Sometimes even conscious creators slip into old habits when it comes to how we think about our bodies and working out.
If you’re exercising to get rid of flab, sag or jiggle – versus working out for the love of movement or in aspiration of good health or a fab figure – you can make a minor tweak for big results.
Here’s the deal we sometimes forget:
Any time we engage action out of resistance, we enhance what we don’t want.
(Which means you may be inadvertently building a bigger belly, flabbier arms, a jigglier butt – or whatever else you’re trying to get rid of – in that time spent at the gym.)
Effective workouts aren’t just about the body. Harness the power of your mind to get the most out of your physical training.
Like, if you’re at Zumba every Tuesday because your friend told you it would get rid of that baby weight you haven’t been able to drop, don’t be surprised if it doesn’t change a thing. It’s a totally different vibe to Zumba because you love moving your body and are looking forward to feeling even better in it than it is to Zumba because you hate your muffin top.
Or if you’re on the treadmill to run off the middle age spread you detest, that’s not as effective as running with the intention of a fit physique.
Can you feel the difference? Same action, different focus, leading to very different results.
That’s because any time we’re focused on “not this,” that fixation can’t take us where we want to go. It defies the laws of our universe. What we focus on grows.
(It is possible that strong belief can get temporary results, but sustaining that in the long run is challenging.)
So it’s important to be dialed on positive intentions and results rather than spotlighting the contrast that inspired you to the desire. Make sense?
Seems like a small thing but it actually makes a big difference.
Yesterday I wore a pair of shorts that weren’t particularly flattering to the thighs. My first thought was that I needed to get back to the exercise room.
Which is what I did later that day. And working out on the Bowflex is where I remembered that exercising to avoid what I don’t want (untoned thighs) was a waste of a workout.
If I’m not lunging or squatting with a focus on health, fitness, beauty, self-love or whatever I’m really wanting – I may as well be lounging in the shade with a good book. Enjoying myself in any other way would be better than trying to get rid of something I don’t want.
Because we get what we think about.
So if you’re working out while dwelling on flabby arms or stubborn belly fat – tune your mind instead to thoughts of how you want them to look and feel. Activate the feelings of satisfaction and enjoyment in place of loathing and discomfort. You’ll get a lot more bang for your buck with that vibrational shift.
There’s another way to get more out of your workouts, too.
Set an intention before you start exercising as to how you want your body to respond. Jeanna Gabellini taught me this trick: she used to intend that her body responded to this 30 minute workout as if it were 3 hours. Way to leverage the power of your mind in support of your physical experience!
My point with this is that as we’re flexing the muscles of our body to enhance our physique, let’s remember to also flex the power of our mind to make sure we get where we want to go.
There’s no doubt that many creators become inspired to embrace specific traditional diets that allow certain foods and ban others. (I know a fellow LOA coach who had a lot of fun losing 50+ pounds on Weight Watchers, and another who dropped two dress sizes when she started paleo eating.)
That’s all well and good when someone finds a traditional diet that lights them up. (We know whatever we’re inspired to when we’re aligned to what we want is bound to serve us well.)
But what I’m wondering about is a diet in accordance with what manifesters know about energy and thought – one that honors our understanding that there’s no such thing as a “good” food or a “bad” food and doesn’t impose rules that potentially drown out our own inner guidance.
After hearing from several of you in the comments, here’s what our updated list looks like so far:
Paul McKenna’s I Can Make You Thin.
The Joy Diet (Martha Beck)
The Laughter Diet
The Sex Diet
The Donut Whisperer
Sondra Ray’s The Only Diet There Is
Carmela Ramaglia’s Happy Calories Don’t Count
The Gabriel Method
Let’s take a look at a couple of these …
From I Can Make You Thin, Paul’s advice may not be considered a “diet” per se, but more of eating guidelines. These instructions seem very much in alignment with what deliberate creators know about how the world works. (Meaning, it isn’t the food that makes the difference, it’s our thoughts, i.e. vibration, that dictate our experience.)
Paul’s four rules are:
1. Eat only when you’re hungry.
2. Eat what you want to, not what you think you should.
3. Eat consciously and enjoy every mouthful.
4. Stop when you are full.
A lifestyle based on conscious awareness of the body, food enjoyment, and free of “shoulds”? That sounds LOA-friendly to me!
As is Martha Beck’s Joy Diet, which actually isn’t designed for weight loss, but for life happiness. It seems to me, though, those two things often go hand in hand.
Here are Martha’s ten guidelines from the joy diet:
It’s easy to see how following these tips would lead one to embrace and enjoy life in a way that encourages ideal health.
The laughter diet seemed like it could be right up our alley, but most of what I found online focused on how many calories laughter burned. Which kind of misses the point for conscious creators. (I wouldn’t be surprised if laughter was an effective weight loss aid, but more from the standpoint of the alignment it leads us to rather than stomach muscles engaged.)
For a minute it seemed like the Sex Diet could be a possible contender as well (focusing on orgasmic bliss – how could that not be effective?), but results are mixed on that one.
What do you think – have you found any “diets” that operate in conjunction with conscious creation?
(And big thanks to everyone for sharing your suggestions in the comments!)
You know how Abraham says that when you shift the vibe you’ll be inspired to new actions?
Here’s a story about that.
This summer I got a new scale.
Isn’t it delightful?!
There are no numbers – just words. Good words, like Perfect, Ravishing, Gorgeous, etc.
It’s like having a magic mirror on the wall tell you how beautiful you are every day. Can you imagine?! It’s fabulous!
Sometimes I stand on it twice a day.
It supports the self-love and it makes me smile. And sometimes giggle out loud.
I love it so much I’ve raved about it on facebook and at GVU. Everyone who comes over has to stand on it. It makes them smile, too. I’ve bought scales for friends so they can experience the same delights.
So you can see I’m really loving this scale that tells me how beautiful I am every day.
Actually, it wasn’t beautiful, it was Sexy. I was weighing in at Sexy very consistently.
Until it started moving towards Attractive. For a while I was part Sexy, part Attractive.
When I would stand on it I’d say out loud, “Let’s see how Sexy you are today, girlfriend.” When it would register closer to Sexy, I’d say, “Ooooh, getting sexier!! You Sexy girl, you!”
And when it would say more Attractive, I’d say, “Oh, you’re getting more Attractive! woo hoo!!”
It literally didn’t matter if it went up, down, or stayed the same – it was all good! You can feel how nice that vibe is, right? Unconditional love for my physical self. Right. It’s a good vibe.
Then I went to Washington D.C. to hang out with my favorite girlfriend, Michele Woodward, for her Revenue Rocks program.
Four days with Michele and those amazing coaches in that fascinating city did something for me. It was like four days of heaven.
Except the kind of heaven where they don’t serve chocolate. Which doesn’t sound right, does it? A heaven without chocolate? But there I was. Loving life without chocolate.
When I got home I noticed I wasn’t indulging in chocolate – or any sugar – the way I used to.
It was kind of weird.
But I respected it. Tastes change, I figured.
And then my scale started moving past Attractive towards Hot.
Which means my new jeans are too big. I even tried shrinking them in the wash. Still too big.
Super interesting, because I’d been manifesting weight loss a couple years ago, before I realized my attachment to results was keeping it from happening. And here with this scale and some other self love practices I got to a place where I loved ‘what is’ no matter what. Sure enough, things started getting even better.
This is exactly what Abe tells us. When the vibe shifts (whether you do it on purpose or not), the inspirations change.
I remember hearing them say when our vibration rises we’ll be drawn to different foods.
At the time I thought, “Well, just tell me what those foods are now!” Maybe I can get there from the other direction, right?
But that doesn’t work. First of all, because vibration drives everything, not action. And second, because the foods we’re each drawn to are potentially different. There isn’t just one “healthy” formula for us all.
So anyway, we know that the actions will match our vibe. Our actions reinforce whatever we’re flowing energetically.
I think that’s why my sweet tooth disappeared.
* * * Here’s why I’m telling this story. * * *
To inspire you to engage this wherever you want to create real change.
Remember how it works: manage your vibe, then follow your inspiration.
Abraham calls it: “Alignment, and then …”
For example, I’ve been playing with a new affirmation lately to manage my money vibe:
“Holy sh*t, I make a lot of money!”
Just like my magic scale did, that thought takes me to a new delightful place. (It’s a big improvement over the usual, “Why am I not making more money?”)
When I hang out in that new delightful place, things are going to change. Some how, some way. They have to.
All I have to do is go along with the changes.
This process works, you guys. Find a way to manage your vibration, and honor whatever inspirations come up after that.
It’s ridiculously simple, isn’t it?!
You know I love to hear stories about how law of attraction works in the real world, so please share your vibe management methods and success stories with us!
Thanks to Frank Butterfield for this guest post channeled from Paul, as inspired by a client discussion about the relation between abundance and body fat:
This is not a conversation about the scientific aspects of nutrition, biology, or bio-chemistry. We are looking at what happens from the perspective of your vibrational relationship with your body.
And we are talking about your body as having both physical and non-physical components, with the non-physical components being the majority of what your body is.
So, in that light, how do your thoughts affect what your body does with the food that you eat?
It all depends upon what you expect to happen as a result of eating.
If you approach any morsel of food as being part of a story of shortage, then your body will most likely be highly efficient in holding on to whatever potential energy it can grab on to and keep for future use.
So, if you are dieting or withholding food from yourself and treating the bites that you do eat as an exception to a rule that is mainly about deprivation, your body will get the signal about holding on to what it is given because more might not be available in the future.
If you are eating what you want and enjoying it for what it offers in the moment – color, texture, taste – then your body will most likely retain just what it wants for metabolic efficiency in the moment and then release the rest.
But that would not necessarily be the case if you believe that food makes you fat, particularly if you believe that the specific food you eat is fattening.
You can, if you want, change your attitude towards any or all food by telling a new story about it and deciding that whatever you eat is healthy and wholesome and that your body will use it for perfect metabolic efficiency.
Your lean, efficient body is a vibrational match to your idea that there is always plenty and that nothing is really needed but everything that is delicious, beautiful to see, and that feels good to eat is just right for your body.
If you have, for many years, developed a suspicion of food, than you may want to spend some time falling back in love with this aspect of your creation.
Remember that you are the one who is creating your experience and you can have it be however you want.
If you want to luxuriate in the experience of eating, dining, sharing food, and other culinary delights then you could begin to tell a story of how rich you are in this area of your life. You could start deliberately focusing your attention on how good it feels to eat and how wonderful it is to enjoy the process of sharing food with those whose company you revel in.
If you want to approach food from a more detached place of just seeing it as fuel, you could focus on the idea that whatever you eat is processed by your body very efficiently. You could tell a story about how you are drawn to exactly the right foods at the moment that you are hungry and that you only eat until hunger is satisfied and then you move on with your experience. You could deliberately turn your attention to how powerful specific foods are as a source of energy and how your body is a very lean, efficient metabolic machine.
If you want to be easy with food, you could start to notice how really no matter what you eat, you always are in alignment with the perfect form that you want your body to take. You could tell the story of how you can eat anything you want and always find yourself alert, feeling lean and trim, and that your body processes everything in just the right way. You could deliberately turn your attention to how easy it is for you to stay at just the right weight and shape for you and that food only helps you with this.
The issue at hand has never been about mathematics and calories.
The issue at hand is always about the vibrational attitude you bring to the story of your body, its weight and shape, and how much in alignment you are with what you really want to experience through your body.
If this topic is of interest, you might like the Weight: What Is It Good For? workshop recordings. Get more deliberate creation insights from Paul here: http://communionoflight.com
The last two weeks I’ve had so much fun with a new little manifesting routine that it’s ridiculous.
It makes me giggle out loud even thinking about it. But it’s probably a misguided intention, truth be told.
I’ve been putting a spell on my belly. It goes like this:
“You are the flat belly of a 22 year old co-ed who majored in volleyball.” (I’m smiling again just typing it!)
I repeat it three times while rubbing said belly and then finish with three little pats and the words, “You know what to do.”
I told you it was ridiculous!
But it makes me laugh and it makes me trust my belly and I will also say – I am looking better than otherwise expected in these little summer tanks! (Cute little belly, you!)
However, if I’ve learned anything in my ups and downs as a deliberate creator, it’s that we don’t really want to weigh a certain amount or be a certain size or look a certain way.
What we want is to love and feel good about ourselves. That’s what we’re truly seeking when we start a new diet or exercise plan or – ahem – belly spell.
I know that.
And yet when Michele Woodward recently suggested that focusing on weight loss seemed very “social self” it was as if someone rang a big wake up bell inside my head.
In case you’re not familiar with the lingo, “social self” is somewhat of a four letter word in Martha Beck world. Here it is from Martha herself which I lifted from Pam’s excellent post on the topic:
The social self is the part of you that developed in response to pressures from the people around you, including everyone from your family to your first love to the pope. As the most socially dependent of mammals, human babies are born knowing that their very survival depends on the goodwill of the grown-ups around them. Because of this, we’re all literally designed to please others.
For example, many of our smiles are based on social convention. When you smile but don’t mean it, that’s your social self in action. When you say yes but mean no (or vice versa), that’s likely your social self in charge.
You with me so far?
Our essential self, on the other hand, is what Abraham might call our Inner Being. It’s the core of who we really are, and it is sourced from ultimate and pure divine love.
Okay, so that takes me back to Michele and her brilliant observation.
What do you think your essential self (aka Inner Being) thinks you should weigh? Or look like?
I’ve got a funny feeling my belly spell didn’t come from my Essential Self or Inner Being. I think it came from the part of me that wants to look good to others.
After all, what if I didn’t know what “looked good”? What if my social self grew up in a culture where round bellies were exalted? Would I be “spelling it away” then?
I’m pretty sure not.
I mean, think of the social conditioning required to make this seem like a good idea: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Neck_ring
So I may very well get the flat belly of a 22 year old co-ed who majored in volleyball, but I will not be a true winner as long as I’m using my manifesting prowess to satisfy my Social Self.
Know what I mean? Michele does.
Before you go, I’d love if you shared your thoughts on the subject!
One of my favorite lessons this year is being taught by my scale.
I never owned a scale until my best friend bought me a makeup mirror for Christmas years ago (which is like gifting me with earrings – I’ll simply never use it), so I exchanged it for a scale instead.
It used to stay in the basement, but my boyfriend likes to check in on his weight regularly, so I brought it upstairs for him. And of course, I now find myself on it more than I used to.
You know Abraham’s advice to only take measurements when you’re sure you’ll like what you see, right? Yeah, I follow that. It’s just too easy to be deflated by disappointing numbers.
Well, after a couple weeks of standing on it now and again, I discovered that if I moved the scale just a few inches, I got a completely different number. You’d laugh if you saw me pushing that thing all over the kitchen floor finding the highest and the lowest numbers. It was ridiculous.
At first I didn’t know what to make of it, but then I started getting frustrated. How was I supposed to know what I weighed?? I mean, I haven’t been to a doctor in years, and even if I remembered what they weighed me in at – that’s not too accurate with clothes on.
So how do I know how much I weigh?? What if I’ve been wrong all these years? How will I ever know my true weight?
And as I asked those questions, I then thought, “wow, what if I didn’t ever know?” And then … “what if it didn’t matter??”
What if I had no idea what different numbers “meant”? For that matter, what if I didn’t know my size? Or my measurements? Or how much money I made? Or how old I was?
What if I could live completely free from the meaning of the numbers in my life?
Wow … what if, huh?
(I say “YES!”)
So maybe it starts with that scale going back to the basement. Or better yet, in the giveaway box.
Or maybe I just keep it in the skinny spot. lol
I don’t know! Like I said, I’m still learning this lesson.
In the meantime, go ahead and ask me how old I am. I think I can have fun with that one. (hee hee)