Tale of Two Vibrations

perspective2I know someone whose life has been really challenging.

She grew up poor in a very conservative and notoriously close-minded culture, and spent most of her life not feeling good enough.

Her passions in life weren’t respected or encouraged by others; she often felt like the square peg trying to fit in a round hole; and feelings of fulfillment or satisfaction were foreign to her.

As a result, in her adult life she continues to struggle: her life partner is the kind of guy that friends express sympathy for having to live with, her chosen industry is riddled with financial challenges, she recently lost $90,000 in real estate investments, and her health is far from ideal. (She has no health insurance, to boot!)

lifeisgoodI know another woman whose life was just about the exact opposite.

Her loving parents did a wonderful job raising her to be strong and happy, her environment supported her success at every turn, she often felt like the golden child as everything seemed to go her way.

(Scholarships, awards, raises, promotions, an abundance of rewarding relationships, etc.)

As an adult, this woman experiences unending happiness, in both “big” and “little” ways. Her sweetheart is open and devoted (many of her girlfriends wonder how she got so lucky), she’s incredibly successful at her chosen career, she lives in a beautiful and luxurious home, she’s financially secure and has everything going for her health-wise.

What’s the difference between these two women?


They are the same woman.


Each version could easily qualify as “the truth.” But there’s a vast vibrational difference between each one.

And that’s how it is for EACH of us.

We can tell our story any way we like – and it’s all true. You can tell me your sad story, or you can tell your happy one.

Which version would you rather live?

The thing is, your happy successful version is already a reality. You don’t have to create amazing new manifestations before you count yourself as blessed. You already are. And if you don’t think so, you just haven’t been practicing that version.
It’s simply a matter of which perspective you attend to.

No matter where we stand, there is a way to see life as already wonderful.

So the next time you hear me complain about how my boyfriend doesn’t scoop litter boxes and refuses to watch subtitled movies, you’re invited to give me a little reality check in the bee-hind and remind me that life is really, really good.

You can count on me to do the same for you. 😉

FYI on my “woe is me” version: I purposely don’t carry health insurance and the $90k real estate “loss” comes from a tax appraisal thingy in yesterday’s mail listing significantly dropped values on two houses I own. I couldn’t care less, but if I wanted to, I could sure get my panties in a twist about it!

My advice: choose your version wisely. Your present and future happiness depends on it!

  • July 27, 2009
  • Hello Jeanette,
    As I was reading this my mind was saying “hang on a minute, Patricia…this sounds like you sometimes but
    heh….so does this….I think I’ll go with this good news story about me…makes me feel a much better rabbit…”
    Thanks Jeanette

  • Lori says:

    “’m starting a 30 day project – 30 days of living in a reality FULLy and consciously created by ME. Who’s gonna join me!?”
    I really really really need to join you Tia!
    Thanks for this post Jeannette. I really need a good LOA kick in the ass and reading your blog helps!

  • Berta Bauer, Lighthouse Coaching and Retreats says:

    Laura, Please know that your reply was beneficial to me, as my parents played almost identical roles to yours and I have struggled with the same feelings of lack. I love how you look at both parents perspectives and re-state them in a positive way to gain from both views.
    I may just have learned out how to live as if abundance is already here for me while I manifest it. I’ve heard Abraham say keep a one hundred dollar bill in your wallet and when you see something you like say “I could buy that if I want it.” The feeling of abundance is there, but you don’t have to buy it until you really can afford it.
    Thank you, Jeanette, for this blog and to all who replied for providing me with another Aha.

  • Laura says:

    Jeannette, I have to agree with the others that this is one of your best blogs…the subject matter but more importantly your honestly in sharing your experience. This reminded me of something that I heard recently on how our memories are distorted in our minds. So, if we distort our memories of our childhood experiences and the messages we received from our parents…why don’t we just (re)-create them how we wished they were or, look at them in a new way and look for ways to reframe the messages that we received. For example…I got mixed messages from my parents regarding money. There was always the feeling of lack, but they both had different ways of expressing their fears. My mother had a hard time spending money (or enjoying it) and saved, saved, saved. My father had the attitude that there was always more and spent beyond his means. So, I learned money is scarce (I don’t want to live that way) and keep spending above your means, and figure it out later.
    What if…I reframe their behavior to what suits my LOA savvy thinking now? My mother was responsible with money and lived within her means and recognized the value of saving. It made her feel good to know there was money in the savings account. She didn’t need many material things to make her happy (this is true) and she believed in quality vs. quantity.
    My father had the attitude that he was not going to worry about money. The Universe is abundant and there will always be more money when I want it or need it. I am going to enjoy buying the things I want and if I feel good about it that is all that matters.
    Wow…not sure if this is going to be beneficial to anyone else, but it just took such a charge off of my old story of “lack” that I had carried with me for so long. I chose to look at them as having a negative influence on me and yet, it really only was my interpretation.

  • SpiritualNurse says:

    The more of I read of your bog, Jeanette, the more I absolutely love you. You are a brilliant writer~!

  • Kimberly Gauthier says:

    Fantastic post. I feel the same way about me. My upbringing was both ideal and tragic and for years I focused on the tragic side and my reality reflected this in spades. Then one day I realized that I couldn’t continue to play the blame game and I was fed up with the drama I continued to purposely create in my life so I stopped.
    It wasn’t that easy, sort of like kicking a habit, it took practice and today, I’m beyond happy. My mom says that she admires my attitude and ability to find the rainbow in every situation (which she struggles with).
    This compliment made my year, because we had such a challenging relationship for so long and we’re so different and now we respect and appreciate each others differences.
    Today, I can’t even bring myself to worry about things most times and when I stumble, I just plug into my MP3 and dance the blues away (takes no time at all).

  • michelle says:

    Thanks for the post. As usual, the info I need at the moment never fails to materialize. Your post is very timely for me concerning how we choose to look at things.
    I had been feeling “stuck” for the past few weeks and then read something that gave me an aha moment – My reality is whatever I say it is!
    So, this week has been absolutely great!! Your post helped keep me on track.
    Another gem I discovered this week – “what others think of me is not my business.” love it

  • MissyB says:

    As a current UK tv advert says:
    Simples !

  • Wow, such a powerful post Jeannette!! I never would have suspected the first woman was you in a million years… 😉
    This reminds me of an exercise I learned last year at a conference with Jack Canfield, which was super powerful for me. We were paired up with partners and at first we had to tell our partners how awful our childhoods were… We could only talk about our childhoods in negative terms. This was really easy for everyone!
    But then we had to switch and tell our partners how wonderful are childhoods were and could only use positive, glowing terms. This was a little more difficult for everyone at first, but eventually everyone got the hang of it and could find positive things from their childhoods. Even the people with the most traumatic childhoods had at least one good thing to say, that they survived their childhood and will never do that to their children!
    This exercise really made a lasting impression on me, because it truly illustrated how we always have a choice about where to place our attention in a given situation. We can choose our thoughts! We can choose to either focus on thoughts that are taking us closer to our goals or thoughts that are taking us further away… it’s always our choice:) I think I even posted this exercise on this blog once before, lol.
    I actually talk a lot about this in my new ebook and even include the exercise described above. Anyone who’s interested can check it out here: http://www.selfhelpgoddess.com/selfhelpebook.html
    Powerful stuff, Jeannette! Keep up the brilliant posts:)

  • Leslie Richter says:

    Really loving this book called Professional Dreamer – she talks about “uncluttering” the thoughts. Great exercises to unload the sad sack stories.
    I love how you are open to inspiration from where ever it comes. Your Dad seems to be an original miracle worker and I love how you inspire one another. As it should be.
    And yeah to hearing/seeing just the right show at the right time. Yeah to the habit of happiness.
    Love Leslie

  • Janette says:

    Hmmm, second bite of the cherry for me (given up limits, y’know…)
    I have just realised this is not a retelling of the same past, but a NEW and better story – Jeannette, you have a master of the art of backwards time, reverse causality, etc.
    I’m the kid by the pool with the floaties (‘really? is this really okay/possible??’) and you just went flying past and did the most spectacular cannonball.

  • Mitch says:

    I love this post. What a great reminder to focus on the parts of our lives that are working. I love how you even went back into your past and–without changing anything–told the story in a way that better serves.

  • Berta Bauer, Lighthouse Coaching and Retreats says:

    Impactful and timely, Jeanette. thank you
    I confess I have been playing the “poor me” story way too much lately. So now I have been cognitive of where in my body I am feeling things when I am in “poor me” space, and it is an anxious and edgy place to be. Believe me, when I tell my “I’m so blessed” story I feel peaceful and full of joy.
    I also turn away from conversations that talk about the economy negatively. The last couple of times it has happened I have replied that things are improving and give examples. My belief is that my little pokes at their negative perspectives with my positive one will help them to look for the good that is happening, and thus be part of the changing tide.
    The challenge I’ve given myself is to poke back, and often, with positive perspectives (on the economy and everything else), and watch the ebb tide turn into high tide.
    Good Bye, Poor Me! My poking antenna is up.
    Riden’ the High Tide,

  • Kim Falconer says:

    This is profound, Jeannette–the story, the telling, and the storyteller.
    Pure genius.
    I love you!

  • Robert, that was so delicious, I read it twice.
    I am following your lead with believing YES, ALL THINGS!
    woo hoo!

  • Robert says:

    We all have 2 or more stories about who we are. So the question becomes, what story do you believe? Christ said that “…ALL THINGS are possible to him that believeth.” (Mark 9:23) Really? ALL things? Wow, do you realize how powerful that is? I am discarding the beliefs that don’t serve me, and strenghting the ones that do. I choose to believe that I am loved. I choose to believe that happy times are ahead. I choose to believe that angels go before me, and surround me. I choose to believe that the world is full of beauty and abundance. I choose to believe that all things are possible to those who believe!

  • Wise words, Gemstone: attitude is more important than the facts.
    That’s going on my board!! Thanks for that! 🙂

  • Gemstone3 says:

    I’m jumping on the bandwagon! Way to tell a powerful story!
    I could see parallels to my own life, and it reminded me of a special gift a friend of mine gave me when I was having a really rough time. It’s from Charles Swindoll, and it’s called “Attitude”.
    The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than success, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness, or skill. It will make or break a company… a church… a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past… we cannot change the fact that people will act a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you… we are in charge of our attitudes”.
    Thank you for changing the world with your positive attitude and generosity!

  • I have to admit, Emiko, I never get tired of hearing or saying that: “rock on with your bad self, girl!” ha
    Thanks again for the encouragement – it is much appreciated!

  • Emiko Jaffe says:

    You are so awesome! You answer every reply and with so much love and enthusiasm, I love it! You have inspired me in so many ways with your amazing energy since the MB conference. Rock on with your bad self girl!! I know you will (you just can’t help it!), I’m just sayin’ if you needed any more encouragement (as if!)–I am SO backin’ it up!

  • You know I want to hear about it when you do, Helen!
    Thanks for posting, my friend – it means a lot to me to hear from you!

  • Helen Heaver-Wren says:

    Jeannette – this is such a brilliant post !!!!
    It is a HUGE ‘A-HA’ awakening for me. Thank you so much for this post – what a delicious thought – we can re-create and re-define our reality, including our past ‘stories’ that previously may have kept us stuck.
    I am so looking forward to embracing this new, wonderful lesson – its all about perspective. Woo Hoo!
    Lots of love,
    Helen xxx

  • You brought tears to my eyes, Michel.
    Gosh, what a privilege it is to know you! I’m so glad we met!!

  • Michel says:

    Hey Jeanette,
    Thanks for the ‘light bulb moment’! This was a huge one for me because it illuminated the ‘why’ of telling the old story. The fact is I have always been wealthy and privileged. I grew up on 2 continents, speak 3 languages and live on an estate…. what kind of idiot thinks that’s not hugely wealthy?
    I held on to the negative story because I didn’t want others to be: jealous, intimidated, feeling bad because of me…. blah, blah, blah.
    That’s over. I accept everything that my being wealthy entails.

  • “I’ll have what SHE’S having,” said Jeannette pointing to Judy. ha!
    All MY sweetie said was .. well, nothing. I told him about this post and he didn’t say anything. Not one word. lol
    Oh well, at least SOMEONE’S talking about it, if not me with my sweetie. he he
    Hey, here’s a chance for me to walk my talk …
    My sweetie might not have commented on the topic, but that doesn’t mean it didn’t have SOME sort of positive impact, AND! What was even better was how a few minutes later he told me about how he got feedback from his team reporting that he is overly critical and stingy with the praise. And that CLEARLY had an impact on him, one which I expect will have positive ramifications for my experience with him. It’s really nice that I’m not the only person pointing it out to him (he he) AND it’s fabulous that he’s really hearing it and I think with that awareness things are bound to change.
    Actually, I don’t THINK so – I already have evidence of it. Wow, huh?! Life is good!
    Thanks, Judy. I needed that! 🙂

  • Judy says:

    Imagine how the vibe of the country would change if news people reported on our 90.5% employment rate!
    Great post – lead to an animated and aha! breakfast discussion with my husband – thanks, Jeannette!

  • It IS fun, Dani! In fact, I’d love to hear your two versions if you get them typed up and care to share.
    Thanks for reading, but especially for letting it make a real difference in you life. That means a lot to me to hear, Dani!

  • Dani Webb says:

    I love it Jeannette! I think I will write my two versions as well. Getting it on paper can be powerful. Thanks for the inspiration!

  • Now THAT’S cool to hear, Carol! Thank you for sharing how easy it is to practice this!

  • Janette says:

    ROFL – not at you, gorgeous amazing manifestor, but at ME – going, oooh, who is it?? Is it Oprah?? Madonna?? Princess Di??? WHO???
    Aaahh… NOW I get it.
    Count me in for favourite post EVER, this absolutely rocks. I am now going to go and write out my two life stories, just for fun – tee hee!!
    PS re the $90K – out of everything in the post, that worried me least of all. I’m like, $90K? Jeannette? Meh – she’ll have allowed that in by the end of the week. 😉
    Guess the mojo is working LOL

  • Like so many people have already said here, this is one of my favorite Good Vibe posts–and that is saying A LOT!!
    I’m pretty sure you got us all with the “They are the same woman” 🙂
    I read this earlier tonight and had the opportunity to use it less than an hour afterwards-really! I started reacting to a comment in a phone conversation with an old familiar story that does not serve me–and then–this post popped in my mind, and bam–I smiled and started telling the empowering version of that story.
    Yes–pretty awesome post. Thank You 🙂

  • Yay for magic mojo, Janette!! lol
    You always make me laugh – thank you for that, my friend!

  • You know what, Emiko, I love your Dyer quote for the previous blog post on expectations, too!
    That’s a beautiful way to look at life.
    Thanks for sharing your thoughts here with us, and also for your uplifting appreciation.

  • Emiko Jaffe says:

    I’m officially in love with your blog. Your posts are so well written and so inspiring. You rock!
    This post reminds me of what Wayne Dyer said in a recent special I saw–I’m paraphrasing, can’t remember the his words verbatim but the gist was “you have a 50/50 chance that the worst or best outcome will transpire and a choice to believe either one, why not choose to believe the best outcome?”
    Love, love, love this post!

  • Debra, whenever I read you, I find myself thinking “It must be good to be Debra” because your energy is always so sky high!
    You are certainly a shining example of appreciating life as it is, not needing things to change before you feel better.
    You rock, my friend! Thank you for highly encouraging and inspiring words here. And congrats on your move!
    woo hoo!!

  • Gillian says:

    Oh goodness, Jeannette! That sounds just like my story. Its amazing, how telling a new story about ourselves can shape our present and future. Jeannette, I think you could serve as a role model how people can change their lives through a positive and healthy perseption of one’s life. Seeing ourselves in a more positive way is the key to projecting a better image of ourselves. I guess the “Fake it til you make it” or “Act as if” attitude could be applied here to believe and gain confidence and pull in the better version of ourselves.

  • Debra says:

    Hi Jeannette…
    I’ve been so busy living the JOY of manifesting our current desired life transition/move that I have been choosing less computer time for now.
    (The move’s going GREAT! 🙂 )
    I’ve been keeping up w/your AMAZING (as always) posts…and THIS one just screamed, “take a minute and appreciate Jeannette for the beauty, simplicity, and importance of the perfect picture she’s created here.”
    So here I am. Appreciating YOU. 🙂 And adding my two cents of ‘this is so right on-ness’.
    We all have both stories existent in our lives…it’s the one we choose to make evident that makes the difference.
    This post is absolutely one of your best ever. That’s saying a lot…’cause your posts are always stellar.
    …maybe it’s the simplicity and obviousness of the example.
    …maybe it’s because I see/feel so much of myself, so much of my own choices of personal story…
    …maybe it’s just because this message is so important.
    Doesn’t really matter. What matters is that you share, from the heart…and it’s real…and it makes a difference for so many, in so many ways.
    Thanks Jeannette!
    Your Sister in ‘Choosing Your Version Wisely’,
    Debra ~ aka Miss Happy Pants
    PS~Life IS Really, Really GOOOOOD!!

  • Gillian, you know where the inspiration from this post came from?
    A combination of my dad buying me a copy of Pollyanna and strongly encouraging me to read it; watching a couple minutes of Joel Osteen by accident night before last (which I enjoyed enough to tape the rest to watch later), and a conversation with a fellow coach who wasn’t loving his ridiculously good life.
    So I’m passing the role model thanks to everyone who has inspired ME. I’m glad it did something for you, too, Gillian.
    Thanks for posting! It means everything to me! 🙂

  • Ah, Nikki – I’m just a mirror, you know!
    So right back atcha, girlfriend! 🙂
    (What I mean by that is I feel the same way about YOU! Thank you for your lifeline contribution to money mojo!)

  • Whoa Jeannette… I’m nominating you for whatever you nominate brilliant blog posts for. That was brilliant. Thank you thank you thank you!
    Keep shining, my friend!

  • Iyabo Asani, The Inner Genius Coach says:

    Jeanette, I am with Susan, this is my favorite blog post ever! I will always remember it. I was stunned at the $90k loss until you explained it.
    So true, so true. The power of perspective and powerful storytelling.
    I admire you for sharing that.
    I took a lot from it.

  • Iyabo, you are one I look up to for telling the positive story despite the version others might spin.
    And I know I’m not the only one you inspire – thanks for that!

  • PurePotential says:

    My favorite blog of all time. It is my story – perspective that is, different particulars but the same spirit. In two years I went from a 90% cynic who was so tightly wound up that everything and I mean everything was a struggle. So with meditation, Byron Katie’s The Work and now LOA, I am one happy, abundant, appreciative woman. Many thanks to all who assisted, supported and taught me. Ms Jeannette for sure! WOO HOO!

  • Nice story, Ms Nikki! It means every more knowing you purposely chose it, doesn’t it?
    Isn’t that the most empowering feeling?!
    I love it. 🙂
    Thanks for posting, girlfriend!

  • Jenny, when are you getting a gravatar?! I want to see your gorgeous smile along with your uplifting post!
    PS – thanks for the subtitle company. 🙂

  • MSNikki says:

    I cosign with Tia that all of our experiences are within us. It’s taken me awhile to honor very horrific experiences. From said experiences, I can truly say that I transformed into one of the most empathic people that I have ever known ~ a very positive trait that enables me to quickly discern and differentiate between positive people and situations from those that are of no benefit! It also helps me navigate the treacherous waters of an after Thanksgiving Sale. All is fair in love, war, and Macy’s sales!

  • What a pleasure it is to know you, Susan! Your words mean a lot – thank you for them!
    I have to add, our coach friend Bridgette B has inspired me to move even more from Struggle to Surrender, using the image of puppy bellies offered up for rubbing, and my mantra to go along with it is “Rub my belly.” he he
    For me, that’s as nice an image to connect with Surrender as I can imagine. So whatever elements of struggle remain in my story, they are soon to be history! lol
    Thanks for posting, Susan!

  • Jenny says:

    You had me hooked! I was wondering where you were going with these two women.
    Thanks for the laugh and for the reminder that we can create our own versions of our stories.
    ps If I lived closer, I’d be happy to watch sub-titled movies with you!

  • LOVE your 30 day project you’re hosting, Tia!! No doubt lots of folks will have lots of fun with you on that!

  • Ok now you’re making me laugh! I just had a moment of “gosh darn it, will i ever find true love” and was so caught up in the version of me who “always” attracts men to her that she really isn’t into and has never had a relationship start with “OMG I’m in love”, rather went into each one a bit unsure and unwilling and SURE enough, it never lasted!!
    LOL. Seriously, how hard can it be to create an alternate reality and live it? Actually, not even alternate – it’s all a part of us and we choose which parts to shine the spotlight on. 95% of our thoughts are the SAME, day after day after day. And most of them are negative self talk backchattin’ thoughts.
    How do we let them stay in control!? Gosh darn it. I’m starting a 30 day project – 30 days of living in a reality FULLy and consciously created by ME. Who’s gonna join me!? I’m heading over to blog about it now. Ha!
    Thanks for the reminder sweetheart!

  • Yay for making the shift, Suzie!! It not only feels better, it has a dramatic impact on what happens next.
    Thanks for sharing with us. 🙂

  • Suzie Cheel says:

    This is fantastic,
    I too could be either woman and there are lots of parallels.
    We too have lost big $$ on real estate, only we don’t have the property any more. It has been a start again over the past year for me, and just recently I have totally shifted from woman 1
    The past few months I have moved into gratitude and joy and my vibes are so positive

  • Thanks for making my day with that comment, Sonia!
    Much appreciated! 🙂

  • sonia says:

    waow Jeannette! great, great post! I love it.
    “We can tell our story any way we like – and it’s all true. You can tell me your sad story, or you can tell your happy one.”
    This is really an A-HA for me. Thank you so much. U’re thousands of miles away and I want you to know that you helped me so much that my life is changing in miraculous ways. U’re an awesome teacher. U find the right words and everythings becomes crystal clear.
    Thank you magic girl. I love you.

  • Amen to that, sister! (Recycling and ice cream feels better to me, too!)
    I like what you said about how we tell different stories depending on which friend is listening. That’s worth pondering some more, methinks.
    Good to hear from you again, Leslie! 🙂

  • Anonymous says:

    I have to admit you sure put a smile on my face Jeannette! Life for awhile has been feeling out of my control and remembering the one thing I have control over is my choice of story sure makes me hoot with laughter. Good one Jeannette.
    My brother was commenting on how recycling is just a feel good and in the bigger picture is it really helping with all the fuel used. But I like my feel good story! I like the visual I have of what I am saving from going into the landfill, and it is an outing for my frail Mom to go to. That and going for ice cream, I mean really whose story do you like better, recyling and ice cream or recycling and fuel used up.
    I have to admit I have been struggling with stories lately. My mom who lives with us now has a scathing tongue and sometimes her stories bite…literally.
    But whoose story is it anyways. Just because someone says something doesn’t mean it is true OR that you have to accept it. When I got laid off for being too slow at a bank my friend said just because they said so doesn’t mean it is so. And she is right! There was a whole lot of sabatoging and politics involved and as much as it stung because I had tried so hard my angels pulled me out of the unhappy environment and that is MY story.
    And really in the bigger picture (as my adorable brother likes to say) whoose story matters the most to you. I think sometimes we forget that and match other’s energy. Haven’t we all told both stories (like Jeannette) depending on which friend is listening.
    But my good news these days is that someone I hold in high regard is listening and I chose the brighter story for her.
    Love Leslie
    Love Leslie

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