Unhappy Thanksgiving: When to Be Ungrateful
If your inbox looks anything like mine, it’s filled with tips and reminders for practicing a deeper level of gratitude and appreciation in honor of the U.S. Thanksgiving holiday this Thursday.
Last week I sat on a Gratitude Panel; tomorrow night I guest on an Appreciation & Gratitude radio show; this morning someone shared with me the Attitude of Gratitude fan page on facebook.
I’m starting to feel on overload with the reminders to get grateful.
(Shoot, one of my own ebooks is all about self-appreciation!)
But I get it. Appreciation is not just a high vibe but the solution to all our problems. It’s how we get aligned and how we make the most of life. Every deliberate creator knows that.
Which for some reason kind of puts me in the mood to embrace grumpiness.
Because pressure of any kind pushes us in the opposite direction – even when it’s “good” pressure like a bazillion reminders to be grateful.
But I do know not to resist grumpiness (or anything I’m feeling), and can already feel some relief in letting myself have some fun with this …
… so today’s post is a rah-rah session for when it’s okay to be unappreciative, to take something for granted, and even to be critical sometimes.
Dare me? This sort of feels like LOA sacrilege. Because this may seem directly contradictory to everything deliberate creators know to do about sending the higher signals – except it isn’t.
Because we can’t really truly be grateful or appreciative until we’ve felt our way through the other stuff.
If I’m irritated about neighbors that let their dog run loose, or worried about the insurance bill next month, or mad at my computer, or ticked off about my ex who still owes me that apology – whatever I’m feeling, if I pretend I’m not feeling it and push myself to dial in on appreciation – it just doesn’t work.
Denial doesn’t fly. That’s why Abraham says, “Own it and get over it.”
That’s why putting a happy sticker over the empty fuel gauge doesn’t change the fact that we’re out of gas.
So when is it okay to be ungrateful? When you’re not (grateful).
Feel how you feel.
Whatever it is.
And after getting that mini-rant out of my system, I’m finding it impossible not to appreciate this Nelly song playing in the background. And the Verizon commercial that makes me want to dance.
And the kitty sleeping on my lap that made my feet fall asleep and kinked my back from typing sideways. And my incredible wisdom to have brought the phone and water bottle nearby so I don’t disturb lounging kitty. Because Elvis sleeping on my lap is probably my greatest joy.
That’s why grumpy works. That’s how ornery serves us.
So this Thanksgiving if you find yourself feeling something besides love and light for whatever’s up in your life, relax. You won’t undo all your manifesting efforts by getting a little dark.
In fact, feeling less than fab may very well be what gets things moving again, if you’ve been denying those less elevated emotions.
Double in fact, this is directly related to tomorrow’s GVU call topic with Harmony Harrison of Hissy Fits and Tantrums and their role in successful manifesting! How perfect is that timing?!
Wait a minute … am I starting to sound appreciative? And a little bit happy? I didn’t mean to – just a natural consequence of feeling the feelings, whatever they may be.
So it is with heartfelt love and appreciation that I wish a Happy Thanksgiving to you U.S. folks – or Unhappy Thanksgiving if you prefer. Either way works.
Update: excellent comments as usual from you brilliant readers! Keep an eye out for Chip’s response below, too.