About 15 years ago I had my first intro to conscious creation, compliments of a book by Adrian Calabrese I read by “accident.”
Countless books, seminars, coaches, and LOA experiments later, it’s safe to say I’ve been around the manifesting block a time or two.
Knowing what I know now, here are five clues I would give myself in those early days:
1. Don’t freak out.
Yes, you are changing reality with your thoughts. Don’t trip out too hard and let yourself get paralyzed by that info. It’s gonna be fine.
This is no time to start worrying about every little negative thought you have or wondering if you’re the reason all that bad stuff happened.
Chill out, start with where you’re at and you’ll get the hang of it soon enough.
2. Keep it to yourself.
Just because you’re excited about this stuff doesn’t mean everyone else is, too. Don’t let them spoil your good time. Keep playing, and your like-minded friends will be along soon enough.
(They’re worth the wait!)
Also, it’s not a bad idea to keep your big dream to yourself until it’s got enough momentum to carry you through. Because other people aren’t necessarily going to get that, either.
3. It might not make sense.
When inspiration speaks, you might not understand how it plays into the bigger picture. That’s okay. Trust it anyway.
Don’t expect logical or rational impulses. They don’t always – or even often – work that way.
4. Don’t look too hard for results.
I know you want to prove this stuff really works (and that you know how to work it), but if you get all wound up about getting results, that doesn’t actually help.
Relax a little on the scorekeeping, and celebrate the wins as they come. You’ll find lots more of them unfolding that way.
5. Remember the point.
Learning to manipulate reality so you can feel better is still sort of bass ackwards.
The point is just to feel better. Period.
Reality follows nicely when you just decide to get happy and feel good. It really is that simple.
How about you? You’re a savvy creator who’s likely learned a few things you’d like to pass along to shorten someone else’s learning curve.
What advice would you give your beginning manifesting self?
We’d love to hear it!
Some words of wisdom are worth ignoring.
Hopefully we spot those words before we learn the hard way that some advice is best ignored.
Once we understand the role of energy and the power of attraction, we realize much traditional life advice just doesn’t make sense.
Here are a few life tips I might have been better off skipping:
1. Don’t go to bed mad
Talking when you’re mad may not be the best idea for every occasion, I have learned.
Sometimes a good night’s sleep is the perfect answer for managing present moment conflict. Many times all I needed was a nice dip back into non-resistant sleep to get my vibrational footing again. It often allowed me access to a new perspective and a new vibe!
In fact, maybe the better advice is to immediately go to bed once you get mad. ha!
2. Don’t do yourself what you can pay someone else to do for less (than what you make)
This advice is intended to free us up to do bigger and better things, like focus on the 20% of our activities that bring in 80% of our revenue. (We’ve all been taught about the 80/20 rule, right?)
But what I learned through trying this one on is that it’s not all about the money.
Rather, it’s about the enjoyment.
If I enjoy mowing my lawn (which I do), I’m crazy to let someone else do it for me. If I enjoy walking my dogs, it’s asinine to hire a dogwalker. If I like vacuuming the carpets, even though I’d pay someone else a fraction of my hourly rate to do it, I’m better off experiencing that enjoyment myself, even if it doesn’t make financial sense to the rest of the world.
Because we know that when we do what we enjoy, good things come.
So mowing and cleaning and dog walking and yes, even some reality TV, are part of my daily to-do’s even though the experts tell me otherwise. I’ll outsource it only if I can’t think of a better way to enjoy myself.
Just because you can make more money doing your thing and pay someone else to wash the car or watch the kids or edit the articles, doesn’t mean you should. Pay attention to the enjoyment factor. After all, what else is the point of life?
3. Mr. Perfect doesn’t exist
When I told dad that my on-again, off-again boyfriend had proposed but I wasn’t jumping up and down with absolute joy, he said: “If you’re waiting for a saint, you can stop waiting.” The implication was that this was as good as it gets.
Dad sure liked that guy. (Still does!) Probably the only guy (besides Rick Kreifeldt) he ever has liked. (And for the record, I didn’t get to date Rick; he was my college boyfriend’s roommate.)
Anyway, that piece of advice from dad led me to marriage. We all know how that turned out.
With the benefit of hindsight, I like this advice better: “If it’s not a hell yes, it’s a hell no.”
Settling just seems like we’re giving up, once we know that we really can have whatever we want. (And if you don’t know that by now, you haven’t studied up properly on the power of deliberate creation.)
There’s lots more typical advice out there that can lead us astray from our best life, but these are just the particular tips I went down the bumpy road with.
Would it defeat the point of this post to solicit your best tips for advice to ignore? ha
We’d like to hear them just the same!
PS – this post is titled with the past tense of “regret” because I don’t really regret these “wrong turns,” since I don’t actually believe in “wrong turns.” But I find no need to repeat these steps, if you know what I mean.
Looking forward to hearing yours!