Top Ten Joys

We don’t even have to google the top ten fears of people to know what they are …

But if you did, Google has lots of lists for you: public speaking, bugs, heights – everyone knows these, right?

It seems like we could be equally versed in the most common joys people have.

I thought I could make a good guess (it was the theme of our January Treasure Hunt at GVU), but I wanted to confirm with Google.

And the search engine didn’t have those lists at its fingertips. Which felt like a good cue to get as familiar with our joys as we are our fears.

So I posed the question on facebook and got a lot of responses.

Here’s the official tally from the comments on my page as well as others’ who also posed the question):

  1. Laughing
  2. Children/Family/Loved Ones
  3. Animals
  4. Nature/Outdoors
  5. Reading/Books
  6. Friends
  7. Sleeping/Naps
  8. Music/Singing
  9. Food/Cooking
  10. Physical Activity (including working out & yoga and such)

If we put friends and family in the same category, that gets coffee and tea on your top ten joy list. ha!

And if we put wine in the same category as coffee and tea, it bumps physical activity off the list altogether.

When I did both and compiled the new numbers, that gives us the list presented in the image. (Our joys are so simple, aren’t they?!)

Laughing with loved ones, or enjoying a good book with a kitty on our lap. It’s so simple to plug in to joy.

In fact, if we had a top 20 joys list, we’d also see:

  • Hugging/Snuggling
  • Meditation/Quiet/Solitude
  • Travel
  • Dancing
  • Chocolate
  • Writing
  • Learning
  • Hot bath/shower
  • Working
  • Clothes

(Yes, I kept chocolate in its own category. “Food” does not do justice to the joy that is chocolate, as any chocolate lover knows.)

Maybe it’s because it was a public post that sex didn’t get one single mention. Not one. Maybe snuggling was everyone’s code word for sex, or perhaps sex is a bit overrated. I don’t know.

What I would like to know is what’s on your top ten joys list?

  • January 4, 2016
  • Barbara says:

    In no particular order, here are my top 11
    – Laughter
    – Play (fun)
    – Love (all forms)
    – Excitement
    – Passionate sex (not the boring kind- lol)
    – Dancing
    – Singing
    – Music (making it or listening to it)
    – Pets
    – Appreciation
    – Giving

  • Mastermanifester says:

    My top 10:
    1. Intimacy (I mean that deep feeling of connection and can be obtained with another human being through many means.
    2. Laughter.
    3. Love in any form
    4. Nature and especially animals
    5. Sunlight
    6. A wood fire on a cold night snuggled in a warm blanket with a favorite food or beverage.
    7. Travel, adventure, exploration
    8. Feeling in the flow/in alignment
    9. Feeling healthy and awesome in my body.
    10. Having fun (play in any form 🙂

  • Michael says:

    Jeannette, LOA whenever, is an answer to my prayer. It stimulates thoughtful feelings and growth, and certainly your #10 List.
    The only word I did not see was adventure, however I can also appreciate adventure as an exciting emotional and mental perspective that applies to every stage of growth, every new opportunity to learn;
    just what LOA offers!
    Thank you,

  • Eleanor says:

    Top Ten Joys**
    1. Coffee
    2. A good meal out
    3. Manicures (I find when my nails are done I feel like I can do anything)
    4. Perfume
    5. A good book
    6. Fashion blogs/YouTube channels
    7. Drinks with friends
    8. My partner
    9. The Good Vibe Blog ( a regular reader since 2014 but hopefully a regular commenter as well..I love LOA and hope to get involved in helping and recieving advice)
    10. Music (I make a great playlist and can get a house party going)
    11. Living in London; the most magical city in the world and having it be my hometown!
    Bonus: Dogs, Mexican Food, Winning an eBay auction, and Cup or tea and a biscuit
    **I know there are 11 and they are in no particular order!

    • Jiya says:

      I’d add Perfume, Fashion Blogs and Cup of Tea to my list…I can’t do without a good scent, cup of tea is my panacea… for any cure I get one and fashion blogs are oh-so-yay!! Love and Light

  • Cat says:

    In no particular order…
    Seeing the stars in the night sky
    Feeling deeply Seen
    Limitless possibilities, and the considering of them
    Retellings, re-visionings, and re-definitions
    Weird foods (butterscotch tea, cucumber soda, candy that looks like pebbles, monofloral honeys, bacon in a chocolate bar, roasted garlic cheese, fried ice cream, rose-flavored syrup, and I’d LOVE to try that stretchy ice cream from the Middle East…)
    Being myself

    • Master Manifester says:

      Wait, what? A fellow glassblower? Yay! Love it 🙂 I always tell friends blowing glass is like hot yoga, deep meditation, creative outlet, being totally present all wrapped into one. And there is nothing like ice cold beer and great pub food with your studio-mates afterwards!

      • Cat says:

        Just a student so far, but I couldn’t have put your description better! When I’m in the hotshop, the boundaries of the world are the furnace and the bench, the marver and the glory hole; nothing else exists but the heat and color and motion of creation. And there’s never been anything else that motivated me to do extra weight-training (sometimes ANY weight-training) — but then there was this glass conch shell that I couldn’t muscle myself and suddenly working out was less “work” and more “inspired action.” It’s like LOA made physical! May everyone find the thing that moves them that way! 🙂

  • Jiya says:

    My list goes like this:
    1. My daughter.
    2. Music
    3. Meditation (though I need to be regular with it but I can feel the warmth and awesomeness I get after meditating)
    4. Laughing out loud with friends, siblings.
    5. Animals (Puppies, dogs, monkeys and birds to be specific)
    6. All LOA blogs. (Whenever I start feeling low and nothing works… these blogs work)
    7. Money (Yes, afteral this accompanies me when i am shopping)
    8. Shopping
    9. Water (Water makes me feel revived!!)
    10. Instagram (A quick way to refer to for inspirations… be it anything)

  • Christa says:

    That was me by the way. It got posted before I filled in my name 🙂

  • Anonymous says:

    In no particular order:
    – My balcony (it’s a therapeutic haven, for me and my friends. It’s also known as the Bermuda Triangle, due to its shape and that hours and bottles of wine just seem to disappear into thin air when we are out there)
    – Having a bath while reading a good book, with a bowl of crisps and a drink on the side.
    – Dinner & board games with my kids & their dad
    – Planning & booking a holiday (and going of course)
    – Facetime/whatsapp/Skype with my besties on the other side of the world
    – Eating Nutella straight from the jar
    (And my daughter’s face when I told her she’s allowed to do that too as soon as she gets her period)
    – My kids’ sense of humor
    – My kindle
    – An art & craft shop (it’s like a candy store for me)
    – The dog sleeping on my bed, snuggled up against me
    Sex seems to lead to too much complication in my life at the moment, so that has been dropped a few places, haha! I prefer the dog’s company for the next few weeks or so ;))

  • Elle says:

    This is wonderful! Thank you! And I would have said sex. I wondered the same thing while reading the list; perhaps it is a bit overrated or that snuggling leads to sex? Hmmm…. Either way, really fab!

  • JenE says:

    Another good reminder that it’s all too easy to focus on “do not want” as opposed to “love, love, love” and that reveling in the simple joys, moment to moment, are what really make us happy.

  • KO says:

    PS – Sex definitely should have made the list. haha.

  • KO says:

    I love this list. It really is the simple things. 🙂
    Plus this is a good list to look at when I’m bored, don’t know what to do and want to feel more joy. There’s plenty to choose from.

    • Jeannette says:

      That’s exactly what I was thinking, KO. Our favorite joys are so simple!
      I like the idea, too, of using this list as a guide next time we’re looking for more joy. Thanks for reading and for commenting! 🙂

  • Annette says:

    I am really glad that you grouped Friends and Family in a Loved Ones category . . because for some of us, our Friends ARE our Family!
    And sometimes, we haven’t met in person!
    Isn’t that amazing? To love someone you haven’t met in person?
    And OOhh . . . I have been really taking notice lately of how crazy I am over my cats . . . one of THOSE people 🙂 NO, I don’t dress them up, but it’s like every other sentence has something to do with my cats!

    • Jeannette says:

      Yeah, it seemed like the best description to sum up the various answers was “Others.” People. That’s who brings us joy.
      Annette, you might guess that I was initially tracking “cats” vs. “dogs” but eventually when horses started showing up, too, I just put them all in one Animals category. 😉

  • Danielle says:

    OK love this! Love, love love! I really love the way you manage to get wine on the list, like your thinking. The only joy I can think of that is not already on the list is ‘having something fabulous to look forward to’.

  • >