I’m so good at pretending I already have it, it makes me wonder if Universe will think it’s already a done deal for me and nothing will happen.
I get into the feeling of having it so strongly that I don’t feel inspired to do anything to go get it. And nothing ever happens.
Here’s the version that was in my inbox today:
I often play PC games where I earn a lot of money. I think this game playing is like fantasizing that I earn a lot of money. However, I’m afraid that my subconscious thinks that I’ve got the money already and does not work on attracting it to me anymore.
What do you think?
This is your cue, fellow manifestors … is there a downside to being too great a pretender?
What happens when we get really good at fantasizing or visualizing?
Some worry Universe won’t know they still want it if they act like it’s already happened. Can pretending work to our detriment?
I’ve got thoughts to share on this and I hope you have something to say about it, too.
See you in the comments!
My friend and colleague Michele Woodward asked this question on facebook after reading a study that said people who engage in “positive fantasies” are less likely to achieve them.
This same article quoted another study that said the reason why is because “Imagining these successful outcomes saps our energy from doing the hard work it takes to get there.”
The author of this article writes, “The idea that visualizing your goals can help make them happen is a truism in many leadership development programs, and should be questioned.”
I’ve got thoughts I’ll share in the comments, but I knew the best people to run this by was you guys.
What do you think of the studies that conclude visualizing techniques enhance failure?
Today’s question comes from “Kerry,” who is confused, a bit scared (and complimentary of my writing skills), so I wanted to offer the most excellent answer possible.
Which is where you all come in.
Here’s Kerry’s question:
How do you know what action to take? I hear over and over that you visualize what you want and focus on that instead of the bad stuff. Then you all turn around and say you have to do stuff too!
I’m totally okay with that, it’s just I don’t know what to do. And you say you have to be okay not knowing how it’s going to happen.
Which leads me to wonder… if you don’t know how it’s going to happen, how can you take action towards it? Is it just a matter of doing what will make you feel best, even if it terrifies you? Or is that only part of the equation?
Quite confused, a little scared too.
What say you, Wise Ones?
What suggestions or advice do you have for Kerry who wonders what action to take if you’re not supposed to worry about the “how”?
I’ll see you in the comments …
Some of you may have heard Arnold Schwarzenegger’s success with deliberate creation, but for those who haven’t, here’s an inspiring read from Dan “The Man” Lok’s newsletter today:
My friend Steve Chandler told me this amazing story…
Arnold Schwarzenegger was not famous yet in 1976.
Steve and Arnold had lunch together at the Doubletree Inn in Tucson, Arizona.
Not one person in the restaurant recognized Arnold.
He was in town publicizing the movie Stay Hungry, a box-office disappointment he had just made with Jeff Bridges and Sally Field.
Steve was a sports columnist for the Tucson Citizen at the time, and his assignment was to spend a full day, one-on-one, with Arnold and write a feature story about him for the newspaper’s Sunday magazine.
Steve had no idea who he was, or who he was going to become.
During the interview, Steve casually asked, “Now that you have retired from bodybuilding, what are you going to do next?”
And with a voice as calm as if Arnold were telling him about some mundane travel plans, he said, “I am going to be the number-one box-office star in all of Hollywood.”
Steve tried not to show his shock and amusement at his plan. After all, Arnold’s first attempt at movies didn’t promise much.
And his Austrian accent and awkward monstrous build didn’t suggest instant acceptance by movie audiences.
Steve finally managed to match his calm demeanor, and asked Arnold JUST HOW he planned to become Hollywood’s top star.
“It’s the same process I used in bodybuilding,” Arnold explained. “What you do is create a vision of who you want to be, and then live into that picture as if it were already true.”
Years later, some entertainment TV show was saying that box office receipts from his second Terminator movie had made him the most popular box office draw in the world.
Was Arnold psychic?
Or was there something to his formula?
Having a crystal clear vision, visualizing it and acting accordingly will surely bring you success.
Dan “The Man” Lok
Married to Maria Shriver; governor of California; it’s not hard to see that Arnold continued having fun with the art of manifesting. (And that perhaps his wife is, too!)
What we know is that it wasn’t just visualizing his desire that served him, but also speaking it out loud as if his success-to-be was a given fact. Powerful habits, there!
Thought you might get some inspiration from his story – I know I did!