Where You Point That Thing
With a Marine Corps father who put meat on the table as a hunter, I grew up learning gun safety. Not just to leave the guns alone, but also how to safely carry and use one once I joined hunting trips.
Which required that I get a hunter’s permit from gun safety school. In fact, my first “real” job was a puller at the gun club and for a couple years I was a young competitor at the annual “turkey shoot” (trap shooting contest).
… now that I think of it, one of my favorite first dates ever was with a guy who took me to the shooting range.
(Kinda cool, if you ask me, that for a girl who spent that much time with guns I never shot a single animal.)
Suffice it to say it was drilled into my head to be careful about where the guns are pointed! Something I’ve learned to be aware and respectful of all these years later.
Which has actually helped with deliberate creation work, too. The habit of awareness and respect for our power is what creating our reality is all about, right?
So just a few minutes ago when Russ said, “No doubt about it, it takes work to look good,” I almost ducked!
We had just finished a joint workout session in the exercise room while watching some tv countdown on best “celebrity slimdowns.” (He got there first, so he picked the entertainment.)
Although I generally prefer music or Abraham cds, it was actually inspiring to see the parade of gorgeous bodies and hear trainers talk about what works and what doesn’t.
It reinforced that there is no single “secret” to being fit, and I enjoyed picking out the thoughts that inspired me. (Favorites included “it doesn’t matter what you eat, just how much” and someone saying Demi Moore, after three kids and over 40, just “looks better with age.”)
Anyway, we’re having breakfast afterwards when Russ lets that one fly: “It takes work to look good.”
My eyebrows shot up and I practically took cover behind the fridge door (putting away rice milk), to get out of the way of that thought.
(“That’s his, you do it different,” I reminded myself. No one’s sucking ME into their “hard work to look good routine.”)
To reinforce a good connection to my truth, not so much to correct my sweetie, I said out loud: “YOU can make it hard work if you want, but I guarantee it’s easier than that for me.”
He laughed, not because of how ridiculous he was being, but because he thinks I am. I suspect he thinks it’s cute or naive that I ascribe so much power to thoughts. No doubt we approach this topic differently.
I would not enjoy the (victim) role of thinking something I didn’t enjoy was required to get what I want!
If he had any idea that it’s our subscription to certain thoughts and beliefs that create our individual realities, I think he’d be more selective about the thoughts he bought into. If he had any clue how powerful our focused attention was, he’d be more careful about where he pointed that thing (his conscious awareness).
And now that he has a new laptop, he can read my blog. So I will say for the record here that YES, sweetie, you do get credit for acknowledging that attitude makes a difference. (He did say that and it’s actually one of his resolutions this year – to improve his attitude.)
But, like many of us, he has yet to truly understand and embrace the power of our personal energy (via our conscious awareness) to arrange the atoms that make up the “real world” around us. (Myself included at times!)
When we learn to get consistently deliberate about where we point that thing – our focused awareness – !! Well, let’s just say we’ll be in for quite the party!
And with that, here’s to 2009 being our best party ever! You can pitch in, too, by being very purposeful and aware of where you point the power of your attention.
Shall we start now by formally sharing where we’re directing our thoughts? What a great way to launch the new year!