The Three Rs of Finding the Feel Good
We all know that one of the most important concepts in deliberate creation is feeling good.
Without good vibes we’ve got misaligned energy to the things we desire (since we only want anything because we think it’ll feel good to get it). When the energy isn’t aligned with what we want, what we want doesn’t happen.
So feeling good is KEY.
The question sometimes arises as to what to do when we have contradictory “feel goods.”
For example, it feels good to have a quiet weekend at home, but our sister is expecting us to visit for her birthday party. Or it feels good to sleep in today, but it also feels good to keep the job that requires a 7 a.m. arrival. Or it feels good to buy a one-person sauna, but it also feels good to keep the money set aside in savings.
How to manage contradictory feel goods?
It’s an important skill to hone since feeling good is crucial to successful deliberate creation.
Here are the three “R”s for maintaining the “feel good” when contradictions appear:
- Recognize when a limiting belief may be in play (and get over it)
- Release yourself from the need of someone else’s approval and acceptance
- Reveal the deeper the desire (explore what you really want)
1. Recognize limiting beliefs: We handicap ourselves with limiting beliefs all the time. (Oops, there it is again!)
Question the obstacles that seem to contribute to a compromised feel good. Do you really have to be at work at 7 am in order to keep the job? When I realized my body really preferred to wake up with the sun, I asked my boss if I could shift my schedule to come in an hour later. He appreciated the catalyst to implement flex hours for the entire department!
2. Release the need for approval from others: It’s the challenge of trying to make others happy that often compromises our own “feel good.”
Once you give up the need for others love and acceptance (which you do by giving it to yourSELF) then it becomes much easier to follow your path of joy without influence or interruption from others.
3. Reveal the true desire: if you dig a little deeper on seemingly contradictory desires, you’ll likely find a commonality, and with that recognition it becomes easier to choose what’s best for you.
For example, if I want a quiet weekend because I want to relax and rejuvenate, but I also want to help sister celebrate her birthday, maybe I could combine both by inviting her to the spa with me for a relaxing couples massage.
Regardless of what option we choose, knowing that compromising the “feel good” is NOT an option is what serves our successful manifestations!
I’d love to hear your tips for resolving conflicting feel goods. Thanks in advance! 🙂