This year a new friend and I agreed on a spending limit for presents we get each other.
Mostly because it seemed a good way to avoid the potential awkwardness of him opening a package of hot chocolate mix with two mugs while I was opening a box with a sapphire necklace.
So we’ve got a modest spending limit in place for each other.
And that limit feels like fun!
It doesn’t feel restrictive or “limiting.”
I’m not grumbling about how I can’t get a proper present with my hands tied like this. I’m not mad at the events that led to this circumstance. I’m not doing the woe-is-me routine that I can’t be expected to find a good gift for that amount.
Instead, I’m excited about the challenge of finding the best possible present for that hundred bucks.
I’m delighting in the thought of how I might extract the most joy out of this “limit.”
In fact, I’m having so much fun with it, that it inspired me to apply this in other areas as well. Meaning, finding ways to extract more joy out of life situations that might seem “limiting,” like
If I looked at it as a fun challenge to figure out how to get the most joy and happiness out of the current situation, rather than just manifesting a new and improved situation in order to have more joy, that approach feels like it’s got some magic in it.
What if your circumstances in life were never going to change? Could you find a way to enjoy what is, rather than investing attention in changing what is?
I had a friend who struggled for years to find love. She’d never experienced a loving, healthy relationship in her life, and was desperate to have one.
It seemed to me her resistance to being single was what held love at bay, so I suggested that perhaps she might never find true love, and so maybe she better find a way to love life anyway. Since nothing else had worked.
She liked that idea so much she unfriended me.
But then wrote a year or so later to say that after a couple more failed attempts at finding love, she decided maybe I had been right, and maybe she better figure out how to enjoy life without a man.
And she did. She found a local meetup group to go on outdoor hikes with. She joined a reading club. She got serious about enjoying her career more.
And you know how this ends – she found love. Or rather, love found her. Once she decided she didn’t need it to be happy, and started getting happy in her right-here-right-now life. Love found her.
That’s law of attraction at work. It responds to our vibration; giving us more of what we’ve already got.
So when you decide what you’ve got is fabulous and amazing, when you learn how to find the joy in what’s already so, you set yourself up for a really nice upgrade. Without trying, without working for it, without figuring it out yourself.
Life just keeps getting better.
So here’s to enjoying whatever limits we might have thought were spoiling the party. 🙂
appreciating what is
focusing on what’s next.
We’re told to learn stronger focusing skills, so that we’re looking less at our physical reality and more at what’s in our vortex (vibrational reality).
We’re encouraged to visualize the end result regularly, pivot when we’re thinking contrary thoughts, and to develop a strong familiarity with our “dream come true.”
At the same time we’re told that resisting our current reality is a perfect way to stay stuck in it. So making peace with it, or better yet – learning to appreciate current reality – is a key component of vibrational alignment.
Someone asked me the other day if those weren’t contradictory instructions.
It can sure seem that way sometimes, huh?!
I’ve felt it myself – when it seems like I’ve spent an inordinate amount of time loving my life just as is, that I start to feel a little irresponsible in not giving more attention to the big “vision.”
I can also sense that focusing exclusively on how fabulous life will be when that vision unfolds shortchanges my enjoyment of all the wonderful things in life right now.
But it doesn’t have to be that way.
Rather than seeing it as a paradox, I see it as a dance:
A dance between loving life now and looking forward to what’s next.
Abraham describes it as “satisfied with what is and eager for more.”
I know from personal experience that practicing even one of these manifesting principles results in more good things. But when we can embrace both – that’s powerful alignment!
Do you have any tips to share about how to love what is while still keeping an eye towards what’s next?
We’d love to hear them!
Appreciation is right at the top of the vibrational scale along with love, joy, freedom and empowerment. Which makes it one of the best vibrations for creating alignment to what you want.
And we know alignment is the name of the manifesting game!
So it seems worth focusing on how to develop our appreciation skills as deliberate creators. Here are tips for becoming a professional appreciator, but I’d love to hear yours as well in the comments.
Everything works out best when you start it with a deliberate intention, and this gig is no different. Simply holding in mind your desire to become a powerful appreciator will grease the wheels for an easier journey to it.
Commit to it.
A key step to becoming a powerful appreciator is to stick with it. Once you decide this is who you want to be, create a commitment to achieve it. Even though you may not know exactly how or when you’ll get there, your commitment to create a focus on thankfulness will serve you well.
Make a plan for it.
You’ll be more successful at building your appreciation muscle if you have a specific plan for how to engage it. It doesn’t have to be a big deal or a complex plan, but specificity supports success. Even just naming five things you’re grateful for as you drift off to sleep can make all the difference.
Keep a happiness journal.
Make regular entries in a written journal to create a strong focus on what brings you joy. It helps if you’re not obsessive about doing it every day without fail, but rather just making a gentle, relaxed commitment to posting regularly. (I do mine publicly in the GVU forum.)
Hang out with other appreciators.
Energy is contagious, so by spending time with people who are natural appreciators rather than complainers sets you up for success. At the minimum, limit your exposure to those who have tendencies toward pessimism and negativity.
Study the experts.
When I hit a bit of a rough patch in life, dad insisted I read a copy of Pollyanna. She literally changed my life. Pollyanna is an appreciator to the extreme, and can’t help but rub off when you study her! Some have that same experience of Eckhart Tolle. (If you’ve got a particularly helpful appreciation model, please share with us in the comments!)
Get a dog. Or a cat. (Or whatever else you might love.)
Set yourself up for easy, and fill your life with the things that are easy to love and appreciate. For me, that’s animals. For others, it could be music, good food, great books, fun exercise, a new friend, etc.
However you engage the habit of appreciation, you’re sure to find it makes a powerful difference in your vibration and thus your manifesting success. (Not to mention enjoyment of life!)
This one single habit packs tremendous punch in amping up your deliberate creator skills, which is why it belongs in every manifestor’s toolkit. Share your tips for building the appreciation muscle in the comments below.