The Art of Enjoying Thanksgiving
Anyone else gearing up for challenging interactions with family this holiday season?
I didn’t think I’d be in that category myself (since my folks stopped doing dinner at their house years ago), but I am facing a challenge this year.
Which means a smart manifester would do some pre-paving before dinner!
(Backstory is my sister-in-law and I don’t see eye to eye in politics. And she’s not shy about sharing her strong opinions at the table, since just about everyone else there agrees with her. (In fact, my brother-in-law is kind of a jerk about it, too.)
I’m normally a live and let live kind of girl, but something about this dinner conversation spoils my appetite.
That’s when I realized I don’t want to eat with her. I’d rather have mac and cheese at home with friendly dogs.
So here I am, facing down a lot of contrast, knowing lots of others are doing the same this holiday.
I’d love to hear your strategies and solutions for enjoying challenging holiday interactions with family you might be privileged to avoid the rest of the year. Here’s what I’m going with in the meantime:
1. Deep breath. (ah, even just one feels better! Relief!)
2. What do I love about my sister-in-law? Well, she’s willing to cook for someone who holds opposite viewpoints. We do agree on some things (she’s a strong advocate for animal welfare). She remarried her ex-husband, which shows she’s capable of forgiving and loving despite challenges. That feels better. She’s got a huge heart for animals, too. That automatically makes her easy to love!
3. General appreciation next: cute kitties sleeping on my lap. Who can be upset with these two contentedly purring away right here?
4. When my sweetie called just now I told him all about my challenges with his sister and her opinions and how much I wasn’t looking forward to hearing them again.
His response, “Would you like a break tonight?” I thought that was so sweet of him to ask. “Yes, I’d LOVE a break.”
“Great,” he said, “meet me at 5:30 wherever you want and please bring my bowling ball that I left at home.”
Which made me laugh – that he totally wasn’t buying into my big bad story. Gotta love that guy sometimes. Refusing to go with me where it doesn’t feel good, which loosens my hold on the negative as well.
With that I’m feeling it shift. This exchange is already part of my past. I’m in charge of my holiday again.
I’m in charge of me. And how I feel.
And I get to have dinner at my favorite Mexican restaurant tonight because I’m bringing the bowling ball! lol
When I’m feeling even better, I’ll probably remember how to focus on what I want, release judgment, see the mirror, let go of the charge, not care what others think, hang out with folks who don’t buy into my sad stories and question my thoughts and all that good stuff, but in the meantime, I’m just happy not to be sweating it out any more.
So let’s hear it – what are your coping strategies?
PS – the caption on this great photo says “Set Aside Your Differences.” This is an image I’ll take with me to dinner next week! I mean, if Hans Solo can toast a Stormtrooper – surely I can too!