Have you ever had one of those emails where every time you see the subject line your vibe takes a plunge?
Like an email from your a sweetheart asking, “Can we talk?” or an email from a client that reads, “Time to make a change.”
Or something from a creditor about a payment due or a mass email from work about internal changes to your department.
Those are the sorts of subject lines that can inspire dread in even the most conscious creator’s heart.
I bet you’ve had those exchanges with someone via email, too, where you had to change the subject line because it made you cringe inside every time you saw it. (I get my share of “Help!” or “I don’t know what to do” messages that are worth editing.)
We’re smart to manage those subject lines (by filing or changing them) so we don’t continue to trigger bad vibes.
There are also those times when we get a message that we love so much we keep it front and center to continue enjoying it, right?
For those of us who spend a lot of time with email, this is an easy place to play with managing our vibe …
Here’s a sneaky way to make your inbox work for you …
Send yourself a message, maybe even from a different email account, with a subject line that makes your heart soar.
And don’t open it, so the subject stays highlighted in your inbox.
Every time your brain scans your inbox, it’ll register the one designed to delight you and boost your vibe.
It’s subtle, but it works.
You can create specific subject lines that address whatever good news you’d love to hear, but these generic ones can boost anyone’s vibe:
Sprinkle a couple of those in your inbox now and again and you’ll see what I mean about how it makes you smile even though it’s made up.
Or better yet, conspire with an LOA savvy friend to give each other pleasant inbox surprises.
(You don’t have an LOA savvy friend? There’s an email subject line for that: “from your bestie!”)
It works even better when you customize a message to specific dreams and desires:
And if your inbox gives you a preview of the message itself, add a sentence or two that reinforces the good vibes you’re conjuring.
Please don’t take my word for it.
Plant a vibrational treat in your inbox today and let the good vibes roll. 🙂
This is the story of my accidental scripting manifestation – from yesterday. Not years ago; not back before I knew better. From yesterday. (smh)
You know I’m a big fan of scripting what we want into being. I know how well it works to speak what we want until it becomes so.
I practice it just about every morning in the form of an out loud “I am” statement.
I freakin’ wrote the book on pray rain journaling.
I know this stuff.
And yet, listen to what I created without even realizing it …
It all started when I lost a bet to a friend.
The pay-up was that I would talk to him the way I talk to my dogs.
Silly, ridiculous, but also easy because I talk to my dogs in a very specific and practiced way every day.
That way is with LOVE. Lots and lots of love and adoration and appreciation.
I mean, a love that can’t be measured. Off the charts love.
So much love that it makes people roll their eyes. (Fellow dog owners know what I’m talking about. It’s the universal language of people who have dogs in the family.)
Okay, so I had to talk to him in that manner for the rest of the day.
And I did.
I was good at it. I didn’t hold back. (He pays up proper when he loses; I was going to do the same.)
And get this – by the end of the day I was feeling exponential love. For him. Not just for my dogs who inspire that speech, but for the guy that I spoke to that way for hours.
This is not a guy I was trying to drum up extra feelings for. This is not someone I had designs on turning into a love interest. I hadn’t set any intentions for activating a love relationship.
And yet there it was happening.
Because of how I was speaking to him.
With earnest love and strong emotion.
Honestly, you’d think I’d know better.
I found myself entertaining thoughts of how I could get more time with this guy. How could I let him know how much I appreciated him? And how in the world did he get to be such a cool guy?
You know how he got to be so cool? I spoke him that way.
I spoke my love for him into being.
When I realized what was happening, I said, “This might make a good post.” Which made us both laugh.
But my point here really is this:
Your speech is powerful. Use it wisely.
It doesn’t matter if you don’t even consciously want it.
(Says everyone who ever got sick after calling in a sick day.)
And it doesn’t take long – especially when you have strong emotion in your words.
Remember Mike Dooley’s “It’s a good thing I’m rich!” whenever he opened a big bill he didn’t know how to pay? And Sekou Andrews’ “I am awesome!” anthem?
The words you speak will alter the reality that forms around you.
But if you want it to last, you’ve got to keep speaking it.
My pretend script got real results in short order – but if I didn’t keep it up, the new results would wither as the words did.
Which just proves yet again that we become what we practice, so let’s practice what we prefer. Without attachment, without need, just for fun because we can.
Because we’re cool like that. 🙂
Whenever I ask a client how they’ll feel when their big desire manifests, often they say “excited!”
They’ll be so excited when their true love says, “I do”!
Or when their big fortune rolls in, or their business is thriving, or they’re rocking that bikini body … they’ll be so excited!
It seems like that, doesn’t it?
Except you won’t be.
You won’t be nearly as excited as you think.
Here’s why, and why it’s worth knowing how you’ll really feel when your big dream unfolds …
In fact, I already know how you’ll feel when your favorite desire manifests.
Am I psychic? No.
I just know how the system works.
The way you’ll feel then is the way you’ve been feeling all along.
Because law of attraction.
We can only get what we’ve been vibrating.
If you’ve been dialed on mild contentment lately, that’s likely how you’ll feel when you get the big job.
If you’ve been feeling frustration on a dominant basis, guess what? You’ll find a way to even be frustrated even after you’re partnered with your dream lover.
(I swear to you this is truth!)
I know it doesn’t seem like you could be anything other than bouncing-off-the-walls excited when that supercool thing happens!
But those things out there don’t change how we feel in here.
Rather, our feelings in here change things out there.
Our vibration creates our reality.
I’ve got a personal example for you …
Those last years I worked in corporate world were pretty stressful for me. I won’t elaborate, but anyone who’s been in corporate probably doesn’t need me to.
So, “stressed” was what I’d been vibrating in a dominant way for quite a while.
I was stressed on that job. I was stressed thinking about quitting that job. I was stressed when I was unemployed and building my own gig. I was stressed even after that gig was up and running.
(So many people wanting to work with me, not making time for self care, secretly wondering whether this could continue, figuring out how to even run a business, etc.)
Stressed. Through and through.
It’s what I did, it’s what I knew, it’s who I was.
So even when I got what I wanted (just out of sheer commitment to instructing Universe that “clients” filled my world), stressed is how it felt because stressed is what I’d been practicing for so long.
Even my successful thriving business couldn’t change my dominant vibration.
Only I can change my dominant vibration.
Conscious creators know this.
Muggles try to change life circumstances so they can then be happy. But conscious creators know it starts here within us. Everything “out there” just reflects what’s “in here.”
And we know that once we find our way to feeling what we prefer to feel, the external morphs to match those feelings.
I got a little sidetracked, but stick with me …
This is why the key to successful manifesting, as Abraham says, is simply to “get happy now.”
Because the only reason we want anything is because of how we think we’ll feel when we have it. That feeling is usually some sort of happy, or relieved, or satisfied, or something along those lines.
That’s why it’s helpful to know how we’ll feel when we have what we want … so we can practice that vibration now.
That’s how we create alignment to what we want, and that’s what requires our desires to manifest.
Which is why I ask every client, “How will you feel when your big desire has come true?”
And they say, “Excited.”
Except you won’t be.
Because by the time it manifests, you’ll have been expecting it.
That’s the only way it can manifest – through your expectation of it.
And when we expect something, excited isn’t usually how we respond.
Happy, yes. Delighted, sure! Satisfied, in spades.
It might be content, proud, relieved, successful – all sorts of good things we’ll likely feel.
But excited is for things we weren’t expecting. It’s for surprises and “didn’t-see-that-coming” sort of things.
If you didn’t see it coming, it can’t manifest.
When you do see it coming, you aren’t surprised by it. You were expecting it.
So the more aligned vibration to practice is perhaps something more like believing, expecting, happy, satisfied, etc.
I’m just saying that when you think now about your big dream come true, and you think you’ll be excited – it might reveal how far away from it you are vibrationally.
Because you won’t be excited by the time it gets here in its full glory.
You’ll see it coming long before it arrives. You’ll have reasons to believe in it. It will seem sort of obvious and ‘of course’-like.
And we don’t get excited about the “of course” things in life.
We acclimate to our desires.
That’s how they manifest. We align to them.
When Meryl Streep wins another Oscar, do you think she’s excited?
Maybe happy, and appreciative, and rewarded.
But I bet not that excited.
Because that’s what Meryl Streep does. She wins Oscars.
Can you see how imagining that you’ll be so excited when your big thing happens might even keep you from it?
I don’t mean to be a killjoy, and I have nothing against excitement!
(I felt it the other day when I drove a boat on the lake for the first time! I felt it when I said yes to a new rescue dog last month!)
But I am saying that getting up to speed with what we want likely means practicing a different vibration than “excited.”
You’re going to want to dig deeper into what it will feel like when you’ve gotten used to the idea of having won that lottery, or married that prince, or dropped those pounds, or accepted that dream job.
How will it feel when you’ve been living it for a month, or a year, or a decade?
It won’t be excited. It’ll be normal. It could still be delightful and amazing and wonderful!
But excitement is usually overrated for our visualizations.
Because when you really truly believe your big dream is happening, you feel confident and worthy and content. Or something like that. I don’t know for sure what your exact feeling will be.
But I’d like YOU to know. I’d like you to know how you’ll feel when you’re living your dream come true.
And practice that feeling now.
Because nothing else will make you a better match for receiving it.
I’m a huge fan of not taking things too seriously.
“Serious” isn’t usually a vibe that delivers me delightful things.
And anyyone who’s read Slacker Manifesting knows I’m a proponent of not trying too hard.
Sometimes giving up is exactly what calls in the big magic!
Case in point: the other day a coach texted a note of encouragement for a big project on my plate. “You can do it!” she enthused …
When in fact I was trying not to do it. I could feel myself slipping into “anxious obsessing overworking it” territory, and knew that carefree, easy and light was the way to go on that one.
Letting go is often the best way to allow the dream to unfold.
But there are other times when the way to alignment calls for a more militant approach.
Like when gremlins are out of control and having their way with me, sometimes I have to get my Alpha on and put a stop to that once and for all.
That’s when I lay down the rules about what I’m allowed to think and what is 100% absolutely off limits.
The same way you promise yourself you’re not going to even consider sleeping with that guy again. You’re done!
Or how you’re never ever going to let the stylist talk you into something “just for a change” again. Lesson learned!
It reminds me how I had to get serious with myself when I quit my job to start a coaching practice, with no clients in sight.
My auto-loop thoughts went like this: “Uh oh. This isn’t going to work. You’re going to have to get a job.”
Those thoughts are simply unacceptable for a girl who doesn’t want a job.
Because that is not an instruction that gives Universe any room to deliver me what I want.
So I got strict with myself, and every time I felt that loop starting to play again, I’d put a stop to it: “No. That’s not what I’m creating.” (Spoken in a voice that means business.) “What I’m creating is ‘I’m a brilliant coach in high demand.'”
No wiggle room.
No ifs ands or buts.
Here’s how it is for me.
And then I give Universe a strong sentence or two as confidently and authoritarian as I can conjure.
Because some things are simply not optional.
(It helps if you’ve had an unruly dog or child or hubby so you’ve had good practice at your “I mean it” voice.)
If you’ve got a little somethin’ somethin’ you’re working on that isn’t coming to fruition the way you’d like, maybe it’s time to rein those gremlin thoughts in like a boss. Say what you want like you mean it, eliminating any room for other options.
It’s not the approach I use all the time, but every once in a while, it does the trick.
“What are you doing for your part?”
That’s one of the first questions I ask when someone says they’re not manifesting what they want.
For your part of this process, what are you doing?
It may not sound like an LOA friendly question, but I mean it in terms of what are you doing to manage your focus? To enhance your alignment?
Because our part of the manifesting process is to get dialed on the frequency of what we want. To become a vibrational match to our desire. That’s all we gotta do.
Once we do that, things start happening by themselves …
… or something along those lines – that’s the fairies of the Universe doing their part.
But we gotta do our part. Which is to get lined up.
So what are you doing to facilitate that?
You’d be surprised how many LOA savvy folks know how the system works, and plug into the material in some form or fashion, but don’t do anything to manage their focus. Sometimes it’s that there’s something kinking the alignment despite our best focusing efforts, but often it’s that there isn’t a real commitment to align the vibe.
Everything I publish – newsletters, blog posts, GVU calls, interviews – are designed to inspire you to discover your best way to alignment.
But if you’re not engaging any of them, know that’s your first step.
Tend to your focus. Your alignment.
Once you’re doing that, I know from lots of client (and personal) experience that instead of reading these emails you’ll start writing me instead – to share your satisfying successes.
How am I walking my talk? (I just wrote my LOA coaches reminding them to practice what they preach, so this has been on my mind.)
What I’m doing lately to make my (upgraded income) dream come true is playing with the grid and acting as if.
And also turning real life “reality” cues into prompts of success. So instead of the numbers confirming more of “what is,” they’re mentally altered to become a reflection of my new financial status.
It’s pretty fun.
You can hardly call it “work”!
But to whatever extent it’s an “effort” to switch your focus in order to manage your vibration, that’s what your job is. That’s the work of manifesting.
In fact, I ran across this Abraham quote today along these same lines:
Law of Attraction does not focus you, Law of Attraction responds to your focus. It’s up to you to focus. It’s up to you to focus. It’s up to you to decide. It’s up to you to be determined. It’s up to you to make
decisions. It’s up to you. It’s up to you to focus yourself into the alignment with who you are.
Now we are not trying to talk you into being more than you are, we are wanting you to get up to speed with who you are. – Abraham, March 2011
It’s one thing to know the ins and outs of how the Universe works. It’s another to work it.
So, what are you doing to tend to your alignment? I’d love to hear your habits and processes below …