When It Rains, It Pours

Not too long ago a love interest drove home the point that he was unhappy with me in some very specific ways.

That one hit hard.

Shortly after, a client expressed her displeasure with our work through an uncomfortable measure.

And then a colleague shared her frustration in how I was not handling things to her preference.

Now that I think about it, even my LOA Recon rave reviews seem a little thin lately.

If I weren’t LOA savvy, it would be easy to conclude I am astonishingly good at letting people down.

But I know what’s really afoot here … I just let the “they-don’t-like-me” vibe get a little out of hand. And when it rains, it pours. Because once a thing has momentum, it starts showing up everywhere.

In that first hit I adopted an unhelpful filter that’s coloring more and more interactions in life. It’s like wearing sunglasses that black out the positive and highlight the negative.

A savvy creator knows to put this sort of thing in check before it gets any more momentum.

I’m sharing the process in case you’ve also got an unenjoyable vibe gaining traction in your world, too …

1. I could shift attention to the love I am getting.

Which is easy to do, because I get way more accolades than gripes. Just takes a little commitment and discipline to refocus on the good.

2. I could let it be okay.

It’s a viable option to get comfortable with their discomfort, and not make it out to be a big bad deal. Not everyone is going to love you, Jeannette, and that’s okay.

Dropping resistance to what we don’t want is transformational!

3. I could check the originating source.

I know from experience that the more I approve of myself, the less likely I am to hear others’ disapproval.

(Although I love being able to practice loving myself even when others don’t. Which could be an indicator of an unconscious payoff, but my gut says that’s not it in this case.)

The first thing I did in each situation was make sure I’m okay with how I conduct myself. If I’m not good with it, it’s no mystery why I’d get that reflection from others.

So it could be that this feedback is a valuable indicator as to where I’ve fallen out of integrity with myself.

If there was anything to clean up, doing so could help turn this vibe around if I used it as a chance to create a new focus.

I know one thing for sure, I’m not in manifesting integrity with myself when I let this vibe go unchecked.

So my primary job is to not let this spiral be the boss of me. I can decide when I’ve had enough and put an end to it by changing my mind.

If you’ve got a pattern happening in life that you’re not a big fan of, it’s worth remembering you can turn it around, too.

All you have to do is be willing to shift your attention in a way that activates anything you like better.

There might be some feelings that want to be felt before you can dial off, but after that we know how this goes … we just activate the vibration of what we prefer.

So …

  • If it seems like the money keeps coming up short, that’s a good one to put to rest.
  • If you notice health challenges keep cropping up, this could be a good chance to decide something new.
  • If relationships seem to be endlessly difficult or unrewarding, I’d suggest activating something easier to enjoy.

We know that we get what we pay attention to. So if you’re not attending to something fabulous already, maybe join me in finding new thoughts, new images, better stories, positive evidence, or anything else that helps redirect focus.

Because we’re cool like that. We’re conscious creators. 🙂

  • January 28, 2018
  • Lisa says:

    I just picked up a notebook this morning and turned to a page where I wrote “subscribe to blog – Jeannette Maw principles of manifesting.” This was back in January, 2015. Here it is in February 2018 and have now only subscribed and read this post. Such perfect timing beyond imagination! I am in a job which I must quit and realize I am not OK with how I conduct myself right now. My manager is beyond incompetent and his behavior triggers me because of so many reasons and I am realizing it is about me and my shadows and not him. You remind me that I need to redirect my focus and to realize that your words ‘we know we get what we pay attention to’ are so true. Thank you!

  • april says:

    OMG – this was exactly what I’ve been experiencing too. Maybe the Universe had you go through your challenges so you could enlighten us how to overcome our same challenges! The Universe works in mysterious ways! You have been a valuable resource and source of inspiration for me! I agree with Brian, we love you!

  • Brian says:

    Like so many others I find this post timely. I’ve had 3 weeks of feeling awful. My new administration where I work have decided I need t be investigated instead of just asking me what was up in a particular. scenario. The changes they made in my work schedule have cut my pay in half and I WAS freaking for weeks, feeling awful. Next they had me investigated by the nursing board, totally groundless but anxiety provoking.
    So I immersed myself in this site, the GVU, Abraham-hicks you tube and my other spiritual practices. Finally I’m coming around,increased my belief,decreased my attention to actuality. I still go up and down in comfort feeling but the up is on the way up.
    As for you, we all love you. Brian

  • Silvia says:

    Love your posts and that you help animals.

  • Pat says:

    Jeannette, I’m sorry that you felt bad about things you might have done or not done. It’s up to you how you feel about yourself. We all need that lesson. You have always been an inspiration to me & lots of others. And your lightness and humor and messages always remind me how easy it is to turn this all around. And we all deserve the very best. Let’s always focus on the best of every person and situation!

  • Spot on, exactly the post I needed!
    I’m dealing with some contrast myself, and specifically wondering what to do when it’s actually painful, shifting focus from a body part that’s really screaming for attention is something I’m still not sure how to do…

  • Tammy says:

    Any time I meet someone who doesn’t like me (or I feel like they don’t like me), I laughingly tell myself that there was bound to be *one* person who doesn’t like me in this world and I finally met them. Sure it happens more than just once, but I treat each of them like they were the only one 😂😂😂

  • Lauren says:

    This is a great blog, Jeannette! Really helps to put things in perspective for me. I have definitely experienced the “when it rains, it pours” phenomenon this month in multiple ways (some good, some…contrasty lol). I also like to remind myself that this is all temporary. What we worry about and upsets us so much in the NOW moment will be gone before we know it. So little of this we will even remember let alone care about in a couple months or years.

  • Lynda says:

    Thank you Jeannette, I applied this to my ongoing money issues which kind of is “never enough” but when I play that pretend spending game I cannot think of one thing I want! I have a few needs but after that is met the ‘wants’ just seem to vaporize. Frustrated today, I just said, “I want as much money as I need” and promptly found a dime on the sidewalk. LOLOL!

  • Leslie says:

    Wow Jeannette, your post is so timely! Thank you for always being on point. I’ve been back and forth between intense anger and beating myself up today after a bit of unwelcome news yesterday. I agree that you are awesome! HUGS!

  • Kat says:

    Jeannette, your posts always come at the right time for me. I have not worked with you personally either but you are my go-to LOA person, and I love your podcasts and your writing. Just sending you some love.

  • Danielle Young says:

    Ditto the first sentence of Julis post above!!

  • Becky says:

    Jeannette, thank you so much for this. I had just been beating myself up about a non-crucial mistake I discovered I’d made with a client. Now I’m going to change my tune – which should be easy with the positive feedback I received from someone else this morning. I’m appreciative of this reminder to focus on what I want more of in my life.

  • Andrew says:

    As usual, your post came at just the right time for me. These very things have been the focus of my life in the last 24 hours. To those reading this comment, Jeannette is a pure source of positive helpfulness at a time when the world is struggling under the effect of the media´s competition-driven use of the negative. People being people, not many of us are going to connect with everybody, but as she pointed out, as long as you are following your sense of what is right…that under-used word of ´´integrity´´…you are doing enough. Jeannette is alright by me!!

    • Jeannette says:

      I wish I could say I caught this one in the first couple hours. It’s been a couple weeks. lol
      Thank you for the encouraging words, my friend! 🙂

  • Sue says:

    Even tho I’ve never worked with you personally, you’ve always been a guiding light for me!
    Another excellent post, Love it❤️

  • Juli says:

    Let me tell you this: You are awesome! This post came just in time as I am having some issues with work colleagues which led me to think negative things about myself and tapping into a vibe that was not very enjoyable. Thanks!

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