5 Tips When Contrast Reigns
Actually, it’s fair to say I’m still processing remnants of it and finding my way back to a good groove again.
But with this recent experience in mind, I thought I’d pass along a couple tips that have helped me through dark times.
The next time you’re dealing with something highly unwanted (like divorce, job loss, financial troubles, loss of a loved one, health issues, or whatever might have you feeling like the world is crashing around you), here are five things for conscious creators to remember:
1. This won’t last forever.
It might seem like the end of the world, but it really will get better. It’s just your time for contrast.
Ride it out to get to the other side, where life gets even better as a result of what you’re living through now. It’s just a time of “step one.” It doesn’t last forever.
2. It’s okay not to feel okay.
Sometimes conscious creators get nervous about feeling bad, because of that whole like attracts like thing. And sometimes we have judgment about not being able to get to a better feeling place on a dime.
But the thing is resisting feeling bad just makes it worse. So let yourself feel whatever you feel, and know that’s the best way to move on.
3. Lay low in the meantime.
This is a good time to cut yourself lots of slack from daily life. Make some room in your schedule for you and eliminate whatever you can that doesn’t offer relief.
Know that while it might be helpful to share what you’re going through with a trusted friend or two as a way to process, you might not want to broadcast your current experience to the entire world. The last thing you need is everyone you know sending “sorry” vibes your way.
You’ve got enough on your plate without others amplifying negative energy by worrying or feeling concerned about you. Plus, it gives you a break from having to talk about it with everyone who wants to know how you’re doing.
Not to mention it takes a lot of energy to process heavy emotions, so give yourself plenty of solo time to do so.
4. Thoughts that feel bad aren’t true.
This one has been a lifesaver lately … every time a scary thought gets hold and threatens to do its worst, I remember what Abe says about thoughts that don’t feel good:
If a thought doesn’t feel good, that means my inner being doesn’t agree with it. Which means Source sees things differently. That’s my cue to practice seeing it differently, too.
I also found Byron Katie’s four questions with a turnaround helpful in finding better-feeling thoughts.
But whatever you do, remember that any thought that doesn’t feel good isn’t even true, so no need to obsess on it.
5. Don’t go it alone.
You might feel totally alone in what you’re going through, but you’re not. You’ve got a team of divine support that you can call on for help.
I asked my angels and guides to help me feel better and help me see things differently. I asked them to help me sleep, and to help me reconnect with Source. I asked them to handle other things for me while I’m in this space, and I asked them to help me know whatever I need to know.
Use your higher power, whoever that is for you, to get top notch support in place.
You’ve probably got incarnated support as well, so let friends and loved ones help however they can. It’ll be good for both of you.
And know that I’m also sending the love your way when it feels like all is lost. It’s no fun to go through dark times, but it isn’t forever and you’re not alone.