Let’s Hear It for the Buggers!

One of the ways I attract fabulous clients is by keeping a perfect client list, which has morphed over the years as I’ve gained clarity about who I love to work with.

Whenever a “don’t want” experience unfolds, that’s my cue to revisit the list to ensure my attention is squarely focused on what I do want. (So I don’t start attracting more clients who cancel at the last minute, don’t like my coaching style, etc.)

If I don’t already have an entry on the list representing what I prefer, it gets updated to include it.

Which means that while the list started as a pretty simple thing (with a couple of entries about how they find me, are delighted to pay my full rates, happy to start work, etc.), over time the “don’t want” experiences have upgraded this perfect client list to a thing of beauty.

It includes some really nice detail about who exactly my best clients are.

This focusing tool that guides my vibration (and thus my business) into ideal territory is worth more than I can properly describe. It’s a powerful thing for filling my business with perfect peeps.

And other than those first few traits I came up with on my own, every line on that list was delivered by “one of the buggers,” as Abe calls them … Some experience or person I did not enjoy for one reason or another.

I don’t think you can really create a fabulous list like that from scratch. Contrast is what brings that level of clarity.

That’s why I get it when Abe says we should thank those who show us what we don’t want, because without them life doesn’t get as fabulous as it can be.

A while ago I had a client experience that I didn’t love. Per my focusing habit, after grumbling about it for a minute, I turned attention to my perfect client list.

(Just to make sure I’m pointed where I want to go. Don’t need any more of this crap.)

Lo and behold, this particular aspect wasn’t on the list.

It wasn’t on the list!!

I could hardly believe it, but this called for an update! I can’t even remember the last time my list got an upgrade!

It was kind of amazing to realize that this person was directly responsible for helping my business get even better.

That’s when I really got what Abe means when they say, “Thank your buggers.”

I mean, when was the last time someone gave me a new line for my list?!

She gave me a new line! She gave me stronger clarity! What a gift, and what a hero!

I share this for those of us who sometimes forget the value of those “don’t want” experiences. Whoever helps us better understand what we want, they deserve a round of applause for giving us that clarity.

So instead of grumbling about how they did us wrong, let’s celebrate the role they played in expanding our lives even further. That means you, ex-husbands, politicians, and inconsiderate drivers. You are helping pave the way – in big ways and small – to our even better experience.

That is, as long as we remember to turn our attention to what we do want, however we accomplish that.

Bring it on, Universe! We conscious creators know what to do with the buggers!

  • October 16, 2015
  • Joan Teg says:

    Love this! Love them buggers…???? Fantastic read….!!!!!

  • Elaine says:

    Gotta love those “buggers”. They have certainly helped to tweak my list for sure!

  • Elle says:

    Another thought that can be added to this one is not to chase after things. Rather, let them come to you. Allow them to come to you. This is profound. If you are chasing and not getting results, perhaps it is time to let go and let be and see what happens. Life will lead you to where to need to be, eventually.
    I have read many accounts where creators tried too hard, let it go and then it came back to them in the strangest of ways, or so it seems. Actually, it was in the most painless way. So, Universe does not torture. The pain is self-inflicted.

  • Elle says:

    Ah, yes, this is really good and it is true!
    Better yet, though, I saw clip from a mystic who said to forget about like and dislike. He mentioned to make yourself in such a way that everything yields to you, i.e, everything likes you (animate and inanimate things alike) and that is true flow. In order to do this, we need to be more neutral, for liking something and not liking something creates a skewed reality and a need, both of which we need to be free from. “whatever, as I like to put it.
    Neutrality was what he was talking about. Liking and disliking creates a sort of bondage and freedom is what a true spiritual seeker seeks. The Universe yields more easily in neutrality.

    • Jeannette says:

      Well, preferences are part of the life process, right, Elle? It’s not that we want to become “opinionless” – but rather that we just don’t want to let resistance rule our focus.
      I remember Abe telling Esther recently, when she was trying to do a focus wheel or something like that to make herself like sushi, that it’s okay to like some things and dislike others. That’s part of what it is to be here. Just don’t keep attention on what we don’t want.

  • Indeed, so true, these life buggers or not problems and at worse only challenges, that ultimately make us better.

  • AMEN, Jeannette. You know for a fact that I’ve been saying this for a while…and it really does make a difference!
    Many blessings,

  • Sabeen says:

    I love this! It really puts a positive spin on it to think of all of those buggers being in vibrational cahoots with me, agreeing to show up just to do me the favour of being a real-life mirror reflecting my vibration back to me, so I can know what it is and clean it up. It’s a fun thought to think of those difficult people and circumstances vibrationally winking at me – saying, see, we promised we’d show up to help you expand 🙂

  • Eleanor says:

    I always think of contrast like recycling…take junk you don’t want and could care less about and presto pasta it’s turned into something wanted and even better! One man’s contrast is another mans treasure!

    • Jeannette says:

      Such a good point, Eleanor (“One man’s contrast is another man’s treasure”)! I’ve found that to be true many times. And amen for it! 🙂

  • Nina says:

    At first I don’t notice those buggers. Then I start to feel annoyed, and because they persist (obviously!) I finally take a moment and deal with them. I have to learn to become aware of them right away.
    Thank you, buggers, for making me grow! 😀

  • Heather says:

    Thank you, thank you, thank you buggers! 😀
    Again, such a great article, Jeannette!
    Life improves, thoughts and feelings improve with their help!
    I wish it didn’t hurt that much at the beginning though! 😀

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