4 Ways To Stick To Your Story

Conscious creators know reality arises from our focus. What we think about and speak about and feel is how we bring it into existence.

We are literally observing, speaking, and feeling thoughts into things.

(How freakin’ cool are we?!)

That’s why it’s helpful for us to know how to stick to the story of what we want before it’s real.

Some folks find affirmations challenging to use because they don’t feel comfortable saying something that isn’t so. This post is not for those readers.

This is for the hard core creators who are willing to say what’s not real until it is. We aren’t going to let a little reality get in the way of what we want. We don’t throw in the towel when Universe doesn’t instantly grant our version of the story.

We know how to play with the buffer of time. We know what it takes to create something new. Especially when it’s big and different than what came before.

It’s all part of the fun!

We don’t get stopped by a 3D reality that seemingly contradicts our desires. We know how to bend reality to our will. It’s just a matter of sticking to the story.

Here are four tips to do exactly that when conviction wavers:

1. Find an inspiring mentor.

The best ones are usually between the ages of 4 and 6.

Notice how they are not swayed by outside disbelievers or by what’s “true.” They make up their own rules, and they know how to have fun with it. Learn from the best by observing and emulating an imaginative toddler and you’ll have an exceptional mentor for sticking to the story.

2. Remember that you’re the creator here.

You’re not the reporter. You’re the creator. It’s not your job to regurgitate “what is.” It’s your opportunity to create what you like.

Whatever you say goes. And that means that in order to create something new, you have to say what isn’t until it is. It’s just how it works. Speaking it or seeing it – before there’s evidence of it – is how the system is set up. Use as intended.

3. Relax what you know.

You’ve been wrong about something before, right? Your friend’s car isn’t actually black; turns out it’s a really dark blue. All this time you thought it was black. Wrong.

You can use past mistakenesses (see, I just made that word up – that’s how flexible and loose we can be) to your advantage when it comes to sticking to your story …

When you’re speaking something into reality, it could be just like that other time you were wrong. You might think you’re saying something that isn’t true yet, but how do you know?

Maybe it is “real” and you just haven’t heard about it yet. Maybe. You’ve been wrong before, after all. Leverage it.

4. Practice.

The more you play with this skill, the better you get.

It might be uncomfortable at first, but when you remember that this is you exerting your creative power (not you losing your mind, not you setting yourself up for ridicule – or failure or disappointment) … this is you flexing your manifesting muscle. This is what you were made for.

Here’s a time I stuck to a big story:

Over ten years ago I was creating a thriving coaching practice out of nothing but a strong desire and wild imagination. Starting from scratch with nothing but a big dream.

When the prospect emails weren’t there, and the client voice mails didn’t exist, and the calendar didn’t have any sessions booked – all this reality trying to tell me it’s not happening.

But I was undeterred. Because I know how this works. Universe has to make me right whatever I’m willing to repeatedly say and feel.

And this story is worth sticking to, because I really like it.

So I would dismiss the empty calendar and empty voice mail and empty inbox with a wave of my hand. As if it were an ex-boyfriend I had long since stopped trusting. “Whatever. I don’t know what you’re talking about. I’m a brilliant coach in high demand.”

Because I said so.

That’s how to stick to the story even when reality doesn’t agree.

Even when the body doesn’t feel good and even when the accountant thinks it’s bad news and even when the lover behaves like a jerk. Learn how to focus on what you prefer over what you don’t.

When you get good at this, reality will bend to what you say is so. All you have to do is be more committed to your dream than to your present reality.

Use your power wisely and stick to your favorite story. You’ll be happy you did. 🙂

  • March 21, 2016
  • shameen says:

    i have a question..I am trying to be a conscious creator, but I do (in a way) let reality in.
    Most of the times I am happy, I try to create the situation I desire, but then I go back to he real situation in my imagination.
    Let me attempt to explain. I imagine that I am talking to the person I am having the situation with, I tell them I think they dislike me. Still in my imagination,the person says it’s not true, hugs and comforts me and i feel better.
    Is is wrong to being in that place of sadness if it eventually takes me to a place of comfort. Is this part of being a conscious creator or not?

  • Sarah Prescott says:

    Love this post! I printed it out and have it next to my bed to read before sleeping and when I awaken. I put in my own business of dog training into the sentences when I read it. I love toddler teachers! The photo you have is so perfect, it cracked me up! Thank you!

  • Jiya says:

    2 intentions i had this week – 1. to easily deal with or turn around my feelings about my 2+ daughter. I had started losing cool sometimes and I was feeling bad. But i couldn’t stop getting hyper. Your first point helped me with that.
    2. I had some resistance towards my biggest desire of the moment. and your post helped me with that.
    Thank you so much.

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  • Donna says:

    Wonderfully awesome post today!! I love this!
    Thank you for sharing your Sparkles with us!

  • Mindy J says:

    Oooh loving this post!!
    I’ve always loved kids ages 3-6!!! They are a trip!!
    We have two grandaughters who are within that range. One being an Aries and very precocious, active, verbal, animated and fun!!! The other quiet, sensitive, loving and compassionate. Great spiritual teachers for sure!!
    Think it’s time for another sleep over with a new perspective on being mentored!!!
    What a fun post! Thanks Jeannette!

  • Sandi/ LV says:

    Such a great post, the innocence and truthfulness of children like Wayne D I often ask my young grandchildren about heaven and get wonderful responses

  • Quilly says:

    Absolutely PERFECT vibe for today (1 Aries): “I SAID so, so there!”

  • Sage says:

    1000 times yes! Excellent post Jeannette. Everything we think/feel/experience is 100% negotiable. And it can all be changed with consistent focus. That’s it.
    Anything that helps you focus more positively whether it be crystals, vision boards, affirmations, feng shui, acting as if, pray rain journaling, or cat videos is worthwhile. But focus is the whole shebang.
    I’ve been mostly focusing on shifting a lot of my social beliefs for the past two months, releasing my judgments, sense of conflict, and people-pleasing. I had no idea how effective this was until I went to my first art event of the year this weekend.
    I received so much love. Strangers offered me random hugs. People tried to give me more money than what I was charging for my work on multiple occasions. I was called enchanting three times. One customer even offered to let me stay with her if I ever visited her country.
    It was awesome. And it happened because whenever I felt or thought something negative I focused on the opposite, usually using affirmations because they are easy. Every single time you think a positive thought it shifts your energy, even if that shift seems almost imperceptible in that moment. A giant airplane can completely change destination by shifting a few degrees. And so can we. It really is that simple.

    • Jeannette says:

      Wow, that is so cool, Sage!! Way to put the principles into practice.
      Love the reminder that it only takes a small shift in mindset/thought in order to create big results.
      Thanks for sharing that here! 🙂

    • Tee says:

      I love what you’ve written here Sage, that it’s ALL negotiable! Im still at a point where whatever is in front of me still has the capacity to upset me.
      It’s almost as though it’s set in stone.
      Example, my fiancé mentioned that he was looking into a house for us. I asked him where this house was. He told me & I got upset. I kept my emotions to myself but it was as if he said we’d be living there forever, starting right now!
      I didn’t like the area, it was just a big NO.
      Then once I said to myself that I /we didn’t *have* to live there, nothing is set in stone, etc….my spirit felt a little lighter.
      I need to practice this more, I find myself being so frustrated by *reality* because I’m not seeing what I want & it feels soooooo slooooowwww. :/

  • Amanda says:

    This being wrong before has really been showing up for me in spades! Found pillows I accused my housesitter’s friend of taking (nine years ago!)among so many other experiences, that I am now thoroughly convinced I just don’t know anything for certain (like I always thought I did:-) Pretty interesting ride – and perfect for easing up on feeling like I need to “stay” close to what appears to be a current reality!

    • Jeannette says:

      Amanda, that can be such a powerful perspective! To be open to “not knowing”! Way to loosen your grip on reality and allow new things to reveal themselves to you. 🙂

  • Leslie says:

    Excellent! Thanks, as always!

  • Oooooh Jeannette!!! “I’m the Creator, NOT the reporter.” Good stuff!!!

    • Angel says:

      I agree, it’s what leapt out at me too! I think there’s also this tendency that when people ask us how we are or what’s happening, we go into reportage mode…I think that has the effect of dragging us back as we’re going through the process of accepting what is and moving on to our new versions.

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