We know appreciation is one of the best manifesting “processes” out there.
It moves dreams out of future tense and into present reality.
So when I read this post on 99 Reasons Why 2016 Was a Good Year, I was inspired to revel in those good vibes even more by making my own list.
Recalling the ways this year has delighted and satisfied us is also a great setup for launching a new year.
Just reading this post will likely give you a vibration boost, too, but I’d recommend creating your own list of things you’re celebrating about your 2016. 🙂
So with that, here’s my list of 99 ways 2016 showed me the love. I’d love to read yours, too!
I Said Yes to My Dream Home
I Loved Up On the Animals
I Loved More People In More Ways
I Loved My Body Even More
Business Got Even Better
I Loved Myself and Life Even More
Your turn. 🙂
One of my favorite manifesting successes to tell about is one that happened accidentally.
I certainly never intended for change to happen.
In fact, I just wanted things to stay the same forever …
It started in 1992 when I bought a house that I loved so much I knew without a doubt that I would never leave it.
The first moment I walked into it with the realtor I was filled with an overwhelming sense of coming home. Of being right where I belonged.
It was absolutely perfect. I loved the trees and the rose bushes; I loved the red bricks with the black shutters; I loved the porches and the steps; I loved the light from all the windows; I loved the french doors; I loved the hardwood floors. I loved the neighbors and the location. I loved how easy it was to maintain. I even loved what it cost.
I could fill a book with all the different ways I loved that house.
In fact, I actively loved that property every day. It was just such a dream come true I couldn’t help it.
Think about the vibrational consequences of that …
Year after year of loving that house beyond compare. Knowing I was right where I wanted to be most and that it couldn’t get any better than this.
Imagine being Universe receiving that vibrational instruction, where it hears from me over and over again how much I love where I live.
You can guess what happened, right?
It eventually gave me an even better place to live.
Despite the fact that I didn’t even want one, and that I didn’t even think was possible.
(In fact, I held on to that house just so that I could go back after I’d played out this other hand I was dealt.)
The only reason I was willing to move was because my beau at the time was insistent on living together in a place of our own. My guidance was a yes for it, which surprised me, but off I went to buy a house with my love interest. Because I know not to ignore guidance.
And that house turned out to be even better than my last one!
The house I thought couldn’t be improved on! It got even better!
That might sound like a no-brainer to you. But to me – who’d been living in my absolutely perfect house for years knowing it couldn’t be topped – it was a surprise.
And it shouldn’t have been.
Because we know that like attracts like and that Universe returns whatever vibration we put out. I was sending, “It doesn’t get any better than this” and Universe delivered “better than this.”
So the love I felt for my first place turned out to be a powerful (if inadvertent) manifesting strategy for making even bigger dreams come true.
Dreams I didn’t even consciously entertain.
These days, though, I’m doing it consciously.
I’m using this same love strategy in service of new dreams, loving everything up. Finding ways to appreciate what is even more than I already do.
The thing about love, though, is that if you’re flowing it just to make things change – that’s not real love.
Real love is without agenda.
It’s not pretending to love it just so it’ll get better. That routine is not what I’m talking about.
I’m talking about genuine love and appreciation. Which when we go there, we’re a winner no matter what. Even if it’s ‘just’ that our heart fills with good vibes, and nothing else changes, we’re still better off.
I do wonder how my love life would have unfolded if I were as good at appreciating boyfriends as I was at loving that house.
And how fun to think about what might be in store for my physical self as I get better at loving up this body!
Does it kind of make you want to love up your money a little better than you have been, perhaps?
Some of my clients are hesitant to drop resistance and find something to like about their situation that they want to change so much. They’re nervous that if they stop disliking it, if they find a way to appreciate it, Universe will think they got what they wanted and they’ll be stuck with it forever.
It’s the opposite, I tell them! Their resistance is what keeps it in place!
That’s when I tell my house story, to show just how magic appreciation can be.
And that’s the manifesting strategy I’ve noticed I’m employing above all others this year: loving everything up – without needing it to be any different.
This time I won’t be surprised when “even better” arrives.
PS – for those of you who enjoy audio, you can hear this story on the latest podcast episode.
This is the manifesting trick that changes everything when put into practice.
It’s the #1 skill worth mastering if you care about your LOA game, not to mention general life happiness …
Today I woke up – and completely took it for granted.
I woke up. Which meant I slept!
Sleeping through the night used to be a huge miracle! The kind of thing that inspired a chorus of angels singing as I phoned friends to share the news!
And here I’d just slept through the whole night. Didn’t even think anything of it.
Got out of bed. Took that for granted, too.
I got out of bed without even thinking about it. No back pain! No careful maneuvering. No wincing or groaning as I started the day! That wasn’t always the case.
And then I got on the internet. As if it were nothing. As if that’s how it always is.
But the truth is Comcast has inspired many a swear word in the past.
Then I sat in my chair without having to clean up cat throw-up. Didn’t even thank them for it. There are more days than I care to count where that is not the case.
I share this because it speaks to the point I want to make about today’s manifesting tip …
Things are going more right than you realize.
There’s way more working out for you than there is going wrong.
And when you know that, especially when you can remember it in the face of contrast – it makes all the vibrational difference.
You can’t get too kinky in your vibe when you look around and see all the rightness in your world.
And if you can’t see how that’s already true for you, it’s time to practice.
Because many of us have an unhelpful tendency to spot what’s wrong and dwell on what needs to change, rather than appreciating what’s going right.
If your first thought when you woke up wasn’t a lovely one, then I’m talking to you.
That’s a sign we have room for improvement on where we’re dialed vibrationally.
This manifesting skill is about developing the perspective of love and appreciation rather than grinding through another day of effort and angst.
And for some of us, it is work. It can take a committed practice of looking for the good news before it becomes our new habitual perspective.
(It’s why I regularly post on several different “good news” and “what’s going right” threads in the GVU forums.)
It’s hands down the single most powerful thing you can do to support your manifesting success.
So the next time you hear yourself complaining or worried about this, that or the other, take a pause for a reality check.
Look around and tally even just a handful of things going right. (It’s impossible to list all the things working in your favor – that’s how many there are!)
But when you can get a handle on more things going right than things going sideways, you are well on your way to happily ever after.
Because manifesting what you want can be as simple as recognizing that life is righter than we realized.
What’s the most powerful manifesting skill out there, that by its very own self can transform your experience of life?
It might not be what you think …
Yes, it’s helpful to be able to script like a pro, to engage a rich visualization, and to affirm our desired reality like it’s a done deal.
And who can deny the power of ignoring a dream-stopping reality, answering the call of inspiration, and releasing resistance on a dime?
These are among many highly touted elements in our manifesting playbook.
But there’s one skill that outdoes all the rest when it comes to consciously creating reality …
… one habit that makes all the difference to your manifesting success and can guarantee you a happily-ever-after.
That skill is Appreciation.
It’s why gratitude journals are so popular even amongst muggles and why so many spiritual teachers suggest drifting to sleep while listing things we’re thankful for.
When we tune to appreciation, we become a frequency match to everything we desire.
And that’s all it takes to let the good stuff in. Since like attracts like, when you feel now how you would feel then (because when you get what you want you’ll be fabulously thankful, right?), you become a manifesting wizard.
Listen to Jerry Hicks on the subject:
I’m always looking for something that makes me feel good …
And so the things, the many wonderful things that have come to me in my lifetime have always come because of something I have appreciated. Everything really huge and big is just something I appreciated and suddenly it’s now part of my life …
Abe: You’ve already through life put it into your Vortex. And in your quest and finding of appreciation, you align with it. And then it shows itself to you. (Abraham-Hicks, Denver, September 2010)
Yes, it’s nice to be able to build a beautiful vision board and to pre-pave events in advance. And who doesn’t love acting as if their goal is already achieved?
But if all you ever did was hone your skills of appreciation, you’d find your way to a lifelong string of amazing successes and happy unfoldings.
If you’d like tips on how to become a better Appreciator, check out this post.
In the meantime, we’d love to hear your suggestions on how to become a powerful agent of appreciation. Thanks in advance for sharing!
Seems like Thanksgiving is a holiday made especially for deliberate creators, since we excel at the appreciation vibe.
In fact, let’s have a little thankfulness work out right now, just to show how good we are at this stuff.
Play with the nine questions below to help stretch your gratitude muscle.
(Answer privately if you prefer or share in the comments so we can love up life right along with you …)
Let’s begin with a gratitude warm up:
1. What’s going right in your life right now?
This is hopefully an easy one. Any answer will do, however big or small.
Mine: that my peace & quiet in the neighborhood spell worked! The home builders next door either finished or took the day off!
What’s yours? Anything at all will get the gratitude energy flowing!
(For real, name yours. Even if it’s just to yourself right now. This post will be a bit pointless if you don’t play along.)
Okay, now that you’re warmed up, let’s have fun stretching your muscles with these appreciation-instigators from the past:
2. What’s the first thing (or person) you remember loving or appreciating?
Take a nice minute to find your favorite answer.
Mine: the kitten Oma gave me when I asked her for a red cat. (Thanks, Mom, for letting me have a cat!)
Hope you found some fun memories with that question. 🙂
3. Next up … recall something from your youth that made you feel especially loved or special.
If you can’t think of one, you get to create a new memory for yourself by making one up.
Mine: when dad sang to us before bedtime with his guitar. Could be where my extreme fondness for Beatles songs comes from.
How about one from our recent past …
4. What was the last time you said “I love you” and really meant it (not just out of habit)?
I hope you have lots of recent answers to this one. If not, time to get more conscious and vocal about your love and appreciation!
Mine: this morning to Anna when she emailed me about a typo on the Path to Abundance page. (I love it when someone kindly points out an error that wants fixing.)
Okay, now we’ve got the thankfulness juices flowing – let’s switch it up a bit …
5. Name the most unusual thing you’re grateful for.
Mine: I’ve admitted this before – I love the smell of my dog’s farts. I know how strange that sounds. I also like the smell of skunks. And cat breath.
6. What’s a thing you appreciate tremendously, but tend to take for granted? Take a moment to love it consciously again now.
Mine: being an American. Watching Captain Phillips gave me a renewed awareness about what it means to be a citizen of the U.S.
Okay, we’re on a roll now! Let’s keep this vibe going …
7. Think of your favorite dream come true that’s manifested. That’ll be a fun one to recall.
Mine: not sure I can narrow it to one favorite thing, but I absolutely LOVE working from home, in deliberate creation, with fabulous folks like you, with all my dogs and cats nearby. Heaven!
How about some crystal ball appreciation next …
8. What would you love to be giving thanks for a year from now?
This is a good one not just to identify, but to actually practicing giving thanks for in advance. Like it’s already done.
(Way to prep yourself for a great year!)
Mine: another fabulous year with my smelly best friend Joe. (I love that dog!) And celebrating a 46 year old body that looks and feels better than ever before.
Nicely done. Okay, this next one is for the expert appreciators …
9. Name something you love about your latest bit of contrast.
Meaning, in looking at your latest “problem,” what can you love about it?
Mine: my super fun law suit is helping me know just how strong I am, and also helping me build huge manifesting muscles!
And possibly the most powerful way to flow appreciation (this one’s #10 for extra credit):
10. Name five things fast that you love about yourself.
That one, I particularly would love to hear from you on. 🙂
If you’re a GVU member you can hear the conversation between Nancy, Anna, Annette and I on today’s gratitude call.
Hope you enjoyed this Appreciation Work Out! For those of you celebrating the holiday tomorrow, happy Thanksgiving.
For other thanksgiving support resources here at the blog, try:
To all my conscious creating friends across the globe, I just wanted to say thank you. Thank you for being part of my world, thank you for contributing to your manifesting skills, expertise, thoughts and wisdom here at the blog, and thank you for raising the vibration of the planet by being one who focuses on the good stuff.
Big love to you!
It’s a simple alignment practice, but an exceptionally powerful one: giving thanks in advance for what you want as if it’s already here.
It combines the manifesting superpower of apppreciation along with feeling your desire like it’s a done deal.
Lots of us are very practiced at appreciating what is, and being able to focus on the good stuff in real life.
You can extend that practice by giving thanks for your unmanifested desires as if they’re here now.
Alexandria Barker calls this Wishful Thanking, and has an excellent program built around this idea. (Ha – just noticed Bob Doyle and I are both on her page raving about it! For the record, I’m not a paid affiliate.)
If you’re wondering how to practice it, it’s really easy:
You know how you give thanks for the things that HAVE manifested? (You do that regularly, right?) Well, with giving thanks in advance you just flow appreciation for the thing that hasn’t yet manifested. It shifts your vibe from yearning to having. It’s a very different instruction.
Maybe you do it by speaking your thanks out loud, or by feeling appreciation in your heart, or smiling as if you’re looking at or holding the very thing in your hot little hand right now. However you normally share your thankfulness for the good stuff, you just practice it the same way now, in advance. Get it?
It’s like sending Universe the signal that says “Got what I wanted!” which it has to honor by delivering what you want. Except it’s even more powerful because it’s got appreciation built in automatically.
Cool, huh? I think of it as giving “pre-thanks.” In fact …
Thank you, Universe, for delivering all the great stories and examples in the comments section from fellow creators who have practiced this before, which inspire the rest of us to engage it even more than we already do!
Yesterday Phil and I prepped for an appreciation call on the Matt & Phil show which turned into a lovefest for Jerry Hicks after yesterday’s unexpected news of his passing.
And Anthony’s right that it does seem particularly appropriate on this “American Day of Gratitude” to be sharing our appreciation for Jerry and Esther and Abraham.
(Thank you, everyone, for being such good company for the Jerry love.)
My original plan for yesterday’s call with Phil was to take my appreciation practice where it has rarely gone before – into the dark corners and recesses of my life to appreciate things I don’t regularly or easily feel thanks for.
I mean, it’s easy to be happy for good health, all these lovely cats and dogs spending their lives with me, my sweetheart, my comfortable home, fabulous friends and family, and rewarding work. I’m well trained to ignore the rest that doesn’t feel as good.
But I want to expand my appreciation further. Into the places that don’t normally get appreciated. The places that normally get avoided. Maybe you’ll be inspired to join me in growing the places you can find thanks?
Here are a few of the darker places in my life I’m pointing the light of love and thanks for:
How about you?
Whether you choose to post it here or not, I invite you to take your appreciation to the places you might not have brought it before.
Got sidetracked from the blog post I was writing (the magic of feeling your feelings) when I read an email about The Noticer Project.
It’s a “worldwide movement to ‘notice’ the five most influential people in your life.” (Based on the book The Noticer by Andy Andrews.)
Naturally, I started thinking of all the pleasant and supportive people who’ve made a difference in my life – my folks, my third grade teacher Ms. Davis, my favorite coaches, etc.
But then I thought about my crackhead neighbor. And a boss I struggled with.
Which reminded me how Abraham says our true soulmates are the ones who make us want to tear our hair out.
So in honor of Abraham and The Noticer Project, I am noticing the five most influential people in my life who were probably least expected to make this list:
My Crackhead Neighbor – man, I love you! You taught me SO many valuable things! Just thinking about what I learned from you brings joyful tears to my eyes. (For real.)
I learned that 1) I alone am responsible for how I feel; 2) people are capable of absolutely anything (that means both of us, good and bad); 3) I can commit to how I want to feel despite outside circumstances; 4) I can choose peace instead of war. You gave me great inspiration to learn releasing resistance under challenging circumstances. Thank you for that. I don’t know anyone else who would have had the stubbornness to see me through it. It’s a privilege to call you my friend today.
My Ex-Husband – you were right (I made things more important than people); and I was wrong (we should have cemented that strip of grass by the driveway). And it’s all good. You and I are living proof that happy endings don’t always look like we expected. Thank you for your commitment to returning to love through all our ups and downs. (Plus, I got that marriage thing out of the way so I don’t have to do that again!)
My Old Boss – wow. I did not see that coming! What I learned from you really took me by surprise, and has made a lasting impact on my life. Thank you for teaching me that I am capable of not caring what others think; that I am strong enough to do what’s right over what’s expected; and that winning isn’t most important – enjoying is.
My Ex-Fiance – the third one. When I think of people who made me want to tear my hair out, I think of that moment I wanted to shoot you at the intersection of 21st and 13th. (The passionate feelings you inspired me to are good reasons not to have loaded guns on hand.) But what I’m most grateful for is how through my experience with you I learned that love is found on the inside, not the outside. That no one can love me like (and until) I can love myself. Could there be a bigger gift to give someone? I doubt it. For that reason, I am forever in your debt.
As for #5, I got a feeling the best is yet to come. Or maybe we live together now. Or maybe it’s my best girlfriend who tried to snag a super hot guy out from under me (first time I was inspired to make a strong stand for what I wanted), or the customer “service” rep from Adobe last month (the gift is yet to be seen there). Just trying to get a couple girls on my list!
I know this much: it’s a pleasure to recognize that our biggest influencers aren’t always wearing white hats. In fact, the best ones don’t, right?
Let’s hear some of yours …