When LOA "Doesn't Work"
In this guest post, Love & Magic Coach Cindie Chavez shares how she used law of attraction magic on a failing relationship.
Have you ever felt frustrated because that thing you’ve been envisioning is not happening?
Sometimes we start learning about magic, or law of attraction, or some other way of facilitating conscious creation and everything seems possible. The sky’s the limit!
Then we get down to the business of conscious creation.
We visualize, and meditate, and “act as if” and imagine what it will feel like once that thing we want manifests.
And it feeeels so good … until it doesn’t.
Until things go wrong.
For instance, take the time when I was in my terrible, horrible, no good, very bad marriage. I was a few years into learning about Law of Attraction. I was consciously creating some pretty awesome stuff.
Miracles seemed to happen on a regular basis. Wow. THIS was the life for me! Opportunities were everywhere, synchronicities were everywhen. Wow. VERY cool. I was really digging this conscious creation stuff.
Except my marriage was pretty rocky. Well, abusive actually. Painful. Stressful. No bueno.
But hey, I was working miracles with this LOA stuff, so … maybe all I needed to do was work some of this magic on my relationship.
Commence LOA on relationship program. Insert disc. [sound of metaphorical hard drive whirring] and then…
total system crash
Wait … what the %^&$#?
Did something go wrong?
Yeah, the relationship got worse and worse. Until it came apart.
Seriously. It flew apart like a model airplane flying into the side of a mountain.
So what happened? Why didn’t this LOA stuff work to fix my relationship?
Well, actually – it did work. It just didn’t create the outcome I expected.
You see, I began to get very clear on what I wanted …
- I wanted a marriage where I was loved, respected, cherished, cared for, appreciated, adored.
- I wanted a relationship where I was both heard and seen.
- A relationship where deep conversations and raucous laughter were a regular occurrence.
- I wanted a relationship where there was plenty of hot sex, warm hugs, sweet kisses and tender lovemaking.
- I wanted a relationship full of mutual pleasure, and yeah, mutual lemonade making on the occasion when life handed out lemons.
That was what I was envisioning. THAT was where I was aligned vibrationally.
And guess what – it’s pretty obvious now that my ex was not a vibrational match to this relationship I desired. And so, pretty quickly things fell apart.
It wasn’t because LOA didn’t work. It wasn’t because my alignment was off or my vibration was wonky. Not at all. The Law of Attraction worked perfectly, just as it always does.
The clearer I got about what my ideal relationship looked like, the further away my vibration was from his vibration.
That was the magic part. The magic did work. The magic worked perfectly.
And, you’ve probably heard me say that magical activities work even better when we couple them with mundane activities that support our magic.
For example – you can meditate on the perfect job, and then it helps to also send a resume, right? You can envision a beautiful painting, but then you need to take out the paint brushes and get to work on it.
So, here’s the mundane activity part – I spent a few years studying communication techniques (including conflict resolution and even hostage negotiating!) and through all of my learning I devised a very powerful method to communicate what I wanted and needed.
I learned a few simple tools that supported my own self-knowledge and my ability to express what I desired. I learned how to set boundaries and how to ask for specific outcomes. And even though I would put this little process I’ve created in the “mundane action” category – it works like magic.
And … it works if you’re single or in a relationship, it works if you’re discussing with another person or brainstorming with yourself, it works to bring clarity about relationship stuff and clarity about your own stuff.
So I put together a little do-it-yourself workshop for you so you can learn this powerful process, too.
It’s comprised of a 2-page worksheet and a 38 minute audio where I lead you every step of the way through this simple process – and I’m making it available this month as a “pay what you want” offering. I call this workshop The Voice of Love, and once you use it I think you’ll agree that it works miracles.
Jeannette again: I’m a fan of Cindie’s work, and believe whether you tune into her Voice of Love workshop, or browse her blog, or plug in via her facebook group, that our lives are better off for having her positive influence in it.