He tells us that when we experience change in life, it isn’t that we changed the world we live in, rather we changed which world we live in.
Because they all exist simultaneously.
I don’t know about you, but that stuff trips me out.
What does it really mean? And more importantly, what does it mean for us?
For me, it puts my biggest dreams and desires within very real reach. Because on some level, in some way, it’s already a done deal. It’s already happening.
It isn’t something I have to try to create or manifest – it already exists. All there is for me to do is become a vibrational match to that alternative reality, and that’s what I’ll experience.
Which is why I’ve been investing in these realities:
and my enduring favorite: “Holy sh*t, I make a lot of money!”
It’s all happening – every possibility we could imagine – and it’s all within reach. All we have to do is choose it.
What reality do you choose?
Remember, we choose not by ‘wanting’ it but by how we focus. Through what we consistently see, speak, think, act and feel. It’s the energy that we’re vibrating, or the frequency that we’re being, that dictates what we experience.
Just a friendly reminder in case you were playing small or making dreams hard to get. 😉
And hey – if you’re wondering how to pick a new vibration, that’s the subject of a new call series at Good Vibe U that everyone is welcome to join us for. (Next call is this Thursday the 25th. See calendar for dial in details.)
Today’s guest post comes from Juan G. in Mexico, who did an excellent job of answering a big question many thoughtful creators run across. Here’s his question as well as his brilliantly inspired answer:
Is it really necessary to deny What IS?
Have you ever had special trouble with some bit of LOA advice?
So first, full disclosure:
I am a practicing psychoanalyst, with some stints at Buddhist meditation (a few silent retreats and some sitting practice at home).
Both practices are quite rational and I tend to be pretty skeptical. So I usually take a looong time before accepting anything new or “loony”, and seldom before lengthy consideration.
Still, if I’ve learned something at those experiences is that both take you a long way into accepting what IS, and that doing so allows you to avoid a lot of suffering and frustration.
Then, searching for “good vibes” I stumbled into LOA and Jeannette. As my background allowed, everything about resistance, obscure lurking wishes that go against what you say you want, and tripping thought habits made a lot of sense.
All fine. And then it came! The piece of advice that created a whole lot of noise.
It went something like this: “Make peace with what IS, while at the same time pretending that what really IS is whatever you want.”
Talk about cognitive dissonance!
I had accepted a lot, but I HAD a struggle with this one.
What about my commitment to truth?! What about accepting What IS and making peace with it?!
Psychoanalysis is all about wishes and desires, and how to stop being your best worst enemy. Buddhism is all about how to overcome ignorance, develop better thought habits and stop your desires from being a cause of suffering.
None of them advises you to deny or ignore what IS (be it actual or psychic “reality”). Both tell you everything has a cause, every choice an effect.
And this LOA was telling me to go all against I had so hardly learned? No way, baby!!!
Then Ortega y Gasset, a great Spanish philosopher came to my rescue. He used to say: “”I am I and my circumstance.”
“I am I AND my circumstance”? So maybe What IS is What IS Plus it’s Possibilities!!! And with that, I made peace with myself!
What IS is What IS, of course. But it is also the craddle of everything to come, isn’t it?
And our wishes and desires are a big part of the recipe.
Do any of you guys identify with this? Any thoughts?
Jeannette again: Thank you, Juan, for such a thoughtful piece! I’m looking forward to reading everyone’s responses here!
Deliberate creators know:
We create the truth (aka reality) via our conscious attention. Meaning, whatever we focus on comes to life.
We also know that as we pay attention to what already is, we get more of the same.
Which is why we’re cautioned not to focus on something we don’t want, even if it’s “true.”
Makes good sense considering the power of our attention, and I’ve practiced this myself with great success.
Like when I refused to see “no clients” on my schedule and instead insisted I was a brilliant coach in high demand. (I sounded nuts but it worked!)
However, are there times when refusing to acknowledge the truth can be detrimental?
And savvy creators seek to know the difference.
Example: if the kid falls out of the tree and sprains something, even though it’s not what we want, acknowledging the reality of the injury and visiting the doctor may be a good idea.
So when is it smart to include the “truth” in your manifesting process and when is it best to ignore it?
Sometimes we manifesters resist the reality of life. Ignoring the “truth” in those situations may impede our manifesting progress. (Since what we resist, persists.)
And what about flat out “lies”?
Indeed, is there any such thing when we know that speaking is what makes it so? Maybe a “lie” is just a truth that hasn’t manifested yet.
(That’s why I had to stop calling in sick to work when I wasn’t. Within an hour or so of reporting in sick, my throat started getting scratchy or my stomach queasy. Had to start saying instead “I’m taking a mental health day.”)
This is a topic I’d like to hear from you all on.
What is the role of “truth” in your manifesting process?
I was thinking maybe it’s that the truth of our feelings are never to be ignored; but certain situations or circumstances are okay to.
Like pretending I’m fine when I’m not … I rarely get back to feeling fine with that approach. It works better for me when I own that I’m in a bad mood, in which case I get over it no time.
And maybe it’s perfectly appropriate to ignore the clock that tells me I’m out of time … maybe that’s a “truth” worth skipping when my intention is to have plenty of it.
Or maybe it’s that when we have resistance to the current reality, that resistance needs cleaning up before anything can shift. So that’s an instance when ignoring what’s so doesn’t serve.
Thanks in advance for the clarity developed here as you share your thoughts and experiences!
PS – Flavia shared this Abe video at GVU that goes into more detail about our role in creating truth:
This question I meant for us to cover on yesterday’s Q&A call at Good Vibe U, but figured it’s a also a perfect one for the community here. An LOA savvy creator asks this question:
Question: Is it confusing to the Universe or even contradictory to have a dream, but still go about daily life in the normal way? Does going about your real life (in a positive state) overrule the bigger dream?
Maybe the real question is how do you go about your “regular” life while you are waiting for the bigger dream to happen?
Who hasn’t wondered this one before, right?
Like, if my dream is financial abundance, but I’m scraping together change for a grocery run, am I confusing Universe with contrary signals?
Or if my dream is to be healthy and fit, but I can barely stand up when I get out of bed, how does that work?
Or if I’m dreaming of self-employment, how do I go to my job every day?
Looking forward to your insightful responses!
Fabulous question just posted on the prior blog post by Caterpillar Woman. I think you’ll agree it deserves its own spotlight here in our Q&A series.
We were talking about how action has a vibration that cues Universe what to deliver you, and for that reason it’s crucial our actions align with what we want. But … well, here’s Caterpillar Woman’s question:
I get it. You can insist, “But I love you!”, but if you’re beating the person up as you say it, you’re not actually vibrating love.
The thing is, HOW do you act “wealthy” if you’re not? Wealthy people pay all their bills on time and spend money on things they want and need, right? What if you haven’t got the money to do that? How on earth are you supposed to act out a vibe of “I’m wealthy” without sending yourself into debt and maybe bankruptcy?
Also, with something like health. How do you act like you’re not diabetic? Or act like you don’t have arthritis? How do you act healthy if you’re not?
I keep asking this, and have asked it for years. So far, I’ve never gotten a satisfactory answer. I hope someone here… no. I’m SURE that someone here will be able to answer that in a way that makes perfect sense to me and gives me an “ah hah!” moment.
So, thank you to whomever has that answer for me. I know you’re there, and you’ll put it into words I can understand.
This is probably one of my all time favorite questions so far. Not just because the answers require creativity, but because once we have answers, hee hee, well I just can’t stop giggling at the thought of what happens once we have those answers!! woo hoo!!
Turning it over to you brilliant community members for response. (And thank you in advance for sharing your perspectives and thoughts!)
Okay, after listening to Abraham make fun of blogs (August 2008 workshop in Los Angeles), of course I couldn’t help but blog about it!
(Good thing I’ve learned not to care so much what others think, or it might have hurt my feelings!)
The message was included in one of Abe’s rants about not letting reality be as important as we think it is. Or as Abe sometimes calls it: getting over “what is-itis.”
Abe implied our blogs (or blaaaahh-gs, to be exact) are just recaps of the very reality we don’t want – which by writing endlessly about, we reinforce.
That was actually a nice plug for the power of pray rain journaling (using the power of the written word to create your preferred reality). And it also inspired an idea for a “fantasy blog” where we write about life like we want it, rather than how it is. That’d be cool, huh?
At any rate, you Abe fans already know their point is that since we get what we’re focused on, by paying attention to “what is” (whether by writing, talking, or thinking about it), we can only create more of the same.
The challenge for most of us is that reality seems so .. well, REAL. Ignoring it is easier said than done.
But Abe reminds us that there are plenty of things that are “real” we can sink our teeth into that make us feel fabulous. (And how we feel is what matters most, after all.)
Their suggestion is to at least direct our attention to those fabulous-feeling realities if we’re going to ridiculously insist on paying attention to what’s “real.” But Abe also informs us there’s another reality many don’t see. That’s our “vibrational reality”: the things we create through experiencing what we don’t want (i.e. “contrast”).
Every time we experience something we don’t want, we immediately and automatically create the opposite of it. That creation exists in our “vibrational escrow” or “vortex.” That’s where all our financial abundance and perfect health and gorgeous bodies and true loves and brilliant successes hang out – till we line up with them.
Abe says just because you can’t “see” it yet doesn’t mean it isn’t “real.” It is. It’s real and it’s coming. That’s inevitable. And if we don’t get to enjoy it before we check out, no worries because someone else will (or maybe even we will on our next go-round.)
The important thing to know is that we can let ourselves in on that vibrational party now by feeling good. By getting happy.
And if we have to run away from home to get happy, or go to the beach every day to feel good, or whatever it takes to feel better, that’s what we must do in order to get in on the goods! (Seriously, that’s what Abe said.)
Pretty simple message, huh?
Yeah, I know.
We’ve got LOTS of excuses about why it’s not that easy! But that’s all they are – excuses. Habits. Reasons that don’t serve us.
What if we raised the standards on how we felt, and no longer tolerated anything that took a vibrational toll on us?
Oh my. Talk about upsetting the apple cart, huh?! (I’m liking the sounds of this!)
But the truth is I don’t think reality is as hard to enjoy as we sometimes think. Maybe that’s easy for me to say where I stand now. However, having changed many circumstances and people in my life just to find that the same challenges awaited on the other side – I’ve come to believe that feeling good and being happy is possible no matter what the situation.
At any rate, I’m glad this blog doesn’t keep us stuck in “reality,” but rather inspires us to step outside our old creations and live into our current dreams and desires. All of which happens as YOU bring this forum to life by creating thoughtful conversations and sharing important suggestions and helpful resources on the topic of deliberate creation with the law of attraction.
Thank you for being part of this leading edge community, and here’s to a blog that supports our highest growth and sweet success and biggest dreams come true!
Michael Neill’s recent newsletter got my attention. Not just because I’m a fan of both Michael and Katie, but also because I, too, regularly encourage people to find a perspective that feels better.
Often clients hear that request (to find a better feeling perspective) as instruction to “deny reality.” But the truth is that there’s no such thing as black and white “reality.” All there is is our perspective of the world, which is what creates our “truth.”
If we find a different angle from which to view the world, we can find a better way to feel about it. And that changes everything.
Here’s the story Michael shared while making the case for purposely shifting from victim role to creator role (which is how we transform “bad news”):
The other day a client I’ll call Dale said to me “Can you believe what’s going on with the economic stimulus package?”
When I said I could, he said “I mean, it’s like both sides are putting scoring political points ahead of taking care of the country.”
After nodding my head in agreement to this and a few more statements like it, I finally asked him what it was about the possible accuracy of his observation that was causing him to act like a victim of it.
“What do you mean?” he asked. “Are you implying that I’m NOT a victim of this? After all, I didn’t create this – I don’t even have a mortgage. But my business is still suffering for it. If anyone’s a victim of this economy it’s me!”
I then told him a story about the foibles of living in a victim culture.
A few years back, Byron Katie was a guest on a show I was hosting. As she likes to do, rather than be interviewed she chose to work with callers. The first woman who called in unfolded her story hesitantly, and it was a horrific one. She had been kept in a cage as a child, and was subject to many of the things you would expect someone who was kept in a cage to have been subject to.
After about ten minutes with Katie, this woman had found a peace with her childhood experience that had eluded her for nearly thirty years. While as a child she had been an innocent victim, as an adult she was able to let go of that victim status and reclaim her rightful place as the creator of her experience and the owner of her life. And then, much to my surprise, the phone calls started coming. Rather than congratulate Katie on the awesome shift she had been able to facilitate in this woman, person after person (some of them proudly declaring themselves as therapists and counselors) denounced Katie for “making it OK” for this woman to be free of the past she had carried with her for most of her life.
What this story points to is both our cultural tendency to see ourselves as victims (and in so doing create a world filled with villains and heroes), and the potential any one of us has IN ANY MOMENT to make different choices and create a completely different experience of being alive.
The minute you make the shift from victim to creator, what’s happening in the world stops being bad news (or even good news) and becomes instead simply information – information you can use to make informed decisions about what you want to create moving forward.
I think three things are important here:
This post is long enough, so I’ll leave it at that for now. Thanks to Michael for sharing such valuable insight, and as always, I’d love to hear your thoughts. 🙂
I have to admit that although I pride myself on being open to new possibilities (and thus new realities), there are some things that even I take for granted.
For example, that microwaved food is not healthy. And that deep breathing is. That sleeping with the tv on is not a good habit, and that giving to charity is.
I mean, there are some things we can always count on, right? Those things are the “givens” in our world. It’s what we KNOW.
Sometimes, though, what we KNOW doesn’t serve us. And when that’s the case, it’s important to remember that nothing’s set in stone.
Lately, it seems, there’s been a lot of evidence that reminds me to question what I “know.”
Including Garrett Gunderson’s Killing Sacred Cows, where he says many things we financial planners were taught as rock solid truths actually don’t serve the average investor.
Gunderson’s argument was so convincing that I started rethinking investment principles I’ve assumed true for decades. (Including that regular savings, added up over time, benefiting from the power of compound interest growth, is a super solid investment strategy.
Maybe, maybe not.
My world was turned even more upside down after reading an article outlining several important medical benefits from indoor tanning. (Health benefits from tanning beds?! I gotta say I like it!)
Late last year I heard a very credible doctor tell me the best way to lose weight was to get more sleep. (Which fit perfectly with the “I lose weight while I sleep” mantra I’d just created.)
Fellow coach Zoe Routh recently introduced me to a resource designed to improve health by correcting the “over oxygenation” most people experience.
There’s such a thing as too much deep breathing??
Is nothing sacred?
Apparently not. Last year I was talking to a highly esteemed scientist (his title too complex to remember right), and he said that there is no real evidence that microwaves are bad for us. I’d chalk him up to crazy, if I hadn’t recently heard that 31,000 scientists have signed their name to a petition denying global warming.
What about eating salads, right? We all know leafy greens are good for us – the more the better! “A salad a day” was what I was taught to strive for.
And yet, at the Chopra Center’s “Perfect Health” week retreat, I learned through ayurvedic study of my imbalanced doshas that I needed to stop eating salads and instead eat heavier foods (like sour cream, guacamole, mm!).
What else do we know for sure? That terrorists attacked the World Trade Center on September 11, 2001? Don’t be so sure.
Kim Falconer’s explanation of reality served to scramble even more ideas about what’s real and what’s not. (Thanks for a scientific perspective I can understand, Kim!)
I don’t share these various examples to suggest we stop saving or recycling or exercising or breathing deeply, but rather to just to remind us to question what “realities” we’d change if we could.
Because, indeed, we can.