Great question in from someone using the money mantra that I don’t feel super qualified to answer, so I’m calling in you guys (aka the Big Guns).
The question is: are our attraction skills more powerful when we refrain from sexual intercourse?
For those who might think this an odd question, it isn’t.
There are multiple law of attraction instructors (including Napoleon Hill, James Allen) who suggest that best practice is to suspend all sexual activity to be more successful at creating what we want.
(Just realized what a conundrum that would be for one who was manifesting more sex.)
Some say it drains energy and dilutes focus when we have sex; others say it’s a powerful way to create vibrational alignment.
I actually haven’t practiced this (deliberately or consciously) myself, so I wanted to check in with you all. Have you noticed a difference in your manifesting results related to your sexual activity (or lack thereof)?
I found a couple articles on whether sex hinders the law of attraction here and here, but would love to hear your opinions and experiences. Thanks in advance for sharing!
(And much appreciation to the lovely reader who sent in this most excellent question.)
Some of you are wondering how to manifest more (or better) sex. So let’s get down to business …
(These instructions also apply for how to get more of whatever you want, be it money, success, a house, better body, etc. But this is written specifically for the person who wants more sex.)
Here we go:
First of all, it helps to stop noticing the sex you’re not getting.
Stop giving attention to how you wish you had more.
Stop complaining about how little you’re getting and telling the story about how bad your sex life is.
In fact, it’s really helpful to stop believing you’re not getting as much sex as you want.
Yes, I know you’re justified in thinking and saying and believing what you’ve been thinking, telling and believing. But that is NOT helping you get more sex.
It’s actually doing the exact opposite.
As you speak (and think) it, so shall it be.
So you’ve got to start appreciating your sex life.
However you can accomplish that.
You’ve got to love the sex you are having. You’ve got to tell the story about how great your sex life is. (Especially to your partner!) You want to be the person who is enjoying all the fabulous sex they want.
Whether you’re remembering or imagining or however you can get to thoughts of appreciation about lots of great sex, that’s what you want to get in mind.
Would you talk different? Smile more? How would you behave differently?
However you would be when you’re sexually satisfied, start being that way now.
Whether that’s relaxed, happy, satisfied, cooperative – whatever it would be for you – start feeling that way and being that person now.
If you have a partner, you’ll become more attractive to him/her. If you don’t yet have a partner, you’ll still be more attractive to him/her – whoever it turns out to be.
And I’m not talking physically attractive – I mean energetically attractive.
Since like attracts like, as you become the person who has a great sex life (even before you have one), you will attract a great sex life.
One of the stories I didn’t tell in my Adventures in Manifesting ebook – even though it’s chock full of real world examples from my love life – was how my boyfriend noticed my manifesting success in getting foster dogs adopted, to which he responded by promptly using this magical new power to manifest more sex! (What a quick study he was.)
So having been on the other side of this manifestation, I know how easy and effective it is to work on someone.
The trick (for the one doing the manifesting) is to not get caught up in the “reality” of what is.
Find some way to get your attention on what you want, rather than what is.
You’ve got to find a way to feel better now, whether that’s by entertaining rich fantasies, purposefully appreciating the sex you are having, or by getting your mind on something else that is satisfying. Whatever inspires you to shift the vibe – that’s what you want to engage.
Change the way you feel now, without expecting your new love life to make you feel better.
And to anyone who feels stymied in getting what they want, it helps tremendously to take the pressure off this thing you want for making you happy. When you make it out to be a big deal, especially a big deal that you’re not experiencing, it closes the door on it.
You want to find ways to feel better now, even before it gets here – even if it NEVER gets here – in order to allow it in.
I know it’s a funky way to get what you want, but it works.
It’s also worth mentioning, even though I know many of you likely won’t believe me, that it isn’t really more sex you want. What you really want is how you think having that amazing sex life is going to make you feel.
If anyone cares to share thoughts on the topic, I know it’d be a huge benefit to many who are wondering about all this!