The other night I played a game with a love interest called the “Back Reading Challenge.”
It’s where you spell out words on the other person’s back with your fingertip and they try to guess the word.
Whoever wins the round (we each get three words per round) gets 5 minutes of the other person doing their bidding.
For our last challenge I went 8-0 and scored a 5 minute shoulder rub, a foot rub, a scalp massage, scruffing the cat so I could clean her ears, sorting through my stack of mail, a lower back massage, 5 minutes of sweet nothings whispered in my ear (which was hilarious: “You have a nicely shaped scalp”), and emptying the dishwasher.
I am good at this challenge.
What makes me good at reading words written on my back is the same thing that makes me a good manifestor.
Let me back up …
And Abraham agrees it’s a matter of letting our Inner Being guide the way to what we want?
Right. They’re saying let inner inspiration lead us to our manifested dreams.
Sounds simple enough, but anyone who’s tried it on a regular basis knows it can be easier said than done.
Mostly because we have trouble hearing inspiration above the noise of our own monkey mind trying to figure things out ourselves.
So when you’re creating a successful business and you get in the way of inner inspiration by anticipating that you’ll need a niche, and a catchy tag line, and a good optin for growing a list, etc. you’re drowning out your ability to hear true inspiration, which might very well be different than what you were expecting.
Or when you’re creating a true love relationship and you think you should post a profile online, and start going out more, maybe let friends introduce you to other single friends … you know what? Maybe that’ll get you there. Maybe not.
You don’t really know unless you’re letting inspiration guide the way.
And if you’re not letting inspiration lead, you’re handicapped.
That’s why I won 8-0 last night, because I know how to set my monkey mind aside and listen for the rest of the clues.
Here’s what I mean …
When someone’s spelling a mystery word on your back, the tendency is to try to figure out the word as soon as you have the first few letters.
And that messes you up for catching the next ones.
Example: as soon as I “read” C, O, and N my mind started racing to come up with potential words: contact, construction, conflict, connoisseur … but when the fourth letter was a c, my brain got even more tangled up trying to think up conc- words, which it had trouble with. (It was thinking hard c, which didn’t make sense.)
That’s the same way your brain gets tangled up figuring out how to make money or move across the country or whatever your current manifestation project is.
When we get inspirations that don’t make sense, we tend to ignore them and move forward with what we think the answer should be.
Like, “This is where I offer a group program,” or “Maybe it’s time to hire a matchmaker,” or “What if I just buy more lottery tickets?”
That is not the way.
If those instructions aren’t from inner guidance, there is a guaranteed better way to what you want!
The only actions to take are the ones inspired by the part of you that knows the way there. Not the ones conjured by your manipulating monkey mind.
When we stop trying to figure it out on our own, and listen for the next clues, we’ll have a much better track record.
Which is why I reminded myself to stop trying to guess the word and just pay attention to the next letter.
The word was conscience. Which I was able to get because I was listening for the next letters rather than concluding or guessing what the word was.
“Just let it come to you,” I self-coached. “He’ll give you everything you need to know.”
Contrasted by when I gave him a word, he got distracted by thinking up words that fit and missed important letters as a result.
Even after I told him what was tripping him up, he still didn’t bank a win. Because it’s just not that easy to pause the mind’s turning wheels if you’re not already practiced at it.
Admittedly, he almost had me when he started using words I didn’t know.
But I know how to trust what’s given to me.
And when guidance says:
I know how to trust what inner knowing puts before me.
Conscious creators know how to leverage this inner resource, too. It’s why we can manifest dreams come true more easily than those taking the muggle approach.
Another helpful hint (for manifesting success as well as back reading challenges) is not to skip ahead thinking I know how it ends before it’s done … like the way I tricked him into guessing Halloween when I’d only drawn the H, A, L, L, O, W, E. (The last letter was D, but he lost when he guessed wrong. I had my heart set on that foot rub!)
Ok, I’ll confess – I’ve done that in my manifesting work before. (Skipping ahead thinking I knew what guidance was going to say.)
But I’m learning how not to.
The mind tries to make sense of things. It wants to know in advance.
That’s our downfall in conscious creation as well as in back reading challenges, because we aren’t supposed to figure it out for ourselves. We’re just supposed to follow the signs.
Bashar says the physical mind isn’t supposed to know what the higher mind does. We need to stop listening to our physical (limited) mind for day to day guidance toward our biggest dreams and desires.
When you know how to curb your brain’s tendency to try to figure it out, you give yourself a tremendous manifesting advantage.
It works for conscious creation as well as back reading games. 🙂
Be willing to not know in advance, pay attention to the next clue being offered, even when it doesn’t make sense, and trust you’ll find your way there.
It’s a winning formula all around.
This excerpted story by Dan Wetzel comes from the Yahoo Sports page.
I’ve shared it with clients this week because of the inspiration the last two sentences offer for being able to view a challenging or discouraging situation from a more empowering point of view.
The bolded sections are my favorite parts (including finding a positive perspective, purposeful appreciation, and incorporating strong expectations).
Hope you enjoy it as much as I did!
TAMPA, Fla. – Sean McHugh had just bought his family’s first house in suburban Detroit.
He’d just found out his wife, Ashlee, was pregnant with their second child, a daughter to go along with their then-18-month-son, Jack – though the excitement was tempered due to some early complications with the pregnancy.
The good news was McHugh had just survived final cut day with the Detroit Lions, meaning he was all but assured another year in professional football. He hoped to start at fullback and would play for the league minimum – about $520,000 for his experience level.
But just before the first practice in September, he was summoned to the office of team president Matt Millen. He knew the drill.
“When they come get you and Matt wants to talk to you, it’s never a good thing,” McHugh said. “You just have a sinking feeling. You walk through the locker room, up a flight of stairs and you just think, ‘What the heck is going on?’ ”
What was going on was that he got cut, fired, laid off by Detroit. The team had signed someone else and to make room, McHugh was out.
Just like that, Sean McHugh was deemed not good enough to play for the lowly Lions, who would go winless – the first 0-16 season in league history.
If you’re not good enough to play for the worst team ever, who exactly are you good enough to play for?
“What are we going to do?” he thought.
How about play in the Super Bowl?
Within days of Detroit cutting him, he unexpectedly signed with the Pittsburgh Steelers. Four months later he finds himself here preparing for a shot at an NFL championship against the Arizona Cardinals.
Cut by the worst team, McHugh may wind up part of the best.
“That’s the thing I’ll never understand,” he said. “They didn’t think I was good enough to be on the worst team in the history of the NFL, but the people here think I’m good enough to help the team out and play in the Super Bowl.
“I go from getting cut from the Detroit Lions and thinking life’s over and flash-forward and now you’re getting ready to play for a Super Bowl.”
There’s never been a story like McHugh’s in the NFL because there’s never been a team as bad as the Lions this season. This isn’t just worst to first, it’s worst-ever to first.
“You go from the lowest low to the highest high,” he smiled.
McHugh is a blue-collar guy from outside of Cleveland. He knows how fortunate he is to play a single down in the NFL, let alone parts of four seasons with his current salary. He’s hesitant to compare his situation to the estimated 2.6 million Americans who lost their jobs in 2008.
He wasn’t living check to check. He was pursuing a dream. He gets it.
Still, getting fired is getting fired. The fact he’s never had more than a one-year deal means he has more in common with the fan in the stands than many of his mega-millionaire teammates.
“It’s not like I have money set away so I can spend the rest of my life not working,” he said. “We’ve been smart and lived within our means and saved so we have a cushion. But it’s a very real possibility that that money is going to run out.
“One of the hardest things you have to deal with [is] failing and feeling that you’re not good enough,” he said. “It’s a whole series of emotions.
McHugh contemplated his future. Was his career over at 26? Or could he catch on somewhere else? He had a bad ankle so the prospects weren’t good. Besides, was bouncing all over best for a young family? McHugh had long thought about becoming a high school coach; was this reality forcing a decision?
Ashlee, he said, helped him look at it in a positive way. They had college degrees. They were healthy (the pregnancy has progressed fine). Something would work out.
That night the phone rang. It was McHugh’s agent.
“Hey, the Steelers want to bring you in and check you out,” the agent said.
Three days later he was signed for the season. He’s been mostly a reserve fullback, making the most of his chances, doing the dirty work of blocking. He’s marveled at the culture of success that the Steelers organization has established.
“There is an expectation when you become a Pittsburgh Steeler that you’re going to win,” he said. “And anything less than that is not acceptable. In Detroit it was like you were hoping to win.”
Only as the season played on, no matter how hard they hoped, Detroit didn’t win. Week after week as Pittsburgh experienced success, McHugh’s old team dealt with failure. He looked on with mixed emotions.
It’s a little bit of redemption, a little bit of success in the face of distress; a little bit about remembering that what appears to be the worst thing can turn out to be the best.
“A door closed,” McHugh said, “and a world opened.”