Sometimes it feels like tricky business to create the reality you want …
Between maintaining a focus on what you want, not letting gremlins drive, staying out of attachment, being a good allower, taking inspired action, etc., even savvy creators can feel a bit overwhelmed with all the guidance we get about how to manifest.
But the truth is it’s very simple.
In fact, it could be as simple as this:
Become a good appreciator.
If all we did was build our appreciation skills, that alone puts us in close range of everything we want.
Yes, you could toss in some inspired action and positive expectations to make it even better.
But honestly, if you only focused on one thing to enhance your reality-creating success, good old-fashioned appreciation is your ticket.
But if all we got intentional about was learning to appreciate more, we’d be vibrationally home free.
Because when we’re in a state of appreciation, we’re a match for more good things.
Which is why so many spiritual teachers suggest keeping a gratitude journal, and why Abraham shares so many appreciation rampages.
I thought I had a pretty decent appreciation practice going until I read Pollyanna – and realized my skills had lots of room for improvement.
Becoming a good appreciator is mostly a matter of intention and practice.
It’s not rocket science, and you will see a direct correlation between making it a habit and the turn your life will take for the better.
But mostly I’m just suggesting that any time we think conscious creation stuff is complicated, that’s our cue to get back to basics, which could be anything like:
or any other process you’re called to.
When a fellow creator in self-help overwhelm asked the one thing she should practice, I suggested getting thankful was tough to beat for ease and effectiveness.
If your manifesting practice feels like you’re playing a game of Twister that’s more frustrating than joyful, it’s time for a change.
I’d love to hear how you keep things simple in your effective conscious creation routine …
We know appreciation is one of the best manifesting “processes” out there.
It moves dreams out of future tense and into present reality.
So when I read this post on 99 Reasons Why 2016 Was a Good Year, I was inspired to revel in those good vibes even more by making my own list.
Recalling the ways this year has delighted and satisfied us is also a great setup for launching a new year.
Just reading this post will likely give you a vibration boost, too, but I’d recommend creating your own list of things you’re celebrating about your 2016. 🙂
So with that, here’s my list of 99 ways 2016 showed me the love. I’d love to read yours, too!
I Said Yes to My Dream Home
I Loved Up On the Animals
I Loved More People In More Ways
I Loved My Body Even More
Business Got Even Better
I Loved Myself and Life Even More
Your turn. 🙂
Abraham shared a game-changing practice Esther uses when she’s knee-deep in contrast …
She names ten good things about the situation.
Just a quick mental tally of ten ways this isn’t so bad.
Ten signs things are working out. Ten things to celebrate about it.
That’s all it takes to get the vibe back on good track.
You might be able to do it on the spot. (Kudos if you can!)
Or it might be best engaged when you’re not in the red hot heat of the moment.
Practice it for yourself and you’ll see what a vibe-shifter it is.
I did it for a couple contrasty things recently …
When one of my beloved computers decided to take an extended break:
Just making the list takes the sting out of something that could have been really bothersome otherwise. It helps me suspend negative judgment on what’s happened and we all know that makes me a better match to something good happening next!
By the time I got to #10, I was already feeling lighter.
I had another chance to practice it when the neighborhood cat (who I call mine, but obviously isn’t) didn’t come “home” for a week:
(And sure enough, he returned again.)
Can you feel how this exercise trains you to see what’s going right?
Since we get whatever we look for, that’s a powerful perspective to habituate ourselves to.
We don’t do it necessarily to change what’s manifested, but just as a helpful vibration management technique. So we don’t get caught up in contrast and thus attract more crappy stuff.
It keeps us flowing a more positive point of attraction, even when we’re not loving what is.
Give it a try next time you’re fretting about something that doesn’t feel fabulous.
The more you practice it, the better you get at it and the easier it is for Universe to reveal something good next. 🙂
One of my favorite manifesting successes to tell about is one that happened accidentally.
I certainly never intended for change to happen.
In fact, I just wanted things to stay the same forever …
It started in 1992 when I bought a house that I loved so much I knew without a doubt that I would never leave it.
The first moment I walked into it with the realtor I was filled with an overwhelming sense of coming home. Of being right where I belonged.
It was absolutely perfect. I loved the trees and the rose bushes; I loved the red bricks with the black shutters; I loved the porches and the steps; I loved the light from all the windows; I loved the french doors; I loved the hardwood floors. I loved the neighbors and the location. I loved how easy it was to maintain. I even loved what it cost.
I could fill a book with all the different ways I loved that house.
In fact, I actively loved that property every day. It was just such a dream come true I couldn’t help it.
Think about the vibrational consequences of that …
Year after year of loving that house beyond compare. Knowing I was right where I wanted to be most and that it couldn’t get any better than this.
Imagine being Universe receiving that vibrational instruction, where it hears from me over and over again how much I love where I live.
You can guess what happened, right?
It eventually gave me an even better place to live.
Despite the fact that I didn’t even want one, and that I didn’t even think was possible.
(In fact, I held on to that house just so that I could go back after I’d played out this other hand I was dealt.)
The only reason I was willing to move was because my beau at the time was insistent on living together in a place of our own. My guidance was a yes for it, which surprised me, but off I went to buy a house with my love interest. Because I know not to ignore guidance.
And that house turned out to be even better than my last one!
The house I thought couldn’t be improved on! It got even better!
That might sound like a no-brainer to you. But to me – who’d been living in my absolutely perfect house for years knowing it couldn’t be topped – it was a surprise.
And it shouldn’t have been.
Because we know that like attracts like and that Universe returns whatever vibration we put out. I was sending, “It doesn’t get any better than this” and Universe delivered “better than this.”
So the love I felt for my first place turned out to be a powerful (if inadvertent) manifesting strategy for making even bigger dreams come true.
Dreams I didn’t even consciously entertain.
These days, though, I’m doing it consciously.
I’m using this same love strategy in service of new dreams, loving everything up. Finding ways to appreciate what is even more than I already do.
The thing about love, though, is that if you’re flowing it just to make things change – that’s not real love.
Real love is without agenda.
It’s not pretending to love it just so it’ll get better. That routine is not what I’m talking about.
I’m talking about genuine love and appreciation. Which when we go there, we’re a winner no matter what. Even if it’s ‘just’ that our heart fills with good vibes, and nothing else changes, we’re still better off.
I do wonder how my love life would have unfolded if I were as good at appreciating boyfriends as I was at loving that house.
And how fun to think about what might be in store for my physical self as I get better at loving up this body!
Does it kind of make you want to love up your money a little better than you have been, perhaps?
Some of my clients are hesitant to drop resistance and find something to like about their situation that they want to change so much. They’re nervous that if they stop disliking it, if they find a way to appreciate it, Universe will think they got what they wanted and they’ll be stuck with it forever.
It’s the opposite, I tell them! Their resistance is what keeps it in place!
That’s when I tell my house story, to show just how magic appreciation can be.
And that’s the manifesting strategy I’ve noticed I’m employing above all others this year: loving everything up – without needing it to be any different.
This time I won’t be surprised when “even better” arrives.
PS – for those of you who enjoy audio, you can hear this story on the latest podcast episode.
This is the manifesting trick that changes everything when put into practice.
It’s the #1 skill worth mastering if you care about your LOA game, not to mention general life happiness …
Today I woke up – and completely took it for granted.
I woke up. Which meant I slept!
Sleeping through the night used to be a huge miracle! The kind of thing that inspired a chorus of angels singing as I phoned friends to share the news!
And here I’d just slept through the whole night. Didn’t even think anything of it.
Got out of bed. Took that for granted, too.
I got out of bed without even thinking about it. No back pain! No careful maneuvering. No wincing or groaning as I started the day! That wasn’t always the case.
And then I got on the internet. As if it were nothing. As if that’s how it always is.
But the truth is Comcast has inspired many a swear word in the past.
Then I sat in my chair without having to clean up cat throw-up. Didn’t even thank them for it. There are more days than I care to count where that is not the case.
I share this because it speaks to the point I want to make about today’s manifesting tip …
Things are going more right than you realize.
There’s way more working out for you than there is going wrong.
And when you know that, especially when you can remember it in the face of contrast – it makes all the vibrational difference.
You can’t get too kinky in your vibe when you look around and see all the rightness in your world.
And if you can’t see how that’s already true for you, it’s time to practice.
Because many of us have an unhelpful tendency to spot what’s wrong and dwell on what needs to change, rather than appreciating what’s going right.
If your first thought when you woke up wasn’t a lovely one, then I’m talking to you.
That’s a sign we have room for improvement on where we’re dialed vibrationally.
This manifesting skill is about developing the perspective of love and appreciation rather than grinding through another day of effort and angst.
And for some of us, it is work. It can take a committed practice of looking for the good news before it becomes our new habitual perspective.
It’s hands down the single most powerful thing you can do to support your manifesting success.
So the next time you hear yourself complaining or worried about this, that or the other, take a pause for a reality check.
Look around and tally even just a handful of things going right. (It’s impossible to list all the things working in your favor – that’s how many there are!)
But when you can get a handle on more things going right than things going sideways, you are well on your way to happily ever after.
Because manifesting what you want can be as simple as recognizing that life is righter than we realized.