We Become What We Practice

This is the story of my accidental scripting manifestation – from yesterday. Not years ago; not back before I knew better. From yesterday. (smh)

You know I’m a big fan of scripting what we want into being. I know how well it works to speak what we want until it becomes so.

I practice it just about every morning in the form of an out loud “I am” statement.

I freakin’ wrote the book on pray rain journaling.

I know this stuff.

And yet, listen to what I created without even realizing it …

It all started when I lost a bet to a friend.

The pay-up was that I would talk to him the way I talk to my dogs.

Silly, ridiculous, but also easy because I talk to my dogs in a very specific and practiced way every day.

That way is with LOVE. Lots and lots of love and adoration and appreciation.

I mean, a love that can’t be measured. Off the charts love.

So much love that it makes people roll their eyes. (Fellow dog owners know what I’m talking about. It’s the universal language of people who have dogs in the family.)

Okay, so I had to talk to him in that manner for the rest of the day.

And I did.

I was good at it. I didn’t hold back.Β (He pays up proper when he loses; I was going to do the same.)

And get this – by the end of the day I was feeling exponential love. For him. Not just for my dogs who inspire that speech, but for the guy that I spoke to that way for hours.

This is not a guy I was trying to drum up extra feelings for. This is not someone I had designs on turning into a love interest. I hadn’t set any intentions for activating a love relationship.

And yet there it was happening.

Because of how I was speaking to him.

With earnest love and strong emotion.

Honestly, you’d think I’d know better.

I found myself entertaining thoughts of how I could get more time with this guy. How could I let him know how much I appreciated him? And how in the world did he get to be such a cool guy?

You know how he got to be so cool? I spoke him that way.

I spoke my love for him into being.

When I realized what was happening, I said, “This might make a good post.” Which made us both laugh.

But my point here really is this:

Your speech is powerful. Use it wisely.

It doesn’t matter if you don’t even consciously want it.

(Says everyone who ever got sick after calling in a sick day.)

And it doesn’t take long – especially when you have strong emotion in your words.

Remember Mike Dooley’s “It’s a good thing I’m rich!” whenever he opened a big bill he didn’t know how to pay? And Sekou Andrews’ “I am awesome!”Β anthem?

The words you speak will alter the reality that forms around you.

But if you want it to last, you’ve got to keep speaking it.

My pretend script got real results in short order – but if I didn’t keep it up, the new results would wither as the words did.

Which just proves yet again that we become what we practice, so let’s practice what we prefer. Without attachment, without need, just for fun because we can.

Because we’re cool like that. πŸ™‚

(Listen at the podcast.)

  • November 28, 2017
  • Julie says:

    Great post! Great response Danielle! I’m going to talk this way to myself right now as I’m putting makeup on “there you go, put the blush on, who’s a good girl?” lol…. love it!

  • Dr. Keshia Lashune Oscar says:


  • Namaste says:

    In the late 90’s, I had a couple of wealthy mentors in my life who really walked the path of Christ. While I respected the way they lived their lives, after looking at Christianity a couple of different times, I never found myself attracted in the same way they did.
    I don’t remember now what caused me to test the following affirmation out years ago but I did. One morning, for well over an hour, I said “I love Jesus” over and over again. At first, I was just saying the words. Then, I began to feel something different. By the end, I was feeling an overwhelming experience of pure and intense love. The same way one would feel if they were head-over-heels in love in a romantic relationship. And the feeling didn’t go away when I stopped saying the affirmation.
    As I was experiencing this, I thought I’d finally figured out why my mentors were so attracted to Christianity. I decided to contact a friend. She took me to her church to meet her pastor that evening. Shockingly, it was the meeting with her pastor that killed the experience of overwhelming love I had been enjoying all day. He started talking about a bunch of judgmental stuff and by the end of the meeting, I was back in a normal state. I walked out of that church and never looked back.
    I thought a lot about this experience after it happened. Before I understood the things I do today, I thought the experience was only available through Christianity. What I eventually realized is that by speaking the words “I love Jesus” over and over again, that caused me to focus on love, until I began to feel it in an overwhelming way. Through my research, I found that the Buddhists actually use compassion mantras to experience the same thing (as explained here http://www.buddhanet.net/metta_in.htm). Today, I’m grateful for this experience because I’m able to understand why people can become so adamant that they’ve found “the one true way” when they are having a similar intensely emotional experience because of the focus they’ve tapped into.
    I loved your article because it confirmed my conclusion about the intense power of spoken words when focused on a specific object or person. As well as the fact, that if one doesn’t continue doing this, the experience fades away. We really do become what we practice. Thanks!

  • Ari says:

    I am curious if he responded to this new script? I know we can talk ourselves into anything, but if the other person is not on board, it is just more pain.

    • Jeannette says:

      I think it’s safe to say that pain is not part of this party. We’re both having a good time. πŸ™‚

      • Ari says:

        That is awesome. I am working on the Scripting method, but may start by speaking to myself the way I do to my neighbour’s dog, who I love.

  • Jiya says:

    I love this post and it has inspired me to try this on my husband because now a days it’s one of the times when we are pulling each other’s legs and I am not that. I am very loving and he keeps reminding me that I have a big place in my heart for everyone. haha Thanks Jeanette.
    Love and Light.

  • JG says:

    I am SURE you wanted to LOSE that bet!

  • Caroline says:

    It’s hilarious in itself that you would propose talking to someone like you talk to your dogs if you lost a bet. I gotta say, Jeannette – you sound like a really fun person to hang out with! Sort of reminds of the Marianne Williamson quote: “Only what I am not giving can be lacking in any situation.” This inspires me to pour love into whatever difficulty I encounter – cranky child, cranky self, etc! And also reminds me of your crackhead neighbor story, which I find incredibly profound. Thanks so much for sharing your funny and insightful experiences, you are a light in this world.

    • Jeannette says:

      That was his idea, believe it or not, but it was fun to do. I’ve had male friends say they’d love to be one of my animals (dogs or cats) because they get lavished with so much love. My response is always I’d treat anyone like that who was that easy to love! lol

  • Danielle says:

    I need to talk to myself the way I talk to my dogs! That would be self love at its finest. By the way, I just tried this on my husband and he licked my face like one of the dogs would (we have 3 dogs, so I’m well versed in sweet talking the dogs) which made me laugh and reminded me why his sense of humor is one of my favorite things about him. But that also reminded me that right before I met him and manifested our relationship, I was practicing a lot of self love. It’s so important! Love this post, Jeannette!

    • Jeannette says:

      omgosh, now THAT’S brilliant, Danielle!
      I am SO doing that!!!

    • Julie says:

      Great post! Great response Danielle! I’m going to talk this way to myself right now as I’m putting makeup on “there you go, put the blush on, who’s a good girl?” lol…. love it!

  • Deanna says:

    This is one of my favorite posts ever – what a fabulous example… the thing is – I had the most amazing dog in the world- Dolly-doggie… and before her my Sally girl, and I know exactly how much love you put into the words we say to dogs – so, what a lucky guy-friend – and I can soooo imagine this happening – and I am going to speak everything in this whole freaking world that I want right into being! Bam! and thanks Lizette for your weight loss story because I really like that too…

    • Jeannette says:

      “Dolly-doggie” and “Sally girl” – I can tell we are of the same heart, Deanna. πŸ™‚
      But I didn’t even have to hear your dog names before knowing how much love you flow, my friend. You have it in spades. That is clear wherever you go.

  • Jeannette says:

    I was hoping someone would share an example of scripting themselves into the body they wanted, Lizette! THANK YOU for such a great example of engaging your creative powers for good use. πŸ™‚

  • Lizette says:

    LOVE it!!! Enjoy that loving feeling. πŸ˜‰
    I just realized that I’ve been doing the same with my weight. All year, I’ve been exercising more than ever in my life, just for my weight to creep down slowly and then push up beyond where I started. SIGH.
    Then someone said something – probably hubby – and I started ending every weight discussion with “…because – you know – I’m sexier than friggen JLo, right?” or at the end of a walk “Check out these legs… JLo would love legs like these!” or “I bet if Jlo was 5 feet tall and weighed 220 lbs, she would want to be THIS sexy!” So I’ve really been pouring love into my body – a tip I learned from you. And JLo is wonderful inspiration because she’s absolutely gorgeous.
    One day I got on the scale (as I do more often than I probably should) and BAM! I actually dropped quite a few pounds, smashed my initial goal, and I’ve maintained it for over a week – it’s unheard of!
    Now I need to apply that to other areas of my life!

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