How would you go about supporting someone who is seriously ill without bringing it into your vibration?
My mom is dealing with stage 4 cancer, and I recently had two cancer scares of my own.
I want to be there for her, and support her however I can, but how would you guys go about being supportive without allowing it to affect your vibe?
When you hear it like that, it feels like standing between a rock and a hard place.
But I know you guys will have good tips.
What do you say to someone who wants to support a loved one through a challenge while steering clear of that vibration?
Thanks in advance for sharing your insights!
We’ve got a great question from a savvy creator who feels stuck. She’s wondering if it’s time to face reality.
What do you say we give this fellow creator some TLC? She’s looking for new insights on an old problem:
I hope I can ask this question of you because I have run out of doctors, acupuncturists, and therapists to ask.
I have a job that I really do love. Great people, great work, great benefits and pay. I would rather work from home, but until then I have a terrific job.
But I am constantly plagued by illnesses that keep me from going to work. And because I miss so much work I am losing a LOT of my pay so I am behind on my mortgage and have several loans/credit cards. My employer is so wonderful that because of my illnesses and doctor’s notes they allow me to make up time by working from home. But then something will happen where I am unable to get the computer connected.
I spend several times a day feeling the feelings of having everything paid off or feeling healthy. And overall I feel I am a pretty happy person. Plus I say Thank You a LOT for the pennies I find, the green lights I get, the beautiful people I see.
I think my faulty thinking is that “something” is trying to keep me down because either I don’t deserve the things I want or that i am being kept down because there is something to learn from what I am going through. I wouldn’t say I have these thoughts/feelings often but I am afraid they might be a core belief.
And I try to counteract these with telling myself that’s not true; my feelings and thoughts determine what I manifest.
I have being trying so hard for so long and so many things (western medicine, eastern medicine, acupuncture, feng shui, and even just giving up and allowing/accepting what is happening and even being grateful for my illnesses, days off work, and bills) and I feel like I am getting nowhere!
I also sometimes feel that my attitude of it will all work out is hurting me. That I am not facing reality. But then the other part of me shouts out that this reality will change as soon as I “believe enough” or “feel the right way.” But then that makes me feel like I am not doing it right either. I just don’t know!
I am really hoping that you have a fresh perspective on this and that you have some wisdom for me.
Thank you so much for all that you do and that you share!!!
I know this is such a compassionate community that many of you are already wanting to help out just after reading that.
Let’s start by practicing some outsourcering where we see our friend healthy, happy and thriving and then share inspired thoughts in the comments.
Thanks, everyone! 🙂
How to help manifest a loved one’s healing? It’s a situation many of us bump into sooner or later.
Today’s question comes from a reader who has tried visioning her son’s health and wellness, but his symptoms persist.
Here’s the question:
It’s easier to manifest healing in oneself. However I am having challenges when it comes to healing for my son.
He developed some pain on his legs and all the doctors and lab tests come up clean. The doctors are stumped and I am at my wits’ end. I try to see him healed and well again but … it does not seem to be working.
Any ideas or tips on what process I can do?
I’ve run into this challenge myself when it comes to the health and vitality of my dogs and cats. (That’s one of my toughest times for being able to focus on what I want vs. don’t want.)
Since this can be a highly charged situation even for LOA savvy folks, I’m soliciting your wisdom.
Thanks in advance for sharing your thoughts and experiences, fellow creators!
Earlier this week on her GVU call Flavia Daay and I discovered we’re both sick with cold/flu symptoms.
It led to a sweet conversation about our mutual experiences, that sounded suspiciously like “being sick in the vortex.”
(Click here for a reminder of what the vortex is.)
We’re sharing thoughts here in hopes they help you next time you want to release resistance to illness …
I love how I’m navigating the different aspects of this cold. In the past eight years each time I’ve experienced flu symptoms, the experience of allowing the healing to happen has gotten progressively better. The love and appreciation I feel for my body, my brilliant co-creator, gets deeper.
With each experience I notice I trust my body more and more. I’m letting it lead me in such a smooth, gentle way towards what feels better and most comfortable in any moment, toward what feels most like ease. I let go lovingly for the sake of enabling my body to do what it knows how to do.
I’m really glad I’m not bothered by the occurrence of this cold. I accept it wholeheartedly. I feel no judgment around why I attracted this. This time I know that if it’s happening, it’s happening FOR me. It’s for the best somehow and I can find many reasons. Like Abraham says, when you are sick, your body is asking for health and well-being stronger than ever before. So maybe every now and then a little cold fortifies the body?! That thought feels good to me right now.
I also feel clear about what caused my life force to be pinched off a bit. A feeling of overwhelm (on Saturday I did say it would take me 3 days to do what I wanted to do that day) and the letting go of a relationship, which I felt my way through and now feel at peace about.
I’ve taken lots of actions, like drinking lots of lemon juice, apple cider vinegar, coconut oil, some fresh veggie and fruit juices. I even received inspiration to watch a Teal Scott video that reminded me to gargle with salt water.
And when I couldn’t sleep well the first night I let it be okay instead of resisting it. And it actually helped me feel more refreshed during the day on much less sleep and the subsequent nights it actually helped me fall sleep despite not being able to swallow easily.
But it’s really not the actions that matter. It’s how I felt doing them. I did them with loving care. I even love my echinacea honey lemon drops that have helped me ease into sleep. I used to not want to buy cough drops thinking it would mean I expected to be sick and need them. But then I decided nothing has inherent meaning and I choose to buy it with the idea that I may never need it (like an umbrella that you take with you and it never rains) but if I did need it, then it would be there for me.
I can really see so many valuable things that have come out of this experience. I’m in genuine awe and appreciation and the result of that can only be it moving faster, more un-hindered through my body. The Communion of Light says “everything wants to evolve” and I’m so happy I have been enabling my body to do just that.
When you put it like that, Flavia, who wouldn’t want to get sick now and then?!
I myself noticed how interesting it was to be in the house yesterday just resting, without all my usual busy-ness online or on the phone. I cancelled everything I felt comfortable cancelling, and prepared for a day of mostly “nothing.” To just be present to the stillness of the day.
The dogs and the cats snoozed nearby as usual, and it was rewarding to get a glimpse of their every day life. This is how it could be for me, too – if I just created more stillness to be present to it. The sun moving slowly through the living room. Birds flitting about the trees outside. The sound of the heater turning on, and then off again. So still and lovely.
And here I was still and lovely, too. Because of this cold that required me to slow down and rest.
What a gift!
Flavia and I laughed about how interesting our new voices were, with sore throats and stuffy noses. I shared how nice it was to have support from friends and family – mom offering to send over soup, ex-beau covering vet appointments for me, friend & colleague Lisa asking what she could take over, another ex-beau picking up cleaning chores. How gratifying to remember how much everyone loves and supports us.
Being at rest while my body manages this bug has also given me the opportunity to embrace my diva self. Finding a way to know what serves me best and allow that to unfold. No martydom here. I’m a diva with gusto!
Flavia mentioned this video where Teal Scott says it’s not so much a crisis of illness that we’re experiencing as it is a crisis of healing. That’s what the body’s doing to rid itself of the internal toxins – sneezing, coughing, etc. to remove the buildup of toxicity. That’s a nice way to think of it. This isn’t something gone wrong, this is perfectly healthy!
Maybe you have some nice thoughts or experiences to share about appreciating “illness”? If so, we’d love to hear them!