the other way.
        So once I am done with my exercise, I try and see how Raji (or someone else) would have seen it and described it. Even that helps throw up some very interesting ideas. Would love to know your perspective on this.
        Also, when I tried doing this, I realised that – one, it took some effort and it was not as spontaneous as it is when it is natural (obviously), and two, once I found a similarity, I had to take a few moments to indeed absorb and see the thing from the new perspective completely.
        Will try this more. I am so loving it.
        PS: Thank you so much for responding πŸ™‚
        We indeed love your blog and discuss each new post of yours.

        • Jeannette says:

          Well that’s even better – imagining how someone else might see it. Especially when that someone else is someone who loves us.
          Thanks for that tip, Pallavi! And thanks also for reading and for commenting. That’s delightful to hear. MWAH! πŸ™‚

  • Kitnye says:

    First thing I noticed was my fan and I thought “cool like me”

    • Jeannette says:

      Very nice!! πŸ™‚
      You made me look over at my fan, and my answer was “up to date, nice to look at, super functional.” lol I love this game!

  • Elle says:

    I looked directly to my kitchen counter. It catches kid art, the mail, shelf-stable items I haven’t put away – basically, everything I want or need to do something with. It made me think “very well intentioned, no focus.” So, I cleaned it and made some decisions. Thank you for this post.

  • Quilly says:

    Fabulous, Jeannette! First thing I saw was my tv and I thought, “It’s bright and brings delightful things into the world” … next was a Chinese tassle on my door, and I thought, “it’s simply beautiful!” Nice reinforcement for Big Happy Thoughts!

  • C. says:

    Looking at the clutter in my room made me feel like an utter confused mess that just can’t get it right.
    No wonder my thinking process has been a mess lately.
    Jeez, no wonder my manifestations skills have been a mess lately.
    This is an awesome and very revealing exercise one can do for themselves.
    Thanks Jeannette!

  • Cassie says:

    You’re awesome. Played with my salt lamp…purifying, making things clearer, enhancing the experience.

  • Cristina says:

    Jeannette, you know I got a kitty lately because it’s been all over my FB page… Well, when I looked around for something, I saw my little fur ball curled up next to me and I thought, how am I like her? Well, I’m affectionate, I like to play, I’m curious and I have a lot of love to give. And it made me see something that I actually started noticing a few weeks ago – having this beautiful little creature with me now (my first pet!) has really taught me how to be kinder and gentler with myself and love myself more. I’ve had my cat for 3 weeks, she’s soooo spoiled and I shower her with love and affection. I’m always telling her how happy I am to have her, how special she is to me, how sweet she is and also, since she was a very timid, skiddiksh stray until we met – I always reassure her that she is safe and loved and doesn’t have to hide and she’s become so much more trusting and playful. And, in a lot of ways, I was a stray too as a kid – so I can relate to her – and when I reassure her, I think I’m also kind of reassuring myself that everything is ok, that I’m safe and that I’m loved. Having her really has made me infinitely happier – and it’s also helped change my own internal voice towards myself…

    • Carol says:

      Love thinking of you with your kitty and all that she is already bringing out in you. Here’s to many, many love and joy-filled years. Thanks for reminding me again of all the pleasure my kitty brought and the huge place she made in my heart.

    • Jeannette says:

      Oh my gosh, you’re making me cry, Cristina. I love the love you’re flowing – to kitty and your Self. πŸ™‚

  • Beth says:

    All I can say is practice, practice, practice! The Law of Attraction will meet your self-love efforts and it will get easier and easier to find your way there. I am a true example of finding my way out of that dark place of self-hatred. I used to look around my house and my life and I didn’t see ANYTHING I LOVED (except my kids of course, but I felt like I was failing them at the time, so even looking at them made me feel worse about me!)
    The funny thing is, I look around now and almost nothing has changed, BUT EVERYTHING has changed because my PERCEPTION changed.
    And of course, Jeannette’s Self-Love book really helped me a lot, I highly recommend it! That and Louise Hay’s “You Can Heal Your Life”. Those are my two best references for boosting self-love.

    • Jeannette says:

      Wow! What a testimony you are to the practice, Beth! Thanks for sharing that!

      • Beth says:

        When I woke up this morning I let myself dream about improvements to my house, which has been a source of frustration for awhile because for the last ten years I would get my hopes up and then get disappointed, so I had stopped dreaming for awhile and I had started to accept how it is. So I thought about the house and what came up is “needs improvement, not good enough yet, not worth enough yet.” WOW!
        What a horrible thing to say about myself! And what a great way to uncover that insight! I had to stop and really ask myself, do I REALLY think I’m not worth enough yet? Jeez, who let that negative Nelly chime in anyway?!
        I was able to stop and say “screw the damn ‘improvements'”, it’s good enough and worth enough exactly the way it is! And so am I!
        I love this self-love test!

  • Namaste says:

    Super smart test Jeannette =) Just tested it on a number of items and received valuable feedback. Thank you.

  • Beth says:

    I LOVE this! It might be my favorite new game! I am so glad I read this while I was in alignment, haha. I looked around my kitchen and my eyes stopped on my Kitchenaid mixer. I saw “flashy, attractive, cooks up a storm, LOTS of people want one, it’s a sign of wealth, it makes the kitchen look good and it’s extremely useful and multitalented! Wow! I rock! Thanks Jeanette!

    • Jeannette says:

      Ha ha, Beth – I LOVE that! (“cooks up a storm, everyone wants one”) – you are so rockin’ the self love vibe!!
      If you’ve any tips to share with others as to how you got there, please do. πŸ™‚

  • Karen says:

    I looked at the candles burning across the room and my first thought was “bright and beautiful.” It’s all good here.

  • For a brief moment I heard outdated! Since my pacemaker incident last Thursday I began to feel that way, so thanks for the insight and I will definitely keep this thought pattern out of my habits.

    • Jeannette says:

      Dr. Ian, I like how you label it the “pacemaker incident” rather than something else more dramatic. Here’s to more empowering thought habits. πŸ™‚

      • Indeed! I’ll drink to that, May all of us be three days in heaven before we even know we’re dead.
        I think if we all manifest correctly perhaps the whole world can find itself in heaven on earth through the power of manifestation.
        I sense a darkness always comes just before a Golden Age. That’s what makes them so Golden.

  • anonymous says:

    This is an insightful test. I see I really need to work on self love, but it feels really difficult and invokes a lot of guilt and feelings of being punished and powerless.
    I often beat up on myself for being lazy, not taking enough action and more physical control to change my life, hating how I look, and even for just not feeling great all the time. I feel like I hate myself a lot, but those feelings cease to excist when I am doing things I enjoy (listen to music I like, eating good food, enjoying the beauty of nature, relaxing, looking at beautiful photographs, etc.) Sometimes I feel guilty though for doing these things because I feel like I need to be doing more to improve the circumstances of my life.

    • Jeannette says:

      anonymous, in Slacker Manifesting we consider laziness a virtue. πŸ™‚
      The good news is, regarding your not so loving habits, is that habits can be changed! Even a little effort can make a big difference in your vibe, so I hope you’ll start dropping the guilt and start appreciating yourself soon – even if you start small.

      • anonymous says:

        Thanks for your reply Jeannette, I’m trying to change my self talk and just be easier on myself. The idea of letting go, just relaxing and dropping all the stress and pressure, feels so good.

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