Watch What You Ask For?

grass-dog.jpgThat’s what my ex-boyfriend just called to say: “Watch what you ask for.”

I suspected a good story would follow.
He said, “Remember how I said I wanted a lawn with sprinklers?”
And I burst out laughing, knowing exactly what he meant.
See, his landlord recently put his house up for sale, and he needed to move pronto. 
But my ex has four dogs and seven cats.  Finding a rental that would allow – let alone accommodate – eleven animals could be tricky.
“Well, that’s what manifesting is for – those tricky spots,” I had said.
His old place, with four dogs trafficking the backyard and no sprinkler system, made for one big dirt pile.  Weeds can’t even grow back there. 
In fact, his dogs act like they’re in heaven when they play on my third of an acre of thick lush lawn.  (I’m releasing guilt for not zeroscaping.)
That’s what he wanted for his dogs at his new place: lawn with sprinklers.  Most of the pet-friendly places in his price range were pretty run down and didn’t have grass yards at all.  With time running out, he was feeling high pressure and lots of doubt about whether it was possible to get what he wanted: an affordable place that his dogs and cats would be comfortable in, with lawn and sprinklers.
Guess where he just moved over the weekend?
Back home with his parents. 
Not his first choice, nor theirs.
But they do have … drum roll please … a lawn and a sprinkler system.  Ha! 
He texted last night saying they spent three hours running around the yard – in complete bliss!
It’s also affordable (compliments of mom and dad) and his animals are quickly making themselves at home.  Buddha has his own door (through the basement bathroom window), Dixie watches the neighborhood from her window perched on top of the couch, Angel sleeps on the bed now instead of the floor, the cats have a much more entertaining room (dad’s former office) with lots of new nooks and crannies …  This is definitely a “dream come true” according to the instructions he gave Universe.
Universe always takes the path of least resistance to deliver what we’re vibrationally aligned with.
In fact, I was on the phone with a vendor whose computer was literally going up in smoke before her very eyes.  She laughed as she watched it happen and said, “I’d been asking for a new Mac, but this isn’t how I wanted it!” 
Laughing is good.
Some folks email me saying they want money to come into their life, but not in a negative way.  They’re afraid to ask for what they want because of how it might get delivered.
My coaching is to release the fear and improve expectations, but I also don’t believe bad things can really happen.  Ever.
I believe the Universe ALWAYS has our best interests at heart, and delivers us perfection every single time.  Always.  Perfection.
(As I believe, so shall it be.) 
Even with my ex – much as he didn’t want to live under his parents’ roof again, and much as they didn’t want eleven animals in the house (his mom doesn’t like animals – especially not indoors), there are a TON of good things happening as a result:

  • my ex gets a chance to save up money to buy his next place
  • it forced him to heal a long-standing rift with his folks
  • his estranged sister showed up to help him move, allowing for a healed relationship there as well
  • his dad LOVES animals and this is a perfect excuse for him to get lots of animal love in his life!
  • I’m betting this gives his dad a new lease on life – caring for animals is an easy way to feel needed and connected and loved
  • the rent paid to his folks brings much needed extra income into their lives 
  • my ex gets to skip the part where it takes a while for “home” to feel like “home,” since this was his home for so long
  • he gets to eat mom’s cooking again!
  • his folks are there to give the dogs potty breaks – freeing him up to work more and take lucrative out of town jobs

I could go on, but you get the drift.
Always perfection. 
What a relief, huh?  lol
Having said that, here’s how to avoid a “negative” manifestation:
1) Keep the vibe UP.  We get what we vibrate.  So if you’re feeling good, you’re attracting good things.  (I use the word “good” loosely, because you know how I feel about judging the circumstances.)
Keeping the vibe up includes developing the skills to manage your stress and your overall vibration.    This can be as simple as remembering to do what feels good and/or offer yourself relief when stress creeps in.  Give up the struggle and effort and go with the downstream flow – that’s where all the good stuff is anyway.
2) Don’t let “reality” scare you.  You’re the one creating reality, so you’re always in charge.  No need to scare yourself if you don’t want to.  (Although some of us get an adrenal fix in doing so, I know.)
3) Look for what’s working.  As you notice what’s going your way, what the good news is, you call in more of the same.
4) Release the judgment of “good” or “bad.”  I know that’s easier said than done, and something I’m learning to do more of myself.
What are some other ways you’ve figured out to prevent “negative” manifestations?  I’d love to hear them, and those reading will be grateful for the experience you share!

  • August 5, 2008
  • Gillian says:

    Yap, you’ll be surprised, how Trump consciously or unconsciously applies all the LOA principles in his life. There is a subchapter “Do what feels good” under the second Chapter “Passion, Passion, Passion” and he is telling us in his own way nothing else than what you have been preaching to us and Donald is actually encouraging us to have fun with life and not take it too seriously! Its hard to believe that after seeing the Apprentice, but remember that eventhough the Apprentice is reality show, its still a “show” and every “show” needs some degree of drama and hostility or else it won’t sell! What interests me is not so much the person, but their mindset.

  • Donald Trump tells us to do what feels good?! Oh my! That’s a surprise!
    I remember from Celebrity Apprentice the mob guy said something about how no one wants to wake up to start another fight every day, and Trump said that’s been his whole life – one fight after another.
    I thought “ugh.” Not my style!”
    So this is a pleasant surprise to hear. I may have to check this one out, Gillian. Thanks for posting!

  • Gillian says:

    Well, I guess the reason why Kimora’s book appeals to me is because I find myself to be somewhat like her, in that I do have an obsession with luxury. I don’t care much to become a celebrity, but sort of I am a sucker for the finer things in life. Kimora’s book also offers some good tips on relationships and other issues. Its worth reading it.
    I am reading Donald Trumps book “Think Big and Kick Ass” now and I am at the chapter “Do what feels good” and I had to think of you and what you are always preaching, Jeannette!!! I am only into the 2nd chapter and its already packed with LOA principles. Jack Canfield quoted the book to be “Donald Trumps version of the Secret”. Again, Donald Trump may not be everyone’s favorite, but its his mindset that we can learn from.

  • Daphne, I especially love this last part of your note: “I no longer belief that there are any negative experiences”… I agree!!

    It’s nice to hear someone else in the “real world” say so, too! lol

    Thank you for the good company!

  • Daphne Bazemore says:

    My biggest suggestion (for myself and everyone else) to dispel negative expectations is to only speak and project my life positively! I’ve been doing this for a short time, but it’s rendered me silent in situtations where I would usually bicker, complain, talk about what went wrong before or let my imagination run away to its darkest depths. I must behave exactly like the writer I am and WRITE, SPEAK, DREAM, IMAGINE my blissful existence into being. Also, I no longer believe that there are any negative experiences because I learn and become stronger from it all.
    Just my two cents worth…

  • Thanks for sharing the difference those two words mean for you, Iyabo. That was a new perspective for me.

  • Iyabo says:

    Phillis, I apologize, i have been meaning to respond to this for some time but was unable to and now here I am.
    Every morning, I make a list of 10 things I am grateful for and 10 things that I am appreciatative of.
    I think of gratitude as flowing downstream and looking back upstream as what I left behind or got away from. I think of appreciation as pure flowing downstream.
    In my list of things I am grateful for I write things that i overcame. I am grateful that although my computer is down, I am doing fine with the back up computer.
    On my list of things that I appreciate, i write that I appreciate the convenience of technology and the wonderful writing that I get to do as a result of having a wonderful computer.
    That is how I express the difference. i started writing this way because I wanted to be sure that I was vibrating both gratitude and appreciation.
    I am not saying that this is the way everyone should deal with it. I am just saying that this is the way that works best for me.
    thanks for sharing your thoughts.

  • Yeah, I’ve heard Abraham on this one. Thanks for posting it here, Phillis.
    I bet it’ll launch an “aha” moment for someone here.
    The distinction makes sense to me and I can feel the difference between the two vibrations.
    Yet it’s minor enough (for most of the folks I talk to) that I still use the words interchangeably.
    Some might consider that sloppy, others might consider it not being nitpicky. More than anything it’s probably just habit.
    I’m pretty sure Abe wouldn’t have intended to introduce any “shoulds” to us – so as long as you go with inspiration you can’t miss. !
    Thanks again for the quote, Phillis. You always bring great resources to the table!

  • Phillis says:

    I just read this Abraham quote — what do you think? I’ve always stated what I am grateful for and of course have a gratitude journal — should it be an “Appreciation” journal????
    Appreciation and Gratitude Are Different Vibrational States. . .
    When you feel gratitude, often you are looking at a difficulty that you have overcome, but there is still some of that “struggle” vibration present. The state of appreciation is seeing whatever you are looking at through the eyes of Source. . . You could walk down a crowded street with all kinds of things that a lot of other people would find reason to criticize or worry about, and you would not have access to them because your vibration of appreciation is picking out for you things of a different vibrational nature.

  • Sounds like a great resource. Thanks, Gillian!

    I like her (or is it yours?) definition of success!

  • Gillian says:

    By the way, I would want to suggest a book by Kimora Lee Simmons called “Fabulosity”. I am aware that Kimora may not be everyone’s cup of tea, but her book gives us a peek inside her mind and attitude and how she got to where she is now. How she sets intentions and dreams big and about image building and how important confidence is and a healthy self-image is to have success. Every person’s idea of success is different, but success always means to get what we want. Though not everone desires to become a celebrity or topmodel, her book shows us what mental attitude to have to get to our pot of gold, whatever that means for each person.

  • Kim, you’ve got me laughing out LOUD!
    I KNEW there was a positive expression of Leo Rising, even though I couldn’t think of one. And here Universe is showing me YOU! lol
    Too funny!
    And yes, he probably would love this post. I told him I was SO blogging about his words of advice, and that made his day.
    Thank you for showing me a beautiful example of the Lion ascendant, Kim. It will forever change the way I think of you folks!

  • Kim Falconer says:

    I’m glad you like the story!
    And maybe it’s my limiting belief too but no Leo in the whole world would want to hear ‘Russ this and Russ that!’ But Ex Leo Rising would probably enjoy this post! He’s the star 🙂
    x Kim
    ps I’m Leo rising as well 🙂

  • PERFECT story for this post, Kim!! Thanks for taking the time to share it here!

    PS – my ex beau doesn’t read any more – he got tired of hearing “Russ this, Russ that” so he signed off. (Such a triple Leo!)

    Wait, was that limited thinking? Probably. Maybe I’ll let him out of that box one day. lol

    Edit: my bad – I just checked, he’s only a rising Leo. Man, the stories I can make up! ha

  • Kim Falconer says:

    Oh Jeannette, it’s like reality TV hearing how your ex is going. Does he read your blog?
    Here is the Zen Story I mentioned. I think I posted it before –Maybe?
    xxx Kim
    There is a Taoist story of an old farmer who had worked his crops for many years. One day his horse ran away. Upon hearing the news, his neighbors came to visit. “Such bad luck,” they said sympathetically. “May be,” the farmer replied. The next morning the horse returned, bringing with it three other wild horses. “How wonderful,” the neighbors exclaimed. “May be,” replied the old man. The following day, his son tried to ride one of the untamed horses, was thrown, and broke his leg. The neighbors again came to offer their sympathy on his misfortune. “May be,” answered the farmer. The day after, military officials came to the village to draft young men into the army. Seeing that the son’s leg was broken, they passed him by. The neighbors congratulated the farmer on how well things had turned out. “May be,” said the farmer.

  • Indeed, I thought it might be a good reminder, Gillian! lol
    I didn’t share the story to inspire fear in anyone, but rather to create awareness. That’s where our power is – in that awareness of what our energy is calling forth!
    Thanks for posting, Gillian, Iyabo, Kim and John!

  • Good example, Iyabo. I remember his story.

    You know, in order to expect that Universe can deliver “gently” to us (as part of our manifesting instruction), we would have to be in alignment with “gently.”

    And when we’re aligned with “gently,” we don’t have to ask for it. Because we’re already there.

    So although the words might help us get to the energy of it, if they didn’t – it’s wasted breath.

    I’m having fun getting updates from the ex every night about more good news he’s discovered about his new living arrangements. It’s a hoot!

  • Gillian says:

    That’s a really great story, Jeannette! I suppose that reminds us, that we need to be focusing more specifically when making a request!

  • Iyabo says:

    This reminds me of Melissa Gilbert’s “Eat, pray, Love” and her male friend from Texas at the Ashram in India. When they were on Oprah, he talked about how he kept asking God to open his heart up and finally he had to have open heart surgery. So now he prefaces everything with “Gently!”
    I think that is wonderful.
    I am excited for your ex Jeanette. That is so good for him. It sounds like the perfect place for him for right now!
    I send him blessings in his new re-home!

  • PS to Kim: AMEN to making it up!! That’s all we’re doing anyway – we may as well make it good!

  • Very true, Kim. Sometimes what helps best, too, is recognizing we can’t possibly see the big perspective. Accepting the “not knowing” often unhooks us from a negative perception.

    Good question about the husband wife attraction there on the animal issue. I wonder if sometimes when we repress something or are overboard in one area we tend to attract the opposite. Thinking of shadow work (Debbie Ford’s written on it). Or how the opposites are always tied together – like Abraham says – it’s all one stick, just opposite ends of it.

    It would explain a lot about me and Russ. lol

  • Kim Falconer says:

    PS. If I can’t see an easy feeling perspective, I make one up.
    I imagine things in a way that feels good. I mean, the event is all in our heads anyway (visual consciousness is simply electrical signals to the brain–not anything ‘out there’) so why not see it how we like?
    🙂 Kim

  • Kim Falconer says:

    H Jeannette,
    What a great story! I can see the dogs tearing around the lawn and kitties finding new hidy-holes! From the perspective you give, it’s pretty easy to see how great this experience is. That’s one of the keys to being easy with everything–perspective! If we can glimpse the big picture, or even imagine it, every event takes on new meaning–easy meaning. ‘Negative’ is in the eye of the beholder and guess what–they’re our eyes! Drop the notion of binary opposites–good v.s. bad, ease v.s. struggle, and we dive into the pool of experience–energy just as it is. Bliss!
    There is a great zen story that helps me with perspective. I’ll find it and pop it up! I also find, as you suggest, looking for what’s ‘right’ helps and also flooding the scene with gratitude. (A kookaburra just sang as I typed that so we know it’s a powerful one! 🙂
    I am curious though. If dad loves animals and wants to have them around, how in the world did he attract a partner that doesn’t? If she likes only humans, what’s she doing with two men in her life that adore pets/familiars? I know desires can get tangled up with beliefs but this aspect of relationship is so common. It makes it seem like opposites attract but we know they don’t, so, who’s pretending?
    Thank you again Jeannette–your posts are golden!
    xxx Kim

  • Good point, John.
    Byron Katie really helps me get there (#4). Especially when it comes to death:
    She’s amazing.
    Thanks for posting, John!

  • Peregrine John says:

    I think the “fine either way” post sums up what I’ve been working toward as a means of dodging unpleasant attitudes, thus dodging unpleasant sympathetic vibrations being started around me.
    It does, though, remind me of Robert Louis Stevenson’s short story, The Bottle Imp. That unholy artifact granted its owner’s every wish, but in the worst way possible: When the main character wishes for a mansion, his beloved uncle and cousins are killed, and their estate goes to him. Any but the most minor of requests end badly.
    I think that’s what people are afraid of, especially when requests are granted in ways that can be most charitably described as “mixed blessings.” Being gun-shy at the universe leaves one… where, exactly? The alternatives aren’t especially appetizing, which is why we started messing with this stuff to begin with. Suggestion #4 might be a bit hard to get to – like with the sick kitten – but #3 is a really good way to activate #1!

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