Q&A: The True Role of LOA?
Big question recently came up about the role of Law of Attraction that I wanted to run by you all.
A wise colleague asked a great question about the balance between fully accepting this moment as it is and using Law of Attraction to bring something new into life.
She wants to understand the line between complete acceptance of what is versus asking for more – when the asking is potentially an unconscious escape from what doesn’t work now.
She felt turned off by the materialistic bent to Law of Attraction, which she doesn’t feel jives with living in full acceptance of what is. She astutely recognized that when she believes she needs something in order to be happy, there’s a problem.
Her exact words: “It seems to me to also be a possible trap of the ego to acquire more in the pursuit of the happiness that lives just beyond our fingertips.”
I initially answered that effective deliberate creation involves realizing that nothing outside of us can make us happy – no person, no thing, no experience dictates how we feel.
Rather, that we choose how we feel and that’s the heart of manifesting – managing our vibration (thoughts, feelings, energy). Not relying on or expecting something or someone else to do that for us.
I added that an important part of successful manifesting is releasing attachment, that as she rightly noted if we NEED this thing in order to feel fulfilled, happy, etc. we’re missing the point about “like attracting like.” And that Law of Attraction isn’t something we use to “fix” life, but rather it’s how life works.
LOA is not (just) a tool for “getting things.” In fact, I don’t think it’s so much a “tool” as it is the heart of how the world works. And the better we understand it, the more empowered we are to enjoy life.
Which isn’t what she’s heard about Law of Attraction.
This is where you come in. My colleague (and others like her) would benefit from hearing more about this topic, since the way she’s learned about it is simply as a tool to get things.
(I can’t say that I haven’t contributed to that perception myself.)
She correctly notes there is mistrust about LOA in certain circles because it’s viewed as a technique for material accumulation. She believes “if one isn’t clean in the desire, deliberate creation becomes an attempt to get things to make the unhappiness of now better with the addition of the desired object.”
It’s not that I’m looking to convince anyone of anything, but she did ask and I agree that this is a rich and important conversation. Which is why I asked permission to take it public with this community.
Will you weigh in on this? What role does Law of Attraction play in your life? How do you see LOA fitting into the big picture?