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99 Ways 2016 Rocked It

Life Is Good: 99 Ways 2016 Rocked ItWe know appreciation is one of the best manifesting “processes” out there.
It moves dreams out of future tense and into present reality.
So when I read this post on 99 Reasons Why 2016 Was a Good Year, I was inspired to revel in those good vibes even more by making my own list.
Recalling the ways this year has delighted and satisfied us is also a great setup for launching a new year.
Just reading this post will likely give you a vibration boost, too, but I’d recommend creating your own list of things you’re celebrating about your 2016. 🙂
So with that, here’s my list of 99 ways 2016 showed me the love. I’d love to read yours, too!
I Said Yes to My Dream Home

  1. The dogs and cats and I moved closer to nature! That was one of my “someday” dreams that conspired to show up sooner rather than later. We love it here!
  2. I have my own place again! While live-in lovers are nice and splitting the rent is an added bonus, I thrive in my own space.
  3. This place is triple the square footage and nearly 20 times the yard space the dogs grew up in. It’s a lot of what I imagined heaven would be for dogs.
  4. We share space with wildlife, including foxes, deer and moose!
  5. The neighbors have horses! Beautiful, playful horses!
  6. Night actually feels like night – it gets dark here and super quiet. No sirens, no city noise, no light pollution.
  7. The stars are amazing! It’s so stunningly gorgeous that even a trip to the garbage can at night takes a few minute because of the awesome stargazing!
  8. It sort of feels like the moon is my new best friend. We have such a different relationship out here in the boonies! I understand better how ancient cultures came to revere the stars and sun and moon. I’m doing it, too!
  9. We can go on off leash walks right from our back door. The neighboring properties aren’t developed, so we have even more free space to wander at our leisure.
  10. There is an array of diverse hiking trails nearby. We’re still exploring!
  11. Every window in the house offers jaw-dropping mountain views. Even washing hands at the sink offers a chance to revel in the beautiful landscape.
  12. My office feels like the office of a very wealthy person. Imagine what that’s doing for my vibration!
  13. There’s a stream of water here the dogs love taking an afternoon dip in. Fortunately, I like the smell of wet dogs. 🙂
  14. The new master bedroom has tons of room for three dog beds, two cat scratch towers, and two big chairs for kitties to lounge on. This room alone feels like paradise!
  15. I manifested the nicest and the coolest neighbors on the planet. They’re amazing!
  16. Hello, I harvested vegetables from the garden. I learned how to cook squash! And LOVED it!!
  17. I pulled up t-posts out of the ground with my bare hands using nothing but brute strength. I feel like I can do anything after doing that!
  18. I am shoveling so much snow out here that I stopped using exercise equipment in the house. I am getting super fit without really trying.
  19. I got a farmer’s tan. From working on the property. I cannot tell you how much I love my life!!

I Loved Up On the Animals

  1. We fostered many kittens and several adult cats this year. I say “we” because it takes a village, where the dogs and other cats help teach newcomers the ropes, and friends and family are called in to help socialize the new crew. It’s still one of my greatest joys in life to volunteer as an animal foster mom.
  2. Two of our foster kittens from the year prior were returned when their adoptive mom got engaged, and are with us again now. (Her loss, our gain!) Xena Princess Warrior and Fairy Kitty Lexie have grown into such beautiful and entertaining cats!
  3. I helped transport a handful of dogs to their new homes across the country. It’s a fun way to make new friends – human and canine!
  4. The neighbors at my last place got brand new baby goats in the spring! Such a treat to watch them play and grow up!
  5. In fact, on two different occasions I got to climb the fence for a goat rescue when someone’s head got stuck in the fence. I’d been dreaming about climbing over for a closer hello for quite some time when Universe delivered compelling reasons to do so!
  6. We’re reveling in bonus time with Joe, after the vet said to expect just 6 more months. (18 and counting!) Luckily, we know how to defy expectations. Here’s to more quality time together!
  7. Many of the dogs in our new hood roam freely, so we get spontaneous play dates and dinner dates throughout the week. These dogs are a hoot – super friendly and fun – I’ve never met such happy and personable dogs!
  8. We had a moose in our backyard just the other day. It was exciting and exhilarating and amazing! I am officially not a city girl any more!
  9. Sadie got sprayed by a skunk our second week here, and it felt like the perfect way to give up our urban roots and embrace country life. Everyone survived.
  10. Feeding new birds here that I’ve never seen before. Still learning who they are!
  11. It’s not unusual to see bald eagles on my commute to town. Bald eagles, I tell you! This place is even better than I dreamed. 🙂

I Loved More People In More Ways

  1. Allowed a key relationship that had become a toleration to transform itself. It had been asking for that for a while, but I ignored it because of my resistance to change. I learned that change is good and resistance is futile. And now have a new appreciation for my latest ex-beau. I should have known this would of course have a happy ending, since that’s how everything seems to turn out.
  2. My mom showed up in so many ways to love and support me through the changes the year brought. She helped me turn a new house into a home and was the #1 reason I never felt alone or overwhelmed through the major transitions of the year.
  3. Who knew how much I’d be relying on dad’s help this year, too!  Whenever it looked like there was a problem in the works, dad stepped in to solve it. In fact, he resolved issues before they became issues. Every time I thought I couldn’t ask any more, he showed up to remind me help is always here and love never runs out.
  4. My aunts. Well, now I’m starting to well up as I think about all the ways extended family showed me the love. With advice and encouragement, actual moving and cleaning, and getting settled into a new place and making it my own. Ok, I’m trying not to cry, so moving on …
  5. I know I mentioned new neighbors already, but they deserve to be on this section of the list, too. I’d heard about how friendly country people were, but I honestly had no idea it could be this good!
  6. Speaking of love, I started dating again. woo hoo! I am a girl who thrives when single and I am making the absolute most of this time of life. Men are amazing! I could make a list of 99 things I love about dating! But I’ll spare you my raves and just say I am having the time of my life.
  7. I even love my post office people, my grocery store people, my UPS guy, my real estate agent. It feels like I fell into the love vortex!
  8. I went through master gardener training and hung out with fellow gardeners! So much appreciation for meeting MY PEOPLE! I love gardeners. And I love our instructors. They were the highlight of my year!
  9. Stone people. Have you heard of them? I always knew there was something special about crystals, but this year I learned that they’re also known as The Stone People and I made some new stone friends. 🙂
  10. I met fab new folks at the local animal rescue group I’ll be working with next kitten season. I do love gardeners, but animal people are my lifelong peeps. We get each other.
  11. But there is nowhere I feel more love and appreciation than when I hang with fellow creators, because we are not a dime a dozen. (Yet. One day we will be!) For now, though, connecting with conscious creators on GVU calls and in the forums is a treasured experience and where I feel most myself. I love you guys!
  12. I need a separate entry to celebrate the wonderful clients I worked with this year. You know who you are. THANK YOU for being the best parts of my life!

I Loved My Body Even More

  1. Through the process of moving I reminded myself how physically strong I am. Way to feel capable and empowered!
  2. I had energy I didn’t know existed! Physical endurance was mine! Plus I had a new spring in my step I hadn’t felt in some time.
  3. Sleeping solidly through the nights again. 🙂
  4. Adrenal fatigue symptoms abated. I feel good in my body again!
  5. I have some suspicions about how this happened (I got happy!) … but whatever the cause, I dropped a couple sizes. When I wasn’t even trying to. Funny how that works, huh? I wear a belt on size 6 jeans. It’s ridiculous. (I had fourteens in my closet at one point.)
  6. I finally like my hair. That hasn’t  been a toleration for so much of my life, that I can’t tell you how nice it is to actually appreciate it.
  7. In addition to yoga as a way of loving up on my body, I found the 5 Tibetan rites. Very cool!
  8. This isn’t completely new, I had learned this trick a while ago, but I’m better at it now than ever (practice makes perfect): I love how I look in the mirror. 🙂
  9. Treated myself to some new clothes, which is yet another way to enjoy this beautiful body.
  10. I’m listening to her better than ever – when she says yay or nay, I honor it without question. Well, almost. Getting better at it every day!
  11. Learned how to take even more joy from food and drink – truly one of life’s daily pleasures this year.
  12. We (my body and I) also relished in the joys of nothing this year. We learned how to do nothing like it was something. We lounge, we loiter, we linger, we pause, we revel. It’s not go-go-go until we drop. We nap, we stretch out, we get wrinkly fingers in the tub … we enjoy for no reason at all.

Business Got Even Better

  1. This celebration list is taking forever to write, so I’ll speed things up: fab new clients
  2. fab long term and returning clients. I just can’t say enough how much I love the people I work with!
  3. super cool colleagues (The Coaches League is one of my favorite parties of the year!)
  4. launched a new podcast
  5. clients are rocking it (their successes deserve to be compiled in a book!)
  6. interviews with cool new people
  7. less work
  8. fab money
  9. GVU went mobile
  10. this blog gets more traffic and more raves than ever
  11. you readers are as generous and wise as ever! your comments are still the best part of this blog!

I Loved Myself and Life Even More

  1. broke a few rules
  2. found my courage
  3. honored my heart
  4. my ’66 Caprice got a makeover
  5. watched great stories
  6. read fabulous books
  7. learned from amazing teachers
  8. got inspired by fellow creators
  9. loved new songs
  10. discovered new restaurants
  11. dared to say yes to what life wanted to deliver
  12. I saw Sasquatch
  13. loved master gardener training
  14. enjoyed volunteering in the gardens and on the help desk!
  15. learned to appreciate contrast like never before
  16. laughed more than ever
  17. Joy became a regular thing in my daily life
  18. invested in friendships – and let others go
  19. ate a lot of high quality chocolate!
  20. pared down my belongings to those that spark joy
  21. got better at relaxing
  22. learned to be easier on myself
  23. got even better at believing in big dreams
  24. saw what a truly skilled co-creator I am
  25. gave myself credit for being an excellent guide to fellow co-creators
  26. learned how to take mistakes in stride
  27. trusted guidance and listened to inner nudges like a pro
  28. paid attention to dreams and messages from angels
  29. said yes to what my heart wanted and no to what it didn’t
  30. saw the perfection of how life unfolds and embraced the pace of my journey through it
  31. learned better than ever what matters and what doesn’t
  32. felt the privilege of being here now
  33. got better at trusting that everything’s working out perfectly
  34. and am looking forward to an even more amazing and delightful new year.

Your turn. 🙂

  • December 20, 2016

The Manifesting Strategy I'm Banking On

Manifesting Strategy: Love and AppreciationOne of my favorite manifesting successes to tell about is one that happened accidentally.
I certainly never intended for change to happen.
In fact, I just wanted things to stay the same forever …
It started in 1992 when I bought a house that I loved so much I knew without a doubt that I would never leave it.
The first moment I walked into it with the realtor I was filled with an overwhelming sense of coming home. Of being right where I belonged.
It was absolutely perfect. I loved the trees and the rose bushes; I loved the red bricks with the black shutters; I loved the porches and the steps; I loved the light from all the windows; I loved the french doors; I loved the hardwood floors. I loved the neighbors and the location. I loved how easy it was to maintain. I even loved what it cost.
I could fill a book with all the different ways I loved that house.
In fact, I actively loved that property every day. It was just such a dream come true I couldn’t help it.
Think about the vibrational consequences of that …
Year after year of loving that house beyond compare. Knowing I was right where I wanted to be most and that it couldn’t get any better than this.
Imagine being Universe receiving that vibrational instruction, where it hears from me over and over again how much I love where I live.
You can guess what happened, right?
It eventually gave me an even better place to live.
Despite the fact that I didn’t even want one, and that I didn’t even think was possible.
(In fact, I held on to that house just so that I could go back after I’d played out this other hand I was dealt.)
The only reason I was willing to move was because my beau at the time was insistent on living together in a place of our own. My guidance was a yes for it, which surprised me, but off I went to buy a house with my love interest. Because I know not to ignore guidance.
And that house turned out to be even better than my last one!
The house I thought couldn’t be improved on! It got even better!
That might sound like a no-brainer to you. But to me – who’d been living in my absolutely perfect house for years knowing it couldn’t be topped – it was a surprise.
And it shouldn’t have been.
Because we know that like attracts like and that Universe returns whatever vibration we put out. I was sending, “It doesn’t get any better than this” and Universe delivered “better than this.”
So the love I felt for my first place turned out to be a powerful (if inadvertent) manifesting strategy for making even bigger dreams come true.
Dreams I didn’t even consciously entertain.
These days, though, I’m doing it consciously.
I’m using this same love strategy in service of new dreams, loving everything up. Finding ways to appreciate what is even more than I already do.
The thing about love, though, is that if you’re flowing it just to make things change – that’s not real love.
Real love is without agenda.
It’s not pretending to love it just so it’ll get better. That routine is not what I’m talking about.
I’m talking about genuine love and appreciation. Which when we go there, we’re a winner no matter what. Even if it’s ‘just’ that our heart fills with good vibes, and nothing else changes, we’re still better off.

I do wonder how my love life would have unfolded if I were as good at appreciating boyfriends as I was at loving that house.
And how fun to think about what might be in store for my physical self as I get better at loving up this body!
Does it kind of make you want to love up your money a little better than you have been, perhaps?

Some of my clients are hesitant to drop resistance and find something to like about their situation that they want to change so much. They’re nervous that if they stop disliking it, if they find a way to appreciate it, Universe will think they got what they wanted and they’ll be stuck with it forever.
It’s the opposite, I tell them! Their resistance is what keeps it in place!
That’s when I tell my house story, to show just how magic appreciation can be.
And that’s the manifesting strategy I’ve noticed I’m employing above all others this year: loving everything up – without needing it to be any different.
This time I won’t be surprised when “even better” arrives.
PS – for those of you who enjoy audio, you can hear this story on the latest podcast episode.

  • June 18, 2016

Righter Than You Realize

Things Are Going RightThis is the manifesting trick that changes everything when put into practice.
It’s the #1 skill worth mastering if you care about your LOA game, not to mention general life happiness …
Today I woke up – and completely took it for granted.
I woke up. Which meant I slept!
Sleeping through the night used to be a huge miracle! The kind of thing that inspired a chorus of angels singing as I phoned friends to share the news!
And here I’d just slept through the whole night. Didn’t even think anything of it.
Got out of bed. Took that for granted, too.
I got out of bed without even thinking about it. No back pain! No careful maneuvering. No wincing or groaning as I started the day! That wasn’t always the case.
And then I got on the internet. As if it were nothing. As if that’s how it always is.
But the truth is Comcast has inspired many a swear word in the past.
Then I sat in my chair without having to clean up cat throw-up. Didn’t even thank them for it. There are more days than I care to count where that is not the case.
I share this because it speaks to the point I want to make about today’s manifesting tip …
Things are going more right than you realize.
There’s way more working out for you than there is going wrong.
And when you know that, especially when you can remember it in the face of contrast – it makes all the vibrational difference.
You can’t get too kinky in your vibe when you look around and see all the rightness in your world.
And if you can’t see how that’s already true for you, it’s time to practice.
Because many of us have an unhelpful tendency to spot what’s wrong and dwell on what needs to change, rather than appreciating what’s going right.
If your first thought when you woke up wasn’t a lovely one, then I’m talking to you.
That’s a sign we have room for improvement on where we’re dialed vibrationally.
This manifesting skill is about developing the perspective of love and appreciation rather than grinding through another day of effort and angst.
And for some of us, it is work. It can take a committed practice of looking for the good news before it becomes our new habitual perspective.
(It’s why I regularly post on several differentgood news” and “what’s going right” threads in the GVU forums.)
It’s hands down the single most powerful thing you can do to support your manifesting success.
So the next time you hear yourself complaining or worried about this, that or the other, take a pause for a reality check.
Look around and tally even just a handful of things going right. (It’s impossible to list all the things working in  your favor – that’s how many there are!)
But when you can get a handle on more things going right than things going sideways, you are well on your way to happily ever after.
Because manifesting what you want can be as simple as recognizing that life is righter than we realized.

  • June 11, 2016

The Only Manifesting Skill You Need

The Only Manifesting Skill You NeedWhat’s the most powerful manifesting skill out there, that by its very own self can transform your experience of life?
It might not be what you think …
Yes, it’s helpful to be able to script like a pro, to engage a rich visualization, and to affirm our desired reality like it’s a done deal.
And who can deny the power of ignoring a dream-stopping reality, answering the call of inspiration, and releasing resistance on a dime?
These are among many highly touted elements in our manifesting playbook.
But there’s one skill that outdoes all the rest when it comes to consciously creating reality …
… one habit that makes all the difference to your manifesting success and can guarantee you a happily-ever-after.
That skill is Appreciation.

  • Being able to see things as Source sees it.
  • Sifting through perspectives to find the one that feels best.
  • Flowing the highest emotion on the vibrational scale, ranking right up there at the top with love and joy.

It’s why gratitude journals are so popular even amongst muggles and why so many spiritual teachers suggest drifting to sleep while listing things we’re thankful for.
When we tune to appreciation, we become a frequency match to everything we desire.
And that’s all it takes to let the good stuff in. Since like attracts like, when you feel now how you would feel then (because when you get what you want you’ll be fabulously thankful, right?), you become a manifesting wizard.
Listen to Jerry Hicks on the subject:

I’m always looking for something that makes me feel good …
And so the things, the many wonderful things that have come to me in my lifetime have always come because of something I have appreciated. Everything really huge and big is just something I appreciated and suddenly it’s now part of my life …
Abe: You’ve already through life put it into your Vortex. And in your quest and finding of appreciation, you align with it. And then it shows itself to you. (Abraham-Hicks, Denver, September 2010)

Yes, it’s nice to be able to build a beautiful vision board and to pre-pave events in advance. And who doesn’t love acting as if their goal is already achieved?
But if all you ever did was hone your skills of appreciation, you’d find your way to a lifelong string of amazing successes and happy unfoldings.
If you’d like tips on how to become a better Appreciator, check out this post.
In the meantime, we’d love to hear your suggestions on how to become a powerful agent of appreciation. Thanks in advance for sharing!

  • April 7, 2015

Gratitude with a Twist

gratitude and thankfulness in law of attractionSeems like Thanksgiving is a holiday made especially for deliberate creators, since we excel at the appreciation vibe.
In fact, let’s have a little thankfulness work out right now, just to show how good we are at this stuff.
Play with the nine questions below to help stretch your gratitude muscle.
(Answer privately if you prefer or share in the comments so we can love up life right along with you …)
Let’s begin with a gratitude warm up:
1. What’s going right in your life right now? 
This is hopefully an easy one. Any answer will do, however big or small.

Mine: that my peace & quiet in the neighborhood spell worked! The home builders next door either finished or took the day off!

What’s yours? Anything at all will get the gratitude energy flowing!
(For real, name yours. Even if it’s just to yourself right now. This post will be a bit pointless if you don’t play along.)
Okay, now that you’re warmed up, let’s have fun stretching your muscles with these appreciation-instigators from the past:
2. What’s the first thing (or person) you remember loving or appreciating?
Take a nice minute to find your favorite answer.

Mine: the kitten Oma gave me when I asked her for a red cat. (Thanks, Mom, for letting me have a cat!)

Hope you found some fun memories with that question.  🙂
3. Next up … recall something from your youth that made you feel especially loved or special.
If you can’t think of one, you get to create a new memory for yourself by making one up.

Mine: when dad sang to us before bedtime with his guitar. Could be where my extreme fondness for Beatles songs comes from.

How about one from our recent past …
4. What was the last time you said “I love you” and really meant it (not just out of habit)?
I hope you have lots of recent answers to this one. If not, time to get more conscious and vocal about your love and appreciation!

Mine: this morning to Anna when she emailed me about a typo on the Path to Abundance page. (I love it when someone kindly points out an error that wants fixing.)

Okay, now we’ve got the thankfulness juices flowing – let’s switch it up a bit …
5. Name the most unusual thing you’re grateful for.
Mine: I’ve admitted this before – I love the smell of my dog’s farts.  I know how strange that sounds. I also like the smell of skunks.  And cat breath.
6. What’s a thing you appreciate tremendously, but tend to take for granted? Take a moment to love it consciously again now.

Mine: being an American. Watching Captain Phillips gave me a renewed awareness about what it means to be a citizen of the U.S.

Okay, we’re on a roll now! Let’s keep this vibe going …
7. Think of your favorite dream come true that’s manifested. That’ll be a fun one to recall.

Mine: not sure I can narrow it to one favorite thing, but I absolutely LOVE working from home, in deliberate creation, with fabulous folks like you, with all my dogs and cats nearby. Heaven!

How about some crystal ball appreciation next …
8. What would you love to be giving thanks for a year from now?
This is a good one not just to identify, but to actually practicing giving thanks for in advance. Like it’s already done.
(Way to prep yourself for a great year!)

Mine: another fabulous year with my smelly best friend Joe. (I love that dog!) And celebrating a 46 year old body that looks and feels better than ever before.

Nicely done. Okay, this next one is for the expert appreciators …
9. Name something you love about your latest bit of contrast.
Meaning, in looking at your latest “problem,” what can you love about it?

Mine: my super fun law suit is helping me know just how strong I am, and also helping me build huge manifesting muscles!

And possibly the most powerful way to flow appreciation (this one’s #10 for extra credit):
10. Name five things fast that you love about yourself.
That one, I particularly would love to hear from you on. 🙂
If you’re a GVU member you can hear the conversation between Nancy, Anna, Annette and I on today’s gratitude call.
Hope you enjoyed this Appreciation Work Out! For those of you celebrating the holiday tomorrow, happy Thanksgiving.

For other thanksgiving support resources here at the blog, try:

The Art of Enjoying Thanksgiving
The Power of Ingratitude
Going way back in the archives for my uncommon gratitude post

To all my conscious creating friends across the globe, I just wanted to say thank you. Thank you for being part of my world, thank you for contributing to your manifesting skills, expertise, thoughts and wisdom here at the blog, and thank you for raising the vibration of the planet by being one who focuses on the good stuff.
Big love to you!

  • November 27, 2013

The Power of Pre-Thanks

The Power of Giving Pre-ThanksIt’s a simple alignment practice, but an exceptionally powerful one: giving thanks in advance for what you want as if it’s already here.
It combines the manifesting superpower of apppreciation along with feeling your desire like it’s a done deal.
Lots of us are very practiced at appreciating what is, and being able to focus on the good stuff in real life.
You can extend that practice by giving thanks for your unmanifested desires as if they’re here now.
Alexandria Barker calls this Wishful Thanking, and has an excellent program built around this idea.  (Ha – just noticed Bob Doyle and I are both on her page raving about it!  For the record, I’m not a paid affiliate.)
If you’re wondering how to practice it, it’s really easy:
You know how you give thanks for the things that HAVE manifested?  (You do that regularly, right?) Well, with giving thanks in advance you just flow appreciation for the thing that hasn’t yet manifested.  It shifts your vibe from yearning to having.  It’s a very different instruction.
Maybe you do it by speaking your thanks out loud, or by feeling appreciation in your heart, or smiling as if you’re looking at or holding the very thing in your hot little hand right now.  However you normally share your thankfulness for the good stuff, you just practice it the same way now, in advance.  Get it?
It’s like sending Universe the signal that says “Got what I wanted!” which it has to honor by delivering what you want.  Except it’s even more powerful because it’s got appreciation built in automatically.
Cool, huh?  I think of it as giving “pre-thanks.”  In fact …
Thank you, Universe, for delivering all the great stories and examples in the comments section from fellow creators who have practiced this before, which inspire the rest of us to engage it even more than we already do!
mwah!  🙂

  • September 8, 2012

Taking Appreciation Further

shining the light of appreciationYesterday Phil and I prepped for an appreciation call on the Matt & Phil show which turned into a lovefest for Jerry Hicks after yesterday’s unexpected news of his passing.
And Anthony’s right that it does seem particularly appropriate on this “American Day of Gratitude” to be sharing our appreciation for Jerry and Esther and Abraham.
(Thank you, everyone, for being such good company for the Jerry love.)
My original plan for yesterday’s call with Phil was to take my appreciation practice where it has rarely gone before – into the dark corners and recesses of my life to appreciate things I don’t regularly or easily feel thanks for.
I mean, it’s easy to be happy for good health, all these lovely cats and dogs spending their lives with me, my sweetheart, my comfortable home, fabulous friends and family, and rewarding work. I’m well trained to ignore the rest that doesn’t feel as good.
But I want to expand my appreciation further. Into the places that don’t normally get appreciated. The places that normally get avoided. Maybe you’ll be inspired to join me in growing the places you can find thanks?
Here are a few of the darker places in my life I’m pointing the light of love and thanks for:

  • Our Congress that seems to be incapable of  cooperation or compromise. Maybe I can appreciate their persistence and tenacity in doing what they each believe is right.
  • Citizens of war torn countries who refuse to tolerate their dictators any longer. I’m grateful for the role they’re playing in bringing humanity to a higher level of consciousness.
  • These extra pounds that are virtually forcing me to learn unconditional love for my body. (Such a good teacher!)
  • My ex husband that I had such a great relationship with until recently. I can appreciate that law of attraction has to disappear him from my life when we are on such different frequencies.  (Thank you for the reminder, Bashar.)
  • Corrupt corporations and governments who seem to be gifted at perpetuating their own well-being at the expense of others. I’m firstly thankful that their days seem to be numbered, and also glad I can see we’ve co-created it. No victims here!

How about you?
Whether you choose to post it here or not, I invite you to take your appreciation to the places you might not have brought it before.
Happy Thanksgiving!

  • November 24, 2011

Noticing Five

fiveGot sidetracked from the blog post I was writing (the magic of feeling your feelings) when I read an email about The Noticer Project.
It’s a “worldwide movement to ‘notice’ the five most influential people in your life.”  (Based on the book The Noticer by Andy Andrews.)
Naturally, I started thinking of all the pleasant and supportive people who’ve made a difference in my life – my folks, my third grade teacher Ms. Davis, my favorite coaches, etc. 
But then I thought about my crackhead neighbor.  And a boss I struggled with. 
Which reminded me how Abraham says our true soulmates are the ones who make us want to tear our hair out.
So in honor of Abraham and The Noticer Project, I am noticing the five most influential people in my life who were probably least expected to make this list:
My Crackhead Neighbor – man, I love you!  You taught me SO many valuable things!  Just thinking about what I learned from you brings joyful tears to my eyes.  (For real.) 
I learned that 1) I alone am responsible for how I feel; 2) people are capable of absolutely anything (that means both of us, good and bad); 3) I can commit to how I want to feel despite outside circumstances; 4) I can choose peace instead of war.  You gave me great inspiration to learn releasing resistance under challenging circumstances.  Thank you for that.  I don’t know anyone else who would have had the stubbornness to see me through it.  It’s a privilege to call you my friend today. 
My Ex-Husband – you were right (I made things more important than people); and I was wrong (we should have cemented that strip of grass by the driveway).  And it’s all good.  You and I are living proof that happy endings don’t always look like we expected.  Thank you for your commitment to returning to love through all our ups and downs.  (Plus, I got that marriage thing out of the way so I don’t have to do that again!)
My Old Boss – wow.  I did not see that coming!  What I learned from you really took me by surprise, and has made a lasting impact on my life.  Thank you for teaching me that I am capable of not caring what others think; that I am strong enough to do what’s right over what’s expected; and that winning isn’t most important – enjoying is.
My Ex-Fiance – the third one.  When I think of people who made me want to tear my hair out, I think of that moment I wanted to shoot you at the intersection of 21st and 13th.  (The passionate feelings you inspired me to are good reasons not to have loaded guns on hand.)  But what I’m most grateful for is how through my experience with you I learned that love is found on the inside, not the outside.  That no one can love me like (and until) I can love myself.  Could there be a bigger gift to give someone?  I doubt it.  For that reason, I am forever in your debt.
As for #5, I got a feeling the best is yet to come.  Or maybe we live together now.  Or maybe it’s my best girlfriend who tried to snag a super hot guy out from under me (first time I was inspired to make a strong stand for what I wanted), or the customer “service” rep from Adobe last month (the gift is yet to be seen there).  Just trying to get a couple girls on my list!
I know this much: it’s a pleasure to recognize that our biggest influencers aren’t always wearing white hats.  In fact, the best ones don’t, right?
Let’s hear some of yours …

  • April 14, 2009