Holding resentments and grudges is a great way to mess up our alignment.
Which is why so many spiritual teachers talk about practicing forgiveness.
I’ve never been a big fan of forgiveness, though, because in order to practice it one is required to assume the position of “someone done me wrong.”
Conscious creators know that ultimately there’s no such thing as a ‘victim’ since we only get what we vibrate. Nothing happens to us that we’re not already aligned with.
So forgiveness has never lit me up because I can’t really buy into the belief that I’m a victim. Just doesn’t fly with LOA principles. I mean, sure, I can have kinky vibes all over the place, but my experiences are 100% my creations.
So the closest I really get to “forgiveness” these days is cutting my own self some slack for messy vibes. But even then, contrast is what fuels the system, so it’s still all good, no matter what.
Having said that, it does feel super fab to liberate myself from resentments and grudges.
My favorite way to do that is something I learned from dad a few years ago, when I heard him say, “I don’t hold anything against anyone any more.”
Just saying it feels good!
Even if I don’t mean it quite all the way yet, it helps me get to a more free place when I repeat it out loud.
Right now it’s an ideal I aspire to. And I can get there by speaking it into existence – again and again.
It’s what I remind myself when I feel the constrictive energy that comes with thoughts like:
When I’m tired of entertaining a blamey type thought, instead of practicing forgiveness, I just repeat dad’s mantra: “I don’t hold anything against anyone any more.”
And I like the idea of it so much that I can feel resentment start to melt away. I can feel the grudge slipping through my formerly graspy fingers as I dial off of thoughts about how someone did me wrong.
My dad is the first to say he’s still got sticky places of his own, where the mantra isn’t fully true on all subjects.
But every time we engage it we get closer to peace, freedom, and higher alignment.
And that’s something I can get behind.