I was reflecting the other day on how well some of my favorite affirmations have served me …
From the time I was new in the coaching business affirming that “I am a brilliant coach in high demand,” to the one for amplifying financial abundance (“Holy sh*t, I make a lot of money!”) to the one I use lately that “I am the best there is and I get better at it every day.”
(Yes, that latest one feels audacious, but so did the brilliant coach in high demand version at first. It’s that willingness to claim it (and feel it) regularly that makes it so.)
I thought it was smart of me to pick such bold statements to build my life on. They have served me well, and continue to do so!
But the truth is those aren’t the only affirmations of my life.
Because those aren’t the only thoughts that get regular air time with me.
In the past I was known to overuse a couple of other affirmations that went something like:
as well as the one that continues to plague me: “f*$%ing cats.”
(I’m so well known for that one that my friend said it for me last night when I held up the broken baby succulent that Merlin had just clobbered.)
I used to inadvertently employ “What’s wrong with people?!” on a regular basis (inspired by time volunteering in animal rescue) until I realized I was manifesting some seriously messed up situations with that one.
I used to say, “It figures” regularly until I realized how that vibrational instruction was manifesting.
Now I’m more likely to say something along the lines of “Even better!” and lots and lots of “thank you”s.
If you think about the people you’re close to, you probably know their favorite affirmations, too … phrases they’re known for or sentiments that if you repeated everyone would know who you were quoting.
How about your own most-engaged affirmations?
I mean, most of us conscious creators have at least a few well-chosen, carefully worded statements designed to acclimate us to a desired outcome …
But what about the thoughts that run unchecked that might not be as helpful?
It’s the day-in day-out thoughts that form the basis for the lives we create.
One I Am statement repeated once a day can’t override hundreds of counter-thoughts throughout the day, no matter how powerful it is.
It’s worth making sure your most common thoughts aren’t holding up your manifesting party, because I suspect I’m not the only one who has a combination of well-crafted affirmations along with knee-jerk thoughts that contradict my instruction for the good life.
This is your invitation to get clear on what your top affirmations really are and replace anything that deserves an upgrade.
(Wish me luck with the cats!)
In the meantime, I’d love to hear what you discover about your own day-in day-out affirmations in the comments …
Conscious creators know thoughts turn to things.
That’s old news to us.
We’re all about learning to better harness that power in creating realities we prefer.
But sometimes when it seems like our best thoughts (like for financial windfalls or true love) are slow to materialize, it’s easy to think our other thoughts aren’t doing much, either.
A while back I read The “I Am” Discourses, and even though I already knew thoughts become things, that text left a lasting impression about the power of even idle and undisciplined thoughts.
Whatever thoughts we launch into the world come home to roost, sooner or later.
And still, as I’m currently reading The Secret Life of Plants, it’s struck me yet again how crazy incredibly powerful our thoughts are.
Listen to this …
Just as a little experiment, a woman named Vivian who was friends with a researcher plucked two leaves from a plant in her garden, and placed one on her bedside table and the other in her living room.
Each day she “willed” the leaf next to her bed to continue living, and ignored the other.
As you’d expect, the ignored leaf turned brown as it began to decay.
But the leaf that received her positive attention each day was as “radiantly vital and green as if it had been freshly plucked” – even two months later.
She kept a leaf alive by willing it so.
I’ve got live, rooted, regularly watered and fertilized plants that aren’t doing that well!
I realized that when I water the plants each week, even though I feel love and appreciation for them, sometimes I worry over leaf loss or pest symptoms. I wonder whether they can survive or whether I should just toss them.
Not realizing the plants are listening.
They’re listening to me say that they’re in trouble, and they might not make it.
Instead of hearing me give instructions to thrive and grow and be radiantly alive.
And here’s the thing – we know it isn’t just plants responding to our thoughts.
It’s our entire world.
From The “I Am” Discourses:
Surrounding each individual is a thought-world created by him or her … The time has arrived when all must understand that thought and feeling are the only and mightiest creative power in the Universe.
Anyone who read Dr. Emoto’s The Hidden Messages in Water also knows how our thoughts affect the crystaline structure of water itself.
This is why Abraham regularly advises us to get as picky about what we think as we are about what we wear or eat.
Sometimes when we find our current conscious manifesting projects are slow to come about, it’s easy to forget the power of each and every thought we think.
But if we truly understood our creative power to turn thoughts into things, we’d learn some thought discipline in a hurry. Abe says if you got hit with a brick every time you entertained an unhelpful thought, you’d figure out in a hurry how to focus your attention on better thoughts.
Another excerpt from The “I Am” Discourses:
It is very easy at times for the student to think that his acts or thoughts are under cover and not known, but … there is no act or thought that can be hidden, because everything you think or feel is registered in the etheric world about you, as plain as the nose on your face.
When I realize that my plants are picking up on my slightest of thoughts, it makes me wonder what my animals are picking up. And my human companions.
And I realize I’ve got some cleanup to do.
I’m a huge fan of not taking things too seriously.
“Serious” isn’t usually a vibe that delivers me delightful things.
And anyyone who’s read Slacker Manifesting knows I’m a proponent of not trying too hard.
Sometimes giving up is exactly what calls in the big magic!
Case in point: the other day a coach texted a note of encouragement for a big project on my plate. “You can do it!” she enthused …
When in fact I was trying not to do it. I could feel myself slipping into “anxious obsessing overworking it” territory, and knew that carefree, easy and light was the way to go on that one.
Letting go is often the best way to allow the dream to unfold.
But there are other times when the way to alignment calls for a more militant approach.
Like when gremlins are out of control and having their way with me, sometimes I have to get my Alpha on and put a stop to that once and for all.
That’s when I lay down the rules about what I’m allowed to think and what is 100% absolutely off limits.
The same way you promise yourself you’re not going to even consider sleeping with that guy again. You’re done!
Or how you’re never ever going to let the stylist talk you into something “just for a change” again. Lesson learned!
It reminds me how I had to get serious with myself when I quit my job to start a coaching practice, with no clients in sight.
My auto-loop thoughts went like this: “Uh oh. This isn’t going to work. You’re going to have to get a job.”
Those thoughts are simply unacceptable for a girl who doesn’t want a job.
Because that is not an instruction that gives Universe any room to deliver me what I want.
So I got strict with myself, and every time I felt that loop starting to play again, I’d put a stop to it: “No. That’s not what I’m creating.” (Spoken in a voice that means business.) “What I’m creating is ‘I’m a brilliant coach in high demand.'”
No wiggle room.
No ifs ands or buts.
Here’s how it is for me.
And then I give Universe a strong sentence or two as confidently and authoritarian as I can conjure.
Because some things are simply not optional.
(It helps if you’ve had an unruly dog or child or hubby so you’ve had good practice at your “I mean it” voice.)
If you’ve got a little somethin’ somethin’ you’re working on that isn’t coming to fruition the way you’d like, maybe it’s time to rein those gremlin thoughts in like a boss. Say what you want like you mean it, eliminating any room for other options.
It’s not the approach I use all the time, but every once in a while, it does the trick.
In seeing a wide variety of responses about what’s happening in the world lately, it’s got me thinking about how we each get to be right.
No matter what conclusions we come to or which thoughts we embrace, we’re right.
Our focus on it makes it so.
That’s where reality comes from: our energetic attention to it.
Which leads to the question …
… what do you want to be right about?
It’s worth choosing carefully what you’re making true.
It might worth changing our mind about some things, or giving up old positions. It might be time to see things differently. And see others differently.
Because whatever we think, we make it so.
There are a few things I’ve changed my mind about lately. And it feels better.
Here’s what I’m choosing to think today:
Nothing can put that at risk, unless we chose that. Which I’m not choosing.
(Someone else can choose that if they like. Because we each get to choose for ourselves. But I’m not buying into that vision.)
I’m remembering that it doesn’t matter so much what’s happening out there.
The game worth playing is the one in here: how I feel and what I’m doing about that.
So I for one choose happily ever after. I choose even better. I choose dream come true. 🙂
What do you want to be right about?
For those looking to let go of beliefs that don’t serve us, Abraham has a quick way to shift things.
While some people love working with EFT to help unhook from limiting beliefs, or using Psych-K, or Byron Katie’s Work, etc., some folks are still looking for an effective way to release thought-obstacles that keep us from success.
This suggestion may be your ticket …
Abe says that most people who taught us limiting beliefs (with rare exception) did it out of love.
Their intention was to support our success in life.
When we realize that truth and focus on the part where they wanted us to thrive, we’re free to choose new thoughts and beliefs that serve us better.
Here it is in Abe’s words:
Most people who are guiding you really mean well, so the way to shake those beliefs that no longer serve you:
Get to the bottom of the reason they tried to impart those thoughts to you to begin with, and accept the reason was that they wanted you to thrive – they wanted things to go well for you.
And then just fast forward to things going well for you and thank them for their part in it.
You don’t have to go back and unlearn those things – or stop believing those things – just believe so clearly (and practice so clearly) the thoughts that feel good to you now.
I, for one, sometimes wonder about seemingly contrary teachings in the LOA field about beliefs … Some say we don’t have to worry about re-writing limiting beliefs; others say we’ll be forever limited if we don’t address them.
Hearing this approach felt a bit like the best of both worlds. Meaning, it’s worth doing a little work if you notice you’re hung up in your progress, but it doesn’t have to be hard work.
So the way Abe tells it,
… just try on the thought that they were actually trying to help, from their own limited perspective. What was shared with you was actually shared from a place of love and support.
When you dial in on the idea that they were just doing their very best to help you succeed, Abe says that frees you up to focus on the part where you thrive. Find the thoughts that feel better and hang out there.
Sounds worth playing with. If you’ve got thoughts or experiences to share, we’d love to hear!