I tend to roll my eyes whenever I hear a conscious creator draw the line on where law of attraction works.
Because it’s in effect everywhere.
There isn’t any part of life that operates outside the “like attracting like” system.
None. No exceptions.
But when I got a note today from a self-professed new student of LOA who wrote about how her vibration created her miscarriage, I suddenly discovered where I drew the line on LOA.
In fact, just yesterday I heard Abraham say, “You can take this LOA crap to a wrong level.”
That was in reference to when Esther didn’t speak up about her bad feeling at the sorting of luggage by cruise ship baggage handlers. (From the Aug 2012 Seattle workshop.)
The young mom writing me had found a peaceful place with her “baby who was born sleeping” (the sweetest term I’ve ever heard for an experience that can permanently take the wind out of anyone’s sails), but I know other conscious creators sometimes struggle to make sense of their role in manifesting something as unwanted as the death of an unborn child.
I am not the expert on this topic, but here’s what I do know …
… any thought that doesn’t feel good isn’t true.
Abe tells us the fact that the thought doesn’t feel good means your inner being won’t join you in that thought. So you’re perceiving the situation in a way that Source doesn’t any time you think a thought that feels bad. Meaning, it’s bogus. You got it wrong.
(No worries, it happens to the best of us. Every day.)
Okay, so to me it does not feel fabulous to think that a mom’s vibration could cause her unborn baby to change his or her mind about being here.
Babies aren’t afraid of contrast. Some of them choose it on purpose to get a head start on all the fabulous things they’ll put in their vortex to manifest later in life.
Here’s the thought that does feel better to me when it comes to understanding miscarriage. (Which means it’s closer to the truth than any thought that feels bad.)
Actually, it’s worth noting that the thought that feels better to me may not work for you. So, this can be a very individual process. Feel free to customize your own better-feeling-thought.
Here’s the thought that feels better to me … (and this may very well be the strangest and worst analogy that ever came to mind, but I’m rolling with it):
You know how when you’re at a party and your friend is going to the john so he asks you to hold his drink for him?
Well, you’re a friend, so of course you’ll hold his beer for him. No big deal.
Did you create the holding of the beer? Well, you were a co-creator, sure. But it was his idea. He’s the one that has to pee or check his hair or whatever is calling him to the john. You are in this together, but he was really driving it.
You’re just the good friend who’s willing to hold two beers till he gets back.
That’s the extent of your role.
You did your buddy a solid.
It’s not your “fault” he needed to go. You’re just at the party together – and yes, you’ve got an extra hand to hold another beer.
These babies have their own intentions. They have their own reasons. They have drives and inspirations that you aren’t necessarily privy to.
You’re just along for this part of the ride.
This isn’t about you as much as it is about him and his journey. So I would ease up on trying to understand how you created a baby’s ‘undoing.’ You didn’t.
And did you notice there how the word ‘undoing’ doesn’t feel so fab? Another indicator we’re misperceiving the truth.
Because babies can’t be undone. In fact, all of us are eternal and everlasting. (That thought feels better to me than the prior one – which means I’m getting closer to truth.)
Some people find it easier to blame themselves than it is their unborn child, but in actuality there is no one to blame and there is nothing gone wrong.
That one can be a tricky thought to grasp at first, but remember – any thought that feels better is closer to the truth.
I suspect the “newbie” to LOA who wrote me this morning is already way ahead of me on this. Like I said, she sounded pretty peaceful. But I’m writing this for creators who haven’t found their way there yet.
Some may interpret this perspective as a bit anti-LOA, but I don’t think it really is when we understand what it is to be a co-creator.
And for the record, I am not saying that death is like taking a bathroom break at a party.
Although, hey … that may very well be the most accurate analogy that ever came to mind.
(Since death isn’t what most of us have been trained to think of it as.)
What I am saying is that these sweet souls have their own reasons for what unfolded. You were just the good friend willing to help out when the favor was asked.
Hold your head high. Not everyone is capable or willing to hold a buddy’s drink at the party.
Disclaimer: this can be a tender topic, and I don’t have any personal experience with it. So please take what I say with a thousand grains of salt, and find your own way to a truth that serves you. Which simply means – find the thought that feels better.
And God bless all the friendly beer holders at the party. You guys rock.
On the Jerry Hicks Says Goodbye post, Suzy wrote:
I really hope Abraham will address Jerry’s passing. They did not address his illness, and I know I was not the only one very distressed by it.
I do not understand why Jerry, who was loving life, having fun, asking questions, envisioning new projects, and clearly eager for more, would die. It does not seem that he was anywhere near finished with his life.
This is something I have long wanted to ask Abraham about. We’ve all heard of many instances of people who are totally loving their lives, blissing out, maybe they’ve just gotten married or had a baby, they’re madly in love, they’ve recently gotten everything in their lives going just as they’ve wanted, they’ve got so much to live for, so much they are thrilled with living, and then, bam, some disaster strikes, and they’re gone. This does not match up with
Abe’s teachings that have made it seem that people either transition because they are experiencing so much pain that their only relief is in leaving physical, or because they’re done creating on this plane and ready to move on. Neither of these was happening with Jerry. So I don’t get it. :/
And this question came to me through facebook:
I am a fan and follower of the LOA, and Abraham Hicks and have been having a hard time with the Jerry Hicks illness/passing. I was hoping maybe you could shed some light on it for me.
Its not the fact that Jerry became ill and passed, because those are things that eventually no one can avoid – but rather that they chose to go withi heavy chemotherapy when Abraham Hicks advocated that you can heal yourself of anything with your thinking/vibration.
It makes me think that if Jerry Hicks, an expert at this couldnt do it, then how can we? This has really shaken my core beliefs and i am having a hard time. any insight or advice would be appreciated very much. Thank you!
Jeannette again: I have to admit, I’m still a little sad after reading Esther’s latest note (about the Phoenix workshop) that was just signed by Esther.
Anyway, if you have helpful thoughts to share regarding the questions popping up, please do. Thank you.
UPDATE: for those interested, here’s what Abraham had to say about Jerry’s death:
And another update from Abraham in May 2012 explaining more about Jerry’s experience:
– Abraham, May 2012, Philadelphia
Some wondered how this could happen if Jerry was practicing deliberate creation as taught by Abe. We had that discussion over here.
In the meantime, here’s the note Esther Hicks emailed about Jerry’s passing on Friday, November 18th:
Dear, dear Friends,
Our sweet Jerry made his transition into Nonphysical last Friday. How sweet the Vortex is feeling to him today!
Jerry said to me when we came together over 30 years ago that given the difference in our ages that it was likely “that I will cut out on you early,” to which I replied, “I don’t mind.” His joy of life and continual new discovery of purpose kept his life feeling fresh and we shared such joyous eagerness for life.
Over the years, Abraham has consistently insisted that there is no death. Again and again they have reminded us that there is only life and more life and more life. It has taken me some time to understand this, and I honestly must say I have not yet fully come to terms with it, but I do believe that in what we are calling Jerry’s death he is discovering the next logical step of life that Abraham has always been talking about. And at times I am catching a glimpse of the bigness of what Jerry is feeling and while I am still pretty mad at him for not sticking around longer to surprise and delight me in all the ways he has been doing throughout our 30 years together I accept fully that the next logical step of joyous life for Jerry was to be found in his re-emergence into Nonphysical.
Since 1985 it has been Jerry and Esther and Abraham and I believe with everything that I am that that has not changed. I know that Jerry will continue to be the third powerful point of the triad of Energy that makes up the Abraham experience and I am certain that his new vantage point will be, as it has always been, of advantage to us all.
I know for sure that Jerry will help me, in time, release my own personal resistance to physical death, because I will not be able to maintain that resistance and also play easily with him. And my desire to continue not only my Abraham experience but also my Jerry experience I am certain he will be the catalyst to help me do what Abraham has been trying to help us all do all along.
Once again, Jerry is out there leading the way for me. But the difference this time is that I must find the way. I am not there yet, but it is my absolute promise to myself that I will find the way, because it is the most natural thing in the world to do and because Jerry has provided for me the reason to do it.
I am eager about what is ahead and while I cannot begin to explain or even imagine the details of how it is all going to play out, I am certain that it will be fun.
I am such a fortunate girl, to have been able to play with Jerry and Abraham and all of you for so many wonderful years and I am so eager to continue doing more of the same for many more years to come. I feel certain right now that not only has nothing gone wrong, but things are going especially right.
It will be different, for sure, but it will also be very, very good.
I’m feeling such love for you all, and for Abraham and most of all for Jerry. And as I have said to him a thousand or more times through the years, “Well isn’t life just a kick in the pants?”
Join me in sending huge thanks and appreciation to Jerry for all that he’s inspired, for all that we’ve benefited from, for all his great stories, for his lovely sense of humor, and for keeping Esther such good company on her amazing journey.
Big love and lots of peace to Esther Hicks and family at this time. Well, all times. But especially this time.
Thank you, Jerry. There is much love for you here.
PS – here’s a lovely Appreciation page from their site.
UPDATE: here’s what Abe had to say about Jerry’s transition:
And here’s another update from an Abraham workshop in Philadelphia on May 19, 2012:
“Jerry made his transition into NonPhysical and the seeming pathway through which he made it was through a cancer, a leukemia. And so, as he was diagnosed, it was very unsettling to both Jerry and Esther because it seemed that it was a contradiction to what they thought they were living. It seemed that it was a manifestation that certainly didn’t match what they were wanting. And, neither one of them was able, especially at first, to acknowledge that there could possibly be anything in Jerry’s Vortex that could be being answered through this process. In other words, it just didn’t seem like it added up. So they spent a lot of time talking about vibration, talking about feelings, and it made both of them aware of two things that they did not understand before. First, they understood that they had some vibrations going on that they did not know were active in their vibration. Jerry had been very keenly aware of cancer. He was aware of it from his father’s experience with it, and he was aware of so many people who were in his terms, “suffering with it”.
And whenever he would meet a physician, and he met a lot of them through his work, if he had an opportunity to visit with them in private, he would always say to them, “When do you think we’re going to as as society begin to start focusing upon the cause rather than the symptom? When do you think that we’re going to get to the vibrational reason for this and not have all of our attention upon the treatment of it?” And he had opinions about all of that – he believed that it was a money-making machine, he believed that there was more benefit for some agencies to be involved in the cure of it than the understanding and the prevention of it. He had a lot of these dynamics going on, more than he realized, more than Esther realized, that was all part of the reason for the details of that being the path of least resistance.
But beyond that, there was a Vortex swirling, a Vortex that Jerry had been creating all of this physical life experience and that was in place even before he came into this physical experience, and long before Jerry and Esther came to know one another in this physical experience, about understanding that there is not death, about understanding that we are eternal Beings, about understanding that Consciousness is an eternal thing, about wanting to understand the interplay between what is Nonphysical and physical, about wanting to teach about the Law of Attraction, the Laws of the Universe, wanting to understand how it all fits together.
But most of all, something that was very BIG in his vibration was an understanding of the eternal nature of Consciousness. And so, and it started long before his introduction to the Seth material but it was really enhanced with THAT material. And then all of the conversations that he had with Abraham in all of the time that passed in the interim.
So, what we’re getting at here – some time ago we wrote a book – it isn’t even in publication anymore – it was called A New Beginning, and the subtitle was called Joyous Survival. And even Esther as she was receiving it thought that it was about taking care of the details of this physical time-space reality and making the right decisions in order to survive, mean remain in the physical body.
But what we meant by that subtitle is that you cannot cease to survive. You cannot cease to be. But the question is, how joyful, how joyous are you in this eternal, ongoing experience that is yours?
So, something that is very vivid in the human experience is a misunderstanding about why you come, and what your intention is in being here and how long you intend to be here and what happens after you are no longer focused in your physical body. In other words, we said to Esther, just the other morning in fact, while Jerry believed that the subject that was of keenest interest to much of the world was how to understand diseases, or how to understand something like cancer, that there’s an even bigger thing that people are wanting to understand from our Perspective, and that is the subject of the death experience, that is the subject of the eternal nature of your Being.
So, you have to make it an individual thing. You have to make it about your relationship with who you really are before you can begin to help anyone else understand it in relationship to who they really are
We want to say to you that if you can find a way – and you can…if you can find a way to let your experience in all this be about your natural relaxing into your conscious awareness of the eternalness of your Being, and let go of a feeling of urgency to CLING TO the specifics of THIS incarnation and THIS time-space reality…In the urgent clinging to what you call THIS LIFE, there is a defiance of your understanding of the eternalness of who you are. And when you let go of that, there is a release into alignment, a release into the Vortex, there’s a release into this Grid of who you are that defies anything that you’ve ever lived before.
And there is so much confusion and misunderstanding about the control that you have from not just your NonPhysical standpoint, but your physical standpoint, about how long you stay, about how you feel while you are here.<
For Jerry, as he relaxed into his vibration, as he found that vibrational place, he said to Esther, “I want you to know that one of two things can happen. Either they’re going to figure this out and I’m going to bounce back into my physical body feeling good or they’re not going to figure this out and I’m going to reemerge into NonPhysical, and in either case I want you to know I’m good.” And Esther said, “Well, good for you, I’m only good with one of those options.” (Soft audience laughter) And we said to Esther, Jerry is the only one who gets to choose. Jerry is the ONLY one who gets to choose.
And Esther realizes now, after watching the experience unfold, that knowing what she now knows, she would have liked it better if they had known before rather than later the deliciousness of letting go, the deliciousness of not struggling and clinging to something that the Vortex is asking for in a different way.
And this is the thing that’s unsettling to so many, because we’ve been talking about Deliberate Creation, and we talk about how you put the components into your Vortex. We just really want you to know that this Vortex is this Pure Positive Energy place and that when you reach for the emotion of who you really are, when you are able to release the resistance and come into pure alignment with who you really are, so that you click into vibrational sync with everything that is in your Vortex, that then the ensuing manifestations and the way the Grid fills in are ALWAYS in sync with that greater wanting.
Humans have been struggling against this for a very long time. We feel it even in the context of these gatherings. People will say, “Abraham, please don’t tell me that there is a bigger plan for me than the one that I’m identifying here and now, because the one I’m identifying is the one I want to play out. And we say, in time you will come to understand that you don’t want to separate those…because the whole point of all of this is understanding…do any of you think that you’re going to remain in your physical bodies forever? Of course you don’t. Everything that you have observed lets you know that you are here as temporary tenants of this. Do you believe that you are more than you see here in these physical bodies? Do you understand that who you are as a Consciousness is reflected in the personality that you know as you?
This is the thing that is so exhilarating to Esther because she has the benefit of being able to chat with Jerry on a daily basis. Any time she is wanting, she can sit, get into that vibrational place and begin to receive him. She’s doing it mostly through her computer as she is writing because she focuses what she wants to talk about and then she receives him fully.
But there is NO QUESTION in Esther’s mind that Jerry is FULLY the personality that she knew as him, minus any resistance, REVELING in the wholeness of who he is, you see. And so, what HE is about is helping all of you to understand that there IS no death, there is no ending to that which you are, that there is a changing of scenery, that there is a changing of experience, that there is certainly a changing of perspective in that there’s the releasing of resistance, but there IS no ceasing of that which you are.
And it is his fervent desire that you come to a place where you are able to let go of that clinging to life which is IRRATIONAL because there is no way that you can separate yourself FROM it, and once you accomplish that, then you will continue as he IS, to live happily ever after.
We don’t want it to be such a resistance about the reemerging into the NonPhysical that that resistance…
It’s like the very thing you worry about is the thing that makes sure that the very thing that you worry about happens. Isn’t that an interesting thing?
Friends, if you can accept the eternal nature of your Being and stop the clinging, the irrational clinging to something that is not at risk, all disease would cease to be on this planet. The disease is evidence of the resistance of the very thing you fear. You see how that is?”
-Abraham, May 2012, Philadelphia<
Here’s another clip from Abe after being asked if Jerry died from resistance:
A dear friend of mine, and of many in this Good Vibe community, lost his nine year old stepdaughter in a traffic accident on Mother’s Day.
Her memorial is tomorrow, and our friend is asking the toughest questions when dealing with tragic death.
“How did I manifest this?” he asks. “And why? I’m doing my best to create better vibes, but my thinking is shot to hell.”
I’ll post my response for whatever it’s worth (as someone who hasn’t been through this experience), but I’d love to hear input from other creators who are willing to offer helpful and supportive perspectives.
How do you answer the toughest law of attraction questions about death and our role in creating it? What would you say to someone feeling the weight of responsibility and loss at a time like this?
I’m turning this one over to you all, since it’s the best way I know how to help.
And sending enormous love and compassion to our dear friend, Michael, and his entire family.
PS – I’ll post a link to her memorial fund as soon as I can find it.