The Dreaded LOA Question
You might know this routine …
You’ve got your LOA groove on, dialed onto what you want, seeing your future success, feeling how it feels – everything we’re supposed to do to signal Universe that we’re a match for this desire.
All systems are go.
And then some well-meaning loved one asks, “How’s it going?”
They don’t realize that asking us to report on what’s happening is like someone dragging the needle in the middle of Beethoven’s Fifth. Or finding a bandaid in your bite of chocolate cake.
Answering that question can ruin the rhythm and distract our focus in a way that slows down (or even blocks) our desire from manifesting.
Unless things are going great right now. In which case it’s a fabulous question to answer!
It gives us a chance to revel in the good vibes and attract even more good stuff.
But when present reality is NOT great …
When we’re still in the early stages – or even the late stages where not much seems to be happening or going our way – it can be a brutal question!
Because this stage of manifesting can be a vulnerable time, and because taking score too soon doesn’t help. Reporting on the current state of our reality isn’t usually helpful.
So here are five ways to manage the dreaded LOA question, when a well-meaning friend asks for a status report on our dream:
1. Answer a different question.
Instead of answering how things are right now, you can answer a slightly different question that has a dramatically different vibration.
Maybe instead of telling how it’s going you could share:
- What I’m enjoying now is …
- What I’m looking forward to soon is …
- A recent win I’m celebrating is …
- Reasons to believe things are going my way include …
Just because they asked for a rundown of present reality doesn’t mean you have to give it. Answer a more helpful question instead.
2. Deflect the question.
Sometimes the easiest thing to do is not answer at all.
Instead, just nod and smile and ask how things are for them.
Changing the subject may be your best option, especially with folks who like to talk about themselves.
You can always explain why you’re not talking about the current status of your project if it feels appropriate.
3. Train them to new questions.
Speaking of explaining, you might save yourself a lot of trouble by just training your people how to better engage you on this sensitive subject of your dream creation.
You can offer suggestions as to how they can more supportively express interest in your project.
You can even ask them to refrain from engaging on this subject unless YOU initiate.
It may help to explain that talking about “what is” isn’t very helpful, and that you’re keeping things to yourself in the meantime.
Let them know they’ll be the first to hear your good news when you’re ready to share.
4. Script your answer.
This is my personal favorite, if the situation warrants it.
Instead of telling how it is, tell it how you’d rather it be!
It won’t be appropriate for every occasion or conversation, but there are many times when this is a good chance for us to practice what our success sounds like when shared with another person.
5. Answer Half Full
Look, we’re conscious creators – we’re skilled at seeing what’s going right.
This is a great chance to answer the question with the parts that are working out. Even if they’re slim parts …
- “I’m getting good clarity about what works and what doesn’t …”
- “I’m learning how to do things I’ve never done before …”
- “I’m cooking up a heck of a rags to riches story!”
Anything that lets you focus on the positive while still answering the question will serve you and your manifesting success.
Indeed, answering the “how’s it going” question can be a good exercise for YOU to train your attention toward what’s working.
And worst case scenario … you don’t have to answer at all. “Nunna yur bizness” is a valid answer, too.
If you’ve got other tips for answering the dreaded LOA question, we’d love to hear them.
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