When What You Want Isn’t What You Expect
It’s one thing to want something; it’s another to believe it will happen.
Like when you want a big tax refund, but you haven’t had one in over a decade and there’s no reason to believe it’ll happen this year.
Or when you want a passionate romance with your long term partner, but that simply hasn’t been your experience.
Or when you want an enjoyable work-life balance, but your job requires more time and energy than you can comfortably invest.
Yes, we conscious creators can theoretically believe in anything. “If you can imagine it, you can have it,” we’ve all been taught.
But learning how to believe in what we want is a skill. Aligned belief doesn’t always (or even usually) happen instantly or automatically.
Often that expectation needs to be conjured.
The good news is you can learn to expect what you want. It’s a reliable process that just takes commitment and imagination.
When we regularly train our attention on the result we want, practicing it in our mind’s eye by seeing it and hearing it and feeling it – that pre-experiencing of our desire acclimates us to having it.
That process alone can help us believe in it – just by sheer mental exposure. (Kind of like brainwashing.)
We can also remind ourselves of reasons to believe in it. Practicing the thoughts that help us expect it can marry up our desire with our expectation.
And when we learn to expect the thing that we want – we’re home free. Abraham says anyone who has strong desire and strong belief is unstoppable.
But getting there can require some work.
Think about your newest desire … what would you love to create if you could create anything?
With that in mind, ask yourself on a scale of 1-10 what your expectation level of that is. (1 is it’s hopeless; 10 is done deal, easy peasy, it’s in the bag.)
Anything less than an 8 is worthy of doing some thought work on.
For a recent personal example, this weekend I wanted my foster kittens to have a smooth and easy experience of getting vaccinated.
My belief level in that desire was maybe a 6.5. Whether I had to transport unvaccinated kittens to a vet’s office, or meet up with another rescue volunteer in a parking lot, or convince someone to make the 90 minute drive to my place – every option at my disposal was less than ideal.
And frankly, my vibration around vaccinations is less than ideal already, since I lost a cat to autoimmune disease years early (likely caused by maintaining the recommended vaccination schedule) and a friend just lost her puppy the day after receiving its first vaccinations.
So I’m sketchy here.
And I didn’t take the time to get properly lined up. Yes, I plugged into some info that was meant to build my confidence, and I recruited some help. And no, it wasn’t a complete disaster, but it was not the smoothest easiest experience I had wanted for them.
Because I didn’t raise my expectation to meet my desire. I still expected trouble. And that’s what I got.
That’s why it’s worth recognizing that Universe doesn’t deliver what we want; it delivers what we vibrate. Wanting it isn’t enough if we don’t also learn to expect it.
Learning to expect what you want is a manifesting skill worth cultivating.
You can start today by:
- setting the intention to raise your expectations
- asking higher power to help you believe in what you want
- writing down and regularly reviewing reasons to believe in your manifested desire
- giving yourself new reasons to believe in what you want
- or practicing the experience of it using your imagination on a daily basis (via visualizing, affirming, scripting, etc.).
That’s all it takes to train yourself into the vibration of having it.
Once you’re there, the world is yours to do with as you please.
I’ll do a better job with the puppies next month. 🙂