The Thing about Training for Trouble

Although I’m not exactly a connoiseur of national news, last year’s Hudson River plane landing had my rapt attention. 
Not just because it had a happy ending, but also because it seemed to defy all odds to qualify as an outstanding real life miracle.
I wasn’t alone in enjoying coverage of the event, as google reveals over 6 million hits for “Hudson plane.”
Recently, an Abraham workshop participant asked the question about how many people had to be aligned in order to allow that particular miracle to unfold.
Abraham’s answer is why I’m writing about this topic today.
While the guy asking the question viewed the Hudson River event as if it were a miracle of alignment that the pilot was able to land the jetliner without suffering any casualties, Abraham offered an alternate perspective:

Yes, this pilot managed to land in the river without sacrificing any lives.  But this same pilot also managed to rendezvous with a flock of birds that required the emergency landing in the first place.

Abraham said this pilot’s extensive training for flight emergencies made him an excellent match for experiencing a flight emergency. 
While we celebrate his ability to have managed it extremely well, it might be worth noting that a pilot who doesn’t attract emergencies might be something to celebrate, too.
Yes, I get it.  Training for trouble makes us more likely to attract trouble.  And is trouble what we really want?
But it was such a cool story!  How boring would life be if everything always went perfectly?!
And that’s exactly what Abraham shared at the end of the conversation about the perils of training for trouble – we do like our dramas
Don’t we?
Abraham added that in our culture it’s rare we’re not being warned or trained for some sort of trouble somewhere along the line, but that’s our opportunity as deliberate creators – to choose consciously what we’re attracting into our lives. 
Sometimes maybe close calls are exciting, and sometimes maybe they’re worth skipping altogether.
What do you guys think?  If you had the choice (which we do), would you choose no trouble at all?  Or are there some challenges you wouldn’t opt out of?

  • February 6, 2010
  • Anna says:

    To the insurance aspect of life – I always had full, proper and sufficient insurance: as homeowner, tenant, and for my vehicle, covering theft, accidents, and damage, be that by people or nature. As well, I locked doors, windows, and ensured “enticements” were well hidden.
    During these years, my house was broken into, things were stolen, one vehicle was broken into several times, another was stolen and completely trashed, yet another time I was rear-ended.
    I stopped buying insurance for my “stuff” about 6 years ago, and more than a year ago, opted for the very basic vehicle insurance required by law. My windows are open, I lock my door when I go to bed, I leave my keys under the driver’s seat of my unlocked vehicle. Outdoor buildings don’t even have locks on them.
    In all of these years of NOT purchasing “expected” and “recommended” insurance, nothing has been stolen nor damaged.
    HA! (she says to fear mongers)

  • Stacy @ Wealth For Everyone says:

    Hi Mia,
    If I’m not mistaken here we have to have home owners insurance if we have a mortgage. I could be wrong though. For a while in places like Florida and Mississippi due to the hurricane damage people couldn’t get new home owners policies. Which made me wonder if people could buy a house in full and forego insurance. Not sure.
    But I try to keep the vibe of nothing happening to my house. And despite lots of trees and such – nothing really bad ever happens.
    Here it is mandatory to have car insurance. So I don’t even think about NOT having it.
    But health insurance – I hear that Jerry and Esther Hicks don’t have health insurance and despite their “advanced” ages (ie ages when society expects people to have lots of health issues) they’re super healthy. Because they expect to be.
    I’m not yet ok with not having health insurance but am getting closer. It’s more dealing with my mom who’d FREAK if she knew I didn’t have insurance. She always tells me stories of young people who didn’t have it and then had some random thing happen – like appendix issue – and the bills wiped them out.
    It’s funny how we have such a group vibe about stuff like this. It’s definitely something to think about.

  • Paul says:

    I had to laugh scrolling through the comments, seeing the pictures of everyone. “Hey there’s Frank .. and Tshombe .. and there’s Nancy ..” What a wonderful community this is. Thanks Jeanette.
    I am also smiling at my own tendency to create exciting circumstances (formerly known as “drama addict”). My nervous system is wired for wanting excitement. So, when I don’t that fill than need consciously, I unconsciously create excitement – often with painful side effects. It’s not a stretch at all for me to feel into the consciousness of the Hudson River pilot.
    Since I’m being kinder and allowing myself to want what I want, I finding I have more free attention to attract experiences that feel good over the long haul.

  • Mia says:

    Funny, Stacy, when I read your comment my immediate reaction was: “Oh my god, how can anyone NOT have insurance.” I guess it’s different for you guys than for us here in Europe. Health insurance is obligatory over here (at least in Belgium – I don’t know about all the other countries, but I guess it’s fairly similar).
    But I was actually thinking about house insurance when I started reading your comment, before I got that you referred to health insurance. That was even a bigger shock to my system: “Dear Lord, don’t let me even THINK about not having insurance for my house” (which isn’t mine – I rent it, but again: the insurance is obligatory.)
    It is an interesting point you are bringing up. It’s so obvious for me to have all kinds of insurance, I never question the vibe around it (and I wouldn’t even dream of not paying for my insurance – again, most of them are obligatory, like my professional insurance, even though I’m in a relatively risk-free profession).
    Well, let me not go any further into conjuring up possible harm, but thanks again for contributing to my awareness around insurance. You got me thinking about trust, and how our governmental insurance systems are set up in relation to that. Interesting…

  • Stacy @ Wealth For Everyone says:

    Oh and I meant to add – I am wanting to get to the point where I feel completely fine WITHOUT having insurance. I still have some beliefs that the minute I cancel it is when something will go awry. The belief isn’t that strong but it’s there on some level. I need to focus on the fact that I expect to be healthy and thus I always am. (Even when I SHOULD have had strep throat because someone around me had it and I had one day of a sore throat – I refused to acknowledge it as a possibility and that sore throat went away and I never even got antibotics as suggested by the strep throated person.) Also that I’ve been without insurance before and was just fine.
    Heck, I used LOA the other day. I hadn’t had my teeth cleaned in over two years. Friday before last I finally had my appointment. I was a bit concerned before about any issues (I’d had some gum disease issue long time ago). I stopped those thoughts and scripted on having healthy teeth and gums. Sure enough they were rather surprised how clean and healthy my teeth and gums were despite not having had a cleaning in over two years.
    Ok, I’ve convinced myself – work a bit more on the needing insurance belief so I can let it go.

  • Stacy @ Wealth For Everyone says:

    Jeannette – what a hoot that you like turbulence. I guess, I sorta like it too. When it happens I tend to say, “Weeeeeeeeeee!” and throw my hands up. Now I LOVE rollercoasters though. Luckily I live near a Six Flags. I also have gone skydiving twice and enjoyed it. But I won’t bungee jump.
    Thinking on this topic some more – I think for some people who have a lot of unwanted drama in their lives it could be due to thinking that without it life is boring. I just think life can be very exciting but it doesn’t need the “bad” drama and overwhelming amounts of conflict.
    Or maybe they don’t feel worthy of the situations that produce that high/vivid emotion in an enjoyable way.

  • I believe there are no accidents without value. Meaning, when events happen, even the ones that bring trouble, there is always something of value that can be gained.
    So, it’s not so much training for trouble as it is seeing the value when it happens.

  • Thanks for the kind words, Robin! Much appreciated!

  • Robin says:

    Hi, Jeannette – I am enjoying your blog a lot! I have read many Law of Attraction authors and try my best to practice what I’ve read. It’s great to find someone who is also trying to live that life and I love reading about the real things that come up in today’s world. So I wanted to say thanks! 🙂

  • Gorgeousophie says:

    I love this post Jeannette and everyone! Drama!? Having chosen to be born in a Franco-Sicilian/Judeo-Christian family, I obviously am a soul with a taste for drama, hehehe! And although I have been contrasting like a beast at times, to the point of making myself ill for a number of years, can’t say I am a fully fledged dramaphile despite intensive training! Janette, nice one and am loving the poor frog image! So where does that live me now – pondered I whilst reading all the posts. I am all for smooth, ease and grace (bring it on BIG U!) as well as joyful, drama free, heart beating faster , butterflies in my stomach, excitement! Oh, and I definitely MUST let go of the last shreds of the ‘drama is more fun’ concept, that’s for sure! I am working on it!

  • Janette, that makes two of us, I’ve also only recently began to see the gift in contrast!!
    And I am really grateful for the way ÿou describe the two choices and the drama – it brought so much clarity to my thoughts 🙂

  • Janette says:

    Great discussion! Especially interesting about how we define ‘drama’, what it means to each of us.
    I only recently began to understand the concept of appreciating and valuing contrast in my life, as a way of launching each new rocket of desire. Seems to me that once the contrast is experienced, once we are aware of it, we have two choices.
    One choices is to recognise that the perfect solution; the desire; the solution to the problem – whatever it might be – has already been created in our Vortex of well-being. It exists now, in vibrational reality. Our job now is to allow, so we can simply anticipate the great moment when it emerges into physical reality, and kinda surf that wave of anticipation all the way. That’s the fun, no-drama way to do it. And boy am I looking forward to the day I can do this all the time, at will, without a second thought, LOL!!!
    The second choice is the one where we get caught up in the contrast, and for me, that’s where the drama begins. Drama in my world is what happens when I forget my power to create. When I feel helpless or a victim of circumstance. When I get immersed so deep into contrast I’m like the frog in slowly heating water – it’ll boil before I know what’s happened.
    Like I said, my intention is to get so practised at surfing the wave from contrast to manifestation, I never experience drama again. What a blast would that be!!

  • Sue says:

    Mia, thanks so much for the link to
    what a wonderful idea. I’ve been using it all day and it’s so helpful in shifting my energy. Whenever I’ve gotten bogged down with a thought, I just whatifup it. Sometimes things are so simple we just can’t possibly think of them, due to being in a very different vibration. More terrific tools!

  • It’s always a party when you show up, Leslie! 🙂

  • leslie richter says:

    You are really owning your power when you spiral up aren’t you? I was thinking of the symbol of a spiral and how when you look at it you usually focus on the outside edge and travel inward. But “planning for the best” gives me the visual of starting from the center of the spiral and spinning out.
    Apparently there are more ways than one to be a figure skater. And just as great news that upgrading to first class can be the solution. Is this a party or what?

  • Patty, I know all about “insignificant” things being the cause for getting worked up. And I laughed out loud at your “the work sucks” observation!
    I’m sure you’re not alone in that occasional mood.
    Tshombe, your comment is making me laugh, too. Because I started to think, “But Abraham said emergency training attracts emergencies” and then I remembered a “Fire Your Gurus” article I just posted at Good Vibe U. (Encouraging us to think for ourselves and be our OWN gurus.) ha
    Nice to see you’re thinking for yourself, and especially nice that you take the time to share thoughts with us!
    Good reminder about the allowing, too.

  • Tshombe says:

    @Frank LOVE your post. Cracking me up, just like Jeannette. Go ahead: Say **ck!
    @Susanne Well articulated and I agree that sometimes we overanalyze who and what is manifesting, and we just need to be concerned about what we’re doing in the moment! I’m glad the pilot was thinking that in the moment he safely landed the plane.
    @Patty I love it! Yes! Love the Inner Bitch. I think that’s the surest route to freedom. I challenge you to release calling your issue you’re dealing with stupid. Judgment always keeps us stuck.
    In my opinion, coaching clients is all about the clients. It’s only the trying to “get them” or be great that we feel we aren’t doing anything for them.
    I know you know all this, but I think it boils down to “allowing”: allowing the feelings, allowing your clients to discover on their own (with you as catalyst) and not worry about whether you are reaching for the thought that feels better. By allowing your feelings (as opposed to wallowing in them) — which means releasing them – you automatically with move to a different, better feeling vibration.
    All is well.
    Thank you for blessing us with sharing this.

  • Tshombe says:

    Several Caveats: I just read jeannette’s post, but only the first two comments, and I have not read/listened to Abe/Hick’s thoughts so I may be just pulling this out of my proverbial A-S-*.
    I’m thinking the issue is getting a bit confused.
    As we know, the pilot attracted the situation that led to him subsequently having to manifest a safe landing, either consciously (not likely) or consciously.
    I’m not so sure that preparing for an emergency manifested the emergency, however.
    We know that conscious or unconscious intent plus emotion is the potent recipe for manifestation.
    In all likelihood, the pilot did receive training to prepare for emergencies, but whether that is the case or not, the pilot received training in how to expertly fly a plane regardless of circumstances.
    This undoubtedly fed his belief that he could safely land the plane in the moment he was confronted with the emergency.
    Isn’t that the magically power of conscious creation? When we realize we have mis-created to in the moment, create anew?
    The act of creating is not necessarily dependent upon prior training.
    But, if we are to say that preparing tactically or strategically for a possible emergency predestines the emergency, we must likewise honor the preparing/training for expert flying as a professional pilot itself as creating flawless landing with or without the presence of an emergency.

  • Patty says:

    Good god that is a long post I just posted. If you want to get to the point of it just read the last paragraph.

  • Patty says:

    This post has crazy timing for me. Just this weekend a situation arose that got me fuming. I’ll spare you all the details but there is a meeting tomorrow morning to resolve the issue. Needless to say, I have begun training for trouble.
    I’ve been in a slow burn all weekend over this really stupid stupid issue. But two things occurred in the midst of this situation that precipitated the slow burn 1)An associate I believed was a friend hurt me & 2) My child was criticized. And those things brought out the crazy bitch in me. Oh yah, I thought I had packed her away with my twenties but she is BACK and she is ready for guerrilla warfare.
    Now my loving LOA friends I know how you would counsel me here. I assure you I have been reaching for a better feeling thought about the situation – cannot catch one for more than a second or two. Same goes for the people involved. I’ve tried ignoring the situation but my inner bitch grabs hold of my face and turns me right back any time I turn away. My inner bitch thinks The Work sucks (gasp.) And this is what I’ve decided. I love my inner bitch! She is just trying to protect me. She is doing it so fiercely that it is breathtaking. She is preparing for this meeting like our life depended on it and it is crazy and I love her for it.
    I also know why this is happening. I find that there is a generalized theme that runs through my client sessions from week to week. One week it might be money, another week it is relationships. Every client may not be dealing with the issue but usually a couple are. And usually my wonderful guides have sent me a similar issue prior to that week that gives me perspective.
    Well this week the theme was a deep desperation to find relief running throughout a few client sessions. These clients absolutely could not escape a fear or issue. I coached them to accept, ignore, reach for a better feeling thought and all the while I could feel the help was not making a dent. Often magic happens and a client receives something from our session long after we’ve hung up. I prayed for that magic b/c clearly I was not doing it and because I felt their pain and understood they truly wished for relief. But the reality was that I didn’t have their perspective. It has been so long since I’ve felt that desperation that I could not truly see things from their side.
    So here I am. This issue I am confronted with is truly stupid. Perhaps that is why I am not laying out the details (I”m embarrassed something this insignificant has got me this worked up.) But I know this for sure. The pain I feel about it feels real. I am desperate to stop feeling this but cannot bring myself to utilize the LOA tools I know will help. And “preparing” for this meeting (teeth bared/ hissing) brings the only relief I’ve been able to find. And that is just going to have to be good enough for now. Sometimes preparing for the disaster is the only relief we can find.

  • There’s another great real life example of how this works, huh, Annika?! I LOVE that you’re finding it hilarious, too! Way to keep the resistance from piling on!
    Si, I enjoyed your tweets tonight on the topic!
    And to Nancy and everyone else reading, I’m wondering if this might be a semantics thing … like maybe my idea of drama is different than yours.
    I’m still puzzling over how a drama-free life could be any fun at all?! lol
    So I looked up drama: “any situation or series of events having vivid, emotional, conflicting, or striking interest or results.”
    I realized it’s not conflict that I enjoy, and that might be what Mark and some of you are thinking of when you say you prefer life without the drama. But I’m thinking of the VIVID emotions and interest and results!
    Like … watching the underdog Saints win tonight! And what that means for residents of New Orleans, especially after what they’ve been through in that town. That was some fun drama for me tonight.
    (Although then I did wish cutie patootie Payton Manning had gone home with a championship trophy, too.)
    After reading this 37 Seconds post, tonight’s Superbowl game suddenly had interest for me, whereas before, I couldn’t have even told you who was playing!
    That came from the “drama,” right?

  • LOL, Jeannette!! Like Laura, I read your response and thought, “thrill seeker…bet she likes roller coasters, too!” Guess I was wrong there.
    Hey, if you *love* turbulence, be sure to book yourself in the very back row every time you fly in and out of SLC (my*worst* turbulence experience that shot the rockets asking for a better way!).
    Being the HSP that I am, I’ll stick to intending ease, safety, and comfort ~you can have my share of drama!
    Many blessings,

  • Si Dawson says:

    Unsurprisingly, you’re bang on the money with this.
    I only signed on to say, Frank? That’s about the coolest damn thing I’ve ever heard 🙂 Great job man, totally awesome!

  • Annika Bomark says:

    I have a great example of this. When I was building my blog, I came to the point when I wanted to post my e-mail address on the contact page.
    So I googled A LOT on the best way to protect my address from spam, I mean, there are so many options LOL!
    The funny part is, I then started to get a few spam a day on my other address, not posted online anywhere, but I have signed up for stuff with that address for years!
    I’ve used the address for years, and I had never gotten a single spam email, I just wasn’t a match to them.
    Until I started to be concerned about “protecting” my new address!
    I find it hilarious and I knew immediately how I had created it!
    Now, only to figure out how to get back to my “not a match to spam” vibration again 🙂

  • Well that’s funny that you’d mention that, Laura – cause I really don’t like rollercoasters. lol And I don’t need any excitement on the freeway, either. Or at home with any appliances. I like things very smooth running here.
    I guess I like my drama in books and movies and air turbulence primarily. Now I feel kind of drama-wimpy, but this has been SO interesting to explore!

  • Laura says:

    I don’t know where to start…first of all Jeannette, when I read that you love turbulance, my first reaction was “what is wrong with you?”…Ha. I guess you must love rides at amusements parks too (which I DO NOT). Off the subject, but I read somewhere that some people’s nervous system’s are much more sensitive and that why they do not like the sensation of turbulance. I think there are alot of factors that play into that, but I know this blog is not about turbulance (lol).
    This is such a fascinating topic that makes perfect sense. I mean, Scully got exactly what he prepared for…emergency landings. Which could bring up the other whole conversation of what is going with the vibrations/intentions of those planes that do not have such a lucky fate? The ones where 200 people are killed? All they all aligned for that fate? Is that why they “chose” to be on that particular plane? It is a very thought provoking topic when many people are involved. In this particular situation it would seem that Scully’s was the dominant vibration?
    While I do feel that “drama” does add excitement from time to time and make life less boring, I have learned over time that many times the drama is filling a certain need we have. For example, after many years of living very “tight” with money I came to realize that it was providing me with excitment of how I was going to figure out how to deal with the situation. It became a challenge which I would always “win”. First there was the excitment (or stress) of not having enough money, then it became..I CAN DO THIS. However, it was clearly not serving me for a number of reasons but the main one was the vibration I was emitting was one of “not enough, lack, stress, fear and irresponsibility” toward money. I had no idea what I was creating. I have since learned this past year that relaxing and being at peace with money and my feelings towards it served me much better.
    I do think close calls are important because they help put things in perspective. I’ve been in a few before and while they are not “fun” they do help you appreciate the outcome of the event and remind us what we need to focus on.
    Hhmmmm…wonder what would have happened if Scully trained in emergency landings but focused on and imagined only uneventful flights?

  • Sue says:

    Funny how when I first began listening to that cd, I really thought she was going to discuss how in the vortex they were. Quite a shift of understanding I must say, awesome as usual. Great subject. This conversation has caused me to listen to myself when I am making a “if this doesn’t work, I’ll do this” rather than just sticking with the truly desired plan. Love the idea of the best case scenarios!
    So many new ways to think…………..just gotta love it.

  • Susanne says:

    This is interesting. I really do believe that sometimes stuff just happens, not because we attract it but because that’s just how the Universe works. And it was only when I started accepting THAT (& taking so much pressure off myself to “think right”) that the Law of Deliberate Creation really took off for me. I astound myself these days on what I’m bringing into my life — with thanks to your wonderful Pray Rain Journal, I might add. I find much of the Abe material wise and helpful, but not all of it. I ignore the bits that don’t make me feel really good. I don’t even call what I’m doing the Law of Attraction anymore, because I find the word “attract” is fuzzy and hard to grasp. I call it by its other name : the Law of Deliberate Creation, because THAT phrase — to create deliberately — is (for me) powerful and positive and affirming.
    I don’t believe that having an alarm system in my home or taking first aid training or having our commercial pilots well versed in flight emergency protocols or our disaster response personnel trained in what to do in the aftermath of an earthquake or hurricane is attracting burgleries, plane crashes or weather malfunctions. I think it’s smart common sense. It’s taking care of myself & others — it’s deliberately creating well-being and safety, in other words. It makes me FEEL GOOD, and that’s what it’s all about.
    I believe the problems Abe warns us about result when we focus on our fears of the Bad Stuff we’re trying to avoid instead of on the sense of solid well-being such precautions can give us.
    At the same time, I do think some people (probably most of us to a degree & at some time or another) deliberately create drama and uproar. We use it to get attention or to distract us from things we need to be doing or 100 reasons. But did the pilot of the Hudson plane — or any of his passengers — deliberately create that incident to give themselves (& the rest of us!) a jolt of adrenalin? I think it was just birds, & the Deliberate Creation part came when the pilot took right action with focus & confidence born of experience & training. He felt good about his chances, and he made it happen. To me, that’s the magical part of LOA. Then again, it’s entirely possibly I have NO idea what I’m talking about! LOL!

  • Wow – way to resolve THAT drama, Frank! I like your style! lol

  • @Kevin —
    Thanks for the reminder:
    “As Abraham says we build monuments to those who choose the difficult path.”
    That was an answer to some of my asking.
    I used to get claustrophobic while flying. I initially solved it by sitting in the back (imagining the plane being double the size it appeared to be). Then I discovered First Class. All those rockets of desire for more room resulted in an almost unbroken streak of upgrades… 😉

  • Kevin Boon says:

    Hi Jeannette & everyone else,
    Yes I listened to that recording too and it struck a chord. As Abraham says we build monuments to those who choose the difficult path.
    In years past I have flown to a lot of places and went through a phase where I felt this fear around flying. I seemed to work through this phase when I began taking my ipod and began listening to music or something inspirational. This is before listening to Abraham.

  • Mia says:

    Yes, Kimberly – “What’s the best thing that could happen?” Learning to think in best case scenarios.
    Cf. “What if upping”: – imagine better & better outcomes, spiraling up instead in your thinking instead of what most people usually do.

  • Kimberly, I want to do more of that myself: consistently planning for the best.
    Thanks for the inspiration!

  • Kimberly says:

    This is a fantastic post and so timely for my world.
    A couple of weeks ago a friend and coworker said that she always hopes for the best and prepares for the worst and she’s always struggling with conflict after conflict in her professional and personal life.
    I always plan for the best. I’ve learned that it’s my attitude that shapes my experience and I have a great time thinking about what I WANT to happen rather than dwelling on the past or what could go wrong. I’m always happy, every day, I’m having a fantastic life.
    I understand the need for training for those emergencies, but the training should be well rounded, because if we focus too much on what could go wrong, then things go wrong.
    It’s so much for fun imaging all the wonderful things that will go RIGHT!

  • leslie richter says:

    What a fabulous point Mia; dharma and the nasty finger at someone else. I was thinking along those lines as well.
    Do you think that we actually are starting to get off the karmic wheel by being aware of our choices at any given moment?
    We have put certain things in place by our thoughts and actions from before but by acting and choosing consciously, deliberately surly that would be the benefit, we stop creating karma for ourselves. I mean so much of our thinking has been unconcious and blaming others or circumstances.
    Another thought about the Hudson event is that maybe we set the intention to learn about nuetralizing drama. In a very global way the pilot showed the world that you could choose not to buy into the drama and “set an intention”.
    And the poor birds well again contracts of sacrifice which maybe with more deliberate creating we could get rid of. Besides in my reality animals and nature are of the angelic realm and are here to give balance and unconditional love into this world.

  • Marci says:

    Fun to see that you know just what I’m talking about. I do feel that I have grown so much from my phoenix experiences. In fact, I thank them (source, me) almost daily for what the have taught me, where they have brought me. I do love this place I now find myself. I’m trying on a new set of wings!
    Oh, and I am an adventure-seeking junkie. Perhaps that has something to do with it.

  • There is something to be said about the contrast that drama often involves, Iyabo. Good point.
    That’s funny about the “dharma” trying to work its way into your comment, Mia!

  • Mia says:

    Leaving out the drama (gosh, I had to type 4 times before I got this word right! My hands wanted to write “dharma”) means taking responsibility for your own life. I guess that’s why many people prefer the drama. At least you can point a nasty finger to someone else. If there’s no one else to “blame” but yourself, who will you shout at?

  • Iyabo Asani, The Inner Genius Coach says:

    Wow! Really good one Jeanette. It certainly struck a chord with everyone.
    This is the thing. Of course, we do not want drama in our lives but some level of contrast creates Step 1 – know what you don’t want.
    Now, no drama on the level of the Hudson plane but some degree of contrast. I also have a question with Abe saying that the pilot attracted the flying birds.
    What about the intentions and energy of everyone else on the plane?
    How many people were on that flight and no one and prepaved the way for a safe and smooth flight? Now that is drama!
    I once heard a psychologist say that he loved Abe but the only problem is that Abe does not have a brain as they are non-physical.
    It is our lizard brain that requires us to seek out safety by checking and double checking and planning for the worst. And also for the fact that we co-create events with others and not everyone is aligned.
    What a lovely reminder to prepave for what we are attracting all the time.

  • Carol, you’re reminding me of something my aunt said the other day.
    We were talking about core values, and I was wondering whether accomplishment was one that I hadn’t recognized I had. She said something to the effect that 25 years ago accomplishment would have been important to her, too.
    When she said, I got the distinct sense that she lived in a more peaceful place than I did/do.
    Which is why I enjoy these conversations so much! Getting glimpses into other ways of being and doing is such a wonderful catalyst for (possibly) changing my own game up.
    Thanks for posting, Carol!

  • Carol says:

    I also prefer to learn with grace and ease. We learn so much easier when our minds are clear and we are consciously thinking. When I was working, it was easy to get sucked into the workplace drama (company being bought out twice, never-ending job cuts, being on call 24/7) . . . as well as our co-workers’ dramas. I likened it to a merry-go-round. It took getting off of the ride before my life slowed down and I was able to realize that life doesn’t have to be like that. Would I appreciate the life I have now as much if I hadn’t gone through the drama/contrast? Maybe . . . maybe not. Today I can honestly say that I LOVE my drama-free life! It might not be for everyone, but it sure resonates with me. 🙂

  • I know, huh, Amy?! Sometimes it’s a little disconcerting to realize how well trained most of us are to do exactly that (plan for the worst)!
    But – with the awareness – and the KNOWLEDGE about what those habits lead us to – we’re perfectly positioned for change.
    I see you’re way ahead on this one. Kudos!

  • Amy says:

    Loved this one! Also loved it on the Abe recording. I was glad for your reminder.
    I remind myself that going over “what to do in a worst case scenario” in my mind is training! It affects my point of attraction! It’s a dangerous game that I no longer indulge in. (OK, I steer myself away from it as soon as I catch on to what I’m doing.) I say indulge, because, sometimes I think it’s like brain junk food. We have so many choices about what gets air-time in the brain!
    Keep on blogging, Jeannette, I’m loving it!

  • Thanks for joining in here, Jared!
    PS – and thanks for the all the great facebook links. Much appreciated!

  • God bless your awareness, Leslie! Huge gift for you, your mother, and the rest of us who get inspired by your example!

  • Jared says:

    Jeannette, you’ve certainly got a wonderful group of people here sharing their insights with you (and each other). What a great community you have here. I’m honored to be a part of it.
    GREAT comments from all of you. Definitely fascinated to see what shall arise from here.
    Many blessings to you all.
    😀 PEACE 😀

  • leslie richter says:

    My mother is the drama queen of the century and it’s a different generation and it’s a different wiring than me. But she lives with me now and I have had to chose how to deal with this.
    First I maturely raged about it and dragged up old history and finally I have chosen my power back and my place of nuetrality.
    My lifelong friend is a nurse and she keeps trying to “train me for trouble” as I witness the agonizing decline of my mother. But I recently have come to conclude how very much this does not help me and makes me feel awful and fearful. I live day to day with my Mom and deal with whatever comes up with as much compassion, love and good humor as I can muster up that day.
    As much as I recognize my friends love for me and wanting to help out I have decided I would prefer to “train for love” instead.

  • Fen says:

    Marci – I felt like I was reading about myself! The phoenix thing is *exactly* what I did, too! “No matter what, I always rise”. Although, when I first took on that concept, it was a better place than I was at before (ie, not realizing that I was rising at all), so it was a good and helpful thing for me. I, too, eventually grew tired of the “falling” part though 😉
    I still call myself “phoenix” or “Fen” (coming from the FF3-style “Fenix”) around the net and in my music, though. Hmm….. I like the Phoenix for its uniqueness and mythological imagery, though I have to admit that the eagle is pretty compelling too… I’m gonna be thinking about this for a while! 🙂

  • Mitch says:

    I have experienced the addiction to drama in my own life. In many ways, I think it’s inspired by popular media. All of the most popular TV shows, movies, and books have high anxiety and conflict that may or may not get resolved by the end, but boy is it ever satisfying when it does! To feel the tension of such conflict giving way to a happy ending is quite a ride, and I have felt myself unconsciously mimicking that pattern in my life. The problem with doing it in life, though, is that it doesn’t ever really have a happy ending. When I’m setting myself up for drama and high anxiety, that is the majority of what I get, and the relief and happy moments, exhilarating as they might be, are few and far between.
    These days, I’m happy to get my drama fix from fiction(It *is* kind of fun when I’m watching it rather than living it. lol) and allow my real life to be more stable. I don’t need bad things so that I can have the relief of good things. It’s much easier to have things preferred and things not preferred. No drama there. Only choices.

  • Suzie Cheel says:

    Yes we do ‘as Abraham says” like our dramas, or some of us. I am conscious of this right now as today o am in a feeling good space and watching my thoughts etc. The past few days I was in overwhelm, a bit of poor me etc- I have had a lot of training for that , back as far as i can remember- I am now into Training for the feeling good so challenges are something I observe briefly and move on.
    Sometime we do need the challenge to grow? 🙂

  • “I’m stretching time”!! My hero, Anna!!!!

  • Anna says:

    Same principle, different aspect, put to the test:
    Had to be in the city for a test at 6:30, needed to be on the 2:30 sailing to make it comfortably. I was late getting to my friend’s place for our drive to the ferry terminal. “Well, I’ve never made it to the ferry in 20 minutes before,” she said of the 30-minute drive.
    “We’ll make it,” I assured her. “I’m stretching time.”
    Five minutes from cut-off time with a 10-minute drive to go, she started talking about the deadlocked traffic that was going to prevent her from getting me to the test on time (as a result of missing the 2:30 sailing). Huh? I was responsible for being late, I was the one taking the test, and SHE was fretting over a glitch that hadn’t even happened at that point – Yikes!
    Decided to use the opportunity to prove how powerful our thoughts (preparatory and backup) really are (to her, and possibly me too).
    “Stop it!” I said. “Stop it now! Think only about how great it feels as we drive on that 2:30 boat!”
    I’d been trying to take this test for a year. When I got busy advocating for my kid in school, thoughts of the test no longer occupied my mind.
    A-ha… Yeah, Baby!
    We made the boat, ate great sushi, had a ball, I wrote the test, we made the last ferry home, found a paper with the day’s crossword intact AND managed to borrow a pen from the gift shop … I LOVE how this Universe works!

  • Nancy, your comment is helping me to further insights about myself on this topic!
    Because when I’M on the plane, and there’s turbulence, I get excited! I can’t stop smiling! If I’m with a partner on the flight, I look over and smile the biggest smile because the turbulence is my favorite! (Although I also like takeoff, too, because of the speed factor.)
    When we get booked on a small plane, I’m SO excited because I think we’ll better be able to enjoy any potential turbulence on it.
    And when we have a rough landing, I practically feel like thanking the pilot for making it more interesting. (And thanking the senior pilot for letting the junior guy practice his landings.)
    Do you guys remember the scene in Invictus where the plane flies way too low over the field to reveal the sign of team support painted on its belly? I wanna be on that plane!
    Would Abe fly that one? I kinda don’t see that happening. lol I think that’s got “humans” written all over it.

  • Yes, I listened intently to Abe’s comments a few weeks ago and found it’s a thought-and-feeling provoker, for sure! (I love how they get me reconsidering things I haven’t looked at before!)
    Like Frank, I *totally* get what Abe is saying, particularly how it translates in my own life. However, I’m not feeling any anger ~ just noticing the curious disconnect between my own life and what I expect for the general public…wondering, what would bring alignment?
    Personally, I routinely envision safety, protection, and ease, so that’s what I always experience wherever I go. One time I was out running errands around town in a storm, had to pull off the road to wait for the worst to pass, and later found out a Tornado had touched down a half-mile away from where I was! I was safe, though, as intended.
    For years, when there’s bad turbulence in flight, I close my eyes, get into Alpha State and envision the plane being supported and guided ~ALWAYS works to stabilize the plane!
    However, *what is* reminds me that *currently* the VAST majority of folks on this planet are not *quite* ready to even *consider* such a concept. Is that just a story on my part or focusing too much on What Is? Quite possibly, but I know most folks have been so raised with the idea of expecting the worst and imagining catastrophes, that it would take a while for them to get re-aligned in a positive way on this subject.
    Wouldn’t it be *nice* if they were? That is certainly worth envisioning…
    Wouldn’t it be nice if training focused more heavily on envision the best possible outcome every single time?
    Wouldn’t it be nice if more conscious deliberate creators were drawn to such jobs with the *knowing* that it is possible to create the circumstances for only best-case-scenarios?
    In the meantime, it’s good to remember, Abe is a group of advanced non-physical (read that: Adept) beings on the leading-edge of deliberate creation. Wouldn’t it be nice if Abe was always flying my planes, engineering my trains, and driving my buses?
    Many blessings,

  • Mark, you don’t think one day you’ll have so much ease that you’ll wish for some even just mildly dramatic excitement?
    (Part of me thinks that all of us proved that in ourselves already when we chose to be here now.) hee hee

  • Mark says:

    I’ve been on this planet long enough to know that I choose grace and ease. I experience growth more quickly when I move through any contrast in grace and ease. I’m training for ease, it’s much more enjoyable. 🙂

  • Way to have your cake and eat it, too, Marci! (That is my favorite thing to do, after all.)
    Thanks for leading the way and showing how it’s done!

  • Marci says:

    Gosh, did I even tie my last post into Jeannette’s blog?
    My point is that in the past I may have been drawing in drama because I liked the idea of my phoenix process… and now, I am drawing only freeing, soaring experiences to me.

  • Marci says:

    I’ve been thinking of this lately, too. As my life gets better and better, more peaceful and drama-free, I recognize that I have, in the past, enjoyed the idea of considering myself a phoenix. As in, rise from the ashes… as in, landing on my feet again, no matter what. And now, from this more peaceful, better and better place, I deliberately choose to consider myself an eagle, soaring free. My new mantra: I allow ONLY people and circumstances into my life that lift me up and enrich me.

  • Frank, I am laughing out loud at your post!!
    Makes me wish we were in the same town again with Flavia to enjoy another fascinating in-person conversation over Greek food! 🙂

  • Interesting synchronicity Jeannette! I happened to be listening to this very thing about 10 days ago and have be enjoying the contrast quite a bit…
    And by “enjoying” I mean throwing a little hissy fit and being tempted to never listen to another Abraham anything again. You know, that sort of contrast.
    I’ve discovered something…
    I totally get this truth when it’s just about me.
    But, wow, I don’t want anyone telling anyone else “you created that stuff.” Mmmm… No, I don’t. There is something in my thoughts that wants to protect other people from even their own stuff.
    Intellectually I totally get it: no one needs that protection.
    But, again, wow. I’d like to say how spiritually evolved I am and that I’ve got this figured out, but not quite yet. On the EGS, I’d say I’m at anger on this topic.
    By the way, I’m a channel, so the context of the question and answer really hits home for me. There are times that I don’t want to let the Communion of Light say what needs to be said and to answer the questions that are being asked, but fortunately that vortex has its own greater purpose and it’s much easier to allow even these tough answers. I appreciate Esther for being able to stay in the vortex.
    But, wow, this brought up some juicy contrast.
    Thanks for bringing up this topic — I’m looking forward to what others have to say. Meanwhile, I’m off to do a focus wheel!
    Much love,
    P.S. In the interest of everyone, I’m using the word wow where I would rather use a word that rhymes with stuck.

  • I think you’re absolutely right, Stacy – that the movies and books provide us a “safe” experience of the drama we sometimes enjoy!
    And how funny we have the exact opposite take on insurance! What I feel by having health insurance in place is that I’m prepping for and anticipating a problem! (And I might have a slight desire to get my money’s worth, too. ha ha)
    Same with seatbelts – as soon as I buckle that thing in it feels like I just turned on the magnet for an accident. (Which is why I don’t.)
    This is why there are no hard and fast rules for all of us, right? Because the ACTION isn’t what matters – it’s the vibe behind it!
    Okay, and can I just say – I LOVE your new pen!! “Inspire”! How brilliant are YOU!? It also shows (as well as your tuning into good news habit) that you are really good at paying attention to how things feel.
    Kudos, my friend!

  • Stacy @ Wealth For Everyone says:

    I sometimes feel I’m the Lone Ranger in my wanting to be drama free. But to me, drama free doesn’t mean you have to have no excitement. I prefer my excitement to come from anticipating and then experiencing fun events. Such as planning a big trip to Paris and enjoying that anticipation and then having a blast while actually in Paris.
    Also I think that movies and tv shows and books and other forms of entertainment should be enough of a source of drama. It’s the perfect mix – it’s not “real” but you can enjoy it for what it is and not mix up your vibe with it.
    On the other hand, do I want a pilot who is captaining a plane I’m on to freak out and have no idea how to handle issues or emergencies? No.
    Until we can collectively as a society not expect emergencies having training to handle them will be the norm. I have a belief that for the most part if you are prepared for something unwanted it won’t happen. I joke that’s why I have insurance – I pay for it so nothing actually happens. Maybe being prepared for an emergency takes away that big fear vibe and thus it’s less likely to happen. By being prepared you don’t focus on it anymore and aren’t worried about it.
    Ironically, I pretty much never watch the news but somehow I caught the story as it was unfolding about this plane landing in the Hudson. I was thrilled with the pilot and how it played out. I guess I saw it because I only intend to see good news rather than bad news.
    Oh, Jeannette, on a totally different note – I wanted to share this with you. I bought your Pray Rain Journal product and you mention having a special pen for it. So I put out the intention to find the right pen. I even bought some but they didn’t quite fit. Then just the other day in the mail I got a nice pen from a company that will personalize pens for businesses to use as advertising. So this pen has my name on it and I really like the look of it and how it writes. Oh and it gets better – the name of the pen is the INSPIRE! How cool is that?! I’d never been contacted by this company and they sent it to me personally not my LLC. So now this pen is my PRJ pen.

  • That was the part that particularly interested me, Jared .. how the birds were part of this co-creation as well. I’d like to research that more.
    Yes, indeed, “none of it is real” sure helps take the edge off, huh? Thanks goodness it’s such a convincing illusion or the fun really would be gone.

  • Donna, you’re making me laugh! I’d like a trained pilot, TOO, but maybe a pilot who was more focused on everything going perfectly than one who had been running emergency scenarios through his mind for 20 years. lol
    Oh, I just finished reading the rest of your comment – and see that we’re on the same page!
    Have to tell you, I got goose bumps reading this part:
    “.. to the challenge and excitement of learning to ride the contrast that is the substance of the agreements of this world…..YES! With a determined focus on the positive outcome of being the master of them.”
    Well said, Darliss!!

  • Oooh! That is an interesting one! I certainly don’t want an untrained pilot playing in the cockpit of the jet I am riding in.
    I think learning how to resist gravity includes learning what happens when you don’t have the power to resist gravity, and the contrast is part of the experience we are here for.
    Learning the contrast that is part of the agreements in this world as it applies to our endeavors (ie, gravity and flying) simply means we know the rules and our creating does not have negative energy even if we know what COULD happen unless that is what we are holding in the forefront of our minds. I would think trusting that we know those rules when we have other peoples lives in our hands is a positive vibe.
    So… the challenge and excitement of learning to ride the contrast that is the substance of the agreements of this world…..YES! With a determined focus on the positive outcome of being the master of them.
    I personally prefer to attract pilots into my experience who are sporting that particular vibe and not put myself in the creating “slipstream” of people who imagine flocks of birds flying into engines. I fly back and forth to work every two weeks!

  • Okay, hearing that from YOU, Fen, is making me think twice about it!
    Really?! I expect that from Flavia … but you, too?! lol
    Maybe there is something to this drama-free life after all, huh?
    I mean, if it’s getting an endorsement from YOU, too … ?!

  • Fen says:

    (this is coming from a guy who never used to feel right unless he was fighting a heroic awesome battle and eventually gaining a super-unlikely victory – the unlikelier the better! So, it could be I’m just worn out with that 😉 ) or is it 😉 ?

  • Fen says:

    If you had asked me only a couple months ago, I would have sung the praises of challenge, difficulty and close calls. They are, after all, really exciting, right?
    Now I’m not so sure though. I was certain that relaxing, doing fun and easy things, and just enjoying being, would be insufferably boring. Shockingly, though, I’m finding that it’s pretty fulfilling. There may come a time when I want to dive back into challenge, but at this particular time, I don’t think I really need it. 🙂

  • Great example, Donna! It’s perfect because that’s the sort of action that most people would consider “prudent” and wise. And yet, it may be activating the very thing we DON’T want!
    (I know some people can lock their doors and feel safe, while others lock doors out of fear.
    Is it interesting that it isn’t the ACTION that makes the difference – rather, the energy behind it?
    SUCH fascinating stuff! Thanks for posting, Donna!

  • Donna Thomson - Self Mastery Coach says:

    Hi Jeannette, now that you bring this up I have to personally agree that sometimes we like a bit of excitement that comes with close calls. But it also makes me aware of getting into that ‘preparing for trouble’ mentality. An example coming to mind is when I still lived at home and the house was robbed. My mother was so focused on protecting the house from then on, with locks on all windows and extra locks on doors. I intuitively knew that it wasn’t good to focus so much, every day on making sure everything was locked. I was only a teenager then. It’s no surprise then that the house was robbed again about 12 months later.
    Anyway, great post!

  • Jared says:

    Jeannette, this is a great post and I love the angle that you chose to share with us from Abraham.
    That’s interesting to think that the pilot (and the collective consciousness) attracted the birds and the ‘heroic’ flight. Many things coming up for me.
    First, each soul has their own journey. The pilot, the birds, and every person involved with it chose that experience at some level.
    And in addition, its a great reminder, when all of this ebb and flow of Good and Bad, to remember that none of it is real! 🙂 The physical reality and the experiences within it are an illusion, a projection of a Higher Mind, so a fun practice for this, and anything else, is to remember that this reality isn’t real. 🙂
    What a great post and insight. Thank You for taking inspired action with this Jeannette, and allowing me to remember that this too isn’t real! 😉
    😀 PEACE 😀

  • Well that’s beautiful allowing, Flavia. Which I wouldn’t expect any less from you! Not making contrast bad – just opting out of the particularly high “drama” for yourself.
    My big drama recently was when my tire was flat after wrapping up a vet appointment. My ex sent his dad over to fix it for me, the afternoon was filled with handsome men intent on helping me, and even sweet & helpful girls, too! I felt incredibly supported and lucky, believe it or not – and that’s enough drama for me. lol
    Thanks for the post, Flavia. I always enjoy hearing from you!

  • Flavia says:

    !I was listening to it in the car and we happened to go to Barnes and Nobles afterwards and LOA pointed out to me 2 books that have been written about it! Wow! I think life’s more fun without the drama so I’d opt to not train for ’emergency” anything or push against or give them any sort of attention. It’s what feels best to ME. I feel like I have plenty of things to savor and enough contrast to keep me busy without the need to add more drama. And if others like the drama, I say good for them, let them have it, whatever we find value in serves us in some way. I know I won’t rendez-vous with them anyway. We’re on totally different frequencies.

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