I have trouble using the law of attraction when it comes to my little girl, partly because I see her as a little individual and don’t want to have such an influence on her.
She is nearly one, still sleeps in our bed, still wants to breast feed all night and I have not had a full nights sleep since I was pregnant. Now I have just accepted this as part of motherhood but its really taking its toll.
I have asked the universe for my daughter to sleep through the night, in her cot and for me to stop breast feeding all in a perfect way (i.e. no tears, no sleep training). For me this is a big ask of faith so I wanted to ask an expert. Is it possible the universe can do this for me?
I’m turning this one over to the parenting experts in the house … what say you, wise ones?
When my now ex-husband and I decided we wanted to start a family, I remember thinking how easy it would be. I would just stop taking my contraceptives and I would get pregnant, and all would be in order.
Because, really, according to all our high school health teachers, the very instant you even think about not using proper protection, you’re going to get knocked up, right?
At least, that was the way it was supposed to happen.
I remember being a little surprised the first month when it didn’t happen that way. And the second. And the third. On the fourth month, I got annoyed and impatient. On the fifth month, I started worrying.
And that’s when I found out that, at my age (32 at the time), it takes an average of 6 months of trying before you “catch.” So I thought, for sure, the next month would be the lucky one.
So I did what any woman hell-bent on conceiving does; I joined discussion forums where women all over the world could obsess together about the “two-week wait” and whether they had managed to get pregnant yet and what crazy things they would be trying next month to improve their chances if they hadn’t.
I also Googled everything I could about conception and the female reproductive system. And I came up with a fool-proof PLAN. I was on a mission, let me tell you, and this became a project that preoccupied most of my waking thoughts. There were even schedules, people!
And so, “trying” stopped being fun for either of us and instead became a chore; something that had to be done, according to my carefully wrought timetable of course, in order to achieve a particular desired outcome. (“You can’t go out to your game now, dammit — I’m ovulating! Just drop ‘em and let’s get this done!”)
And with every month that passed, it became more and more heartbreaking when the undisputable evidence that I still wasn’t pregnant presented itself. I began to think that it was never going to happen.
Until one day, about a year after we’d begun trying, I just gave up. I still wanted a baby, but I stopped focusing so much on that and on trying to do everything in my power to make it happen THIS month.
I was tired of getting my hopes up, tired of the disappointment and despair, tired of crying, tired of trying…. just tired of the whole frickin’ cycle.
Basically, I got to the point where I just accepted that if it was going to happen, it would happen in its own time, and there was nothing that I could do about it. I just gave it all up to the Universe.
And in true LOA fashion, that’s the point at which it did happen.
It happened when I stopped sending the constant signal out to the Universe that what I wanted most wasn’t in my life yet. It happened when I stopped trying to interfere with how it was going to happen and when I stopped insisting that it happen in a particular time frame.
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