Q&A: Why Intentions Fail?

why intentions don't work?Yesterday my ex-beau texted that he was tired and wishing he was going to bed instead of bowling, but he was just going to get it over with.

He went on to bowl his best score of the year.

That was right after Blake told one of The Voice contestants that, “You started singing better when it crossed your mind that this isn’t gonna happen.”

(She got two last second chair turns.)

Which reminded me of this question I’d just read from a blog reader:

Tell me, if you can, why do I find that when I intentionally wish for a good day and say to the Universe, “Please give me a good day today” I end up having a not-so-good-day.

But when I let it be and not wish/ask specifically for a good day, chances are the day will be good.

What’s up with that?

Yeah, what is up with that?

Why is it that ‘not trying’ works so well for us sometimes? How could that be more powerful than getting deliberate and conscious about what we want?

Surely it can’t be that the best way to get what we want is to give up …?

See you in the comments …

  • March 11, 2014
  • Good point, Barb. I know in the bowler’s case he has had a long standing intention/desire for high games, so that one’s been in place for years already.
    But even if we didn’t consciously know what our desire was or hold an intention to fulfill it, I think Universe/higher power knows and will deliver it when we find our way to alignment. However we find our way to alignment.
    What do you think?

  • barb says:

    But don’t you have to put the intention out there before you let it go? It sounds like the bowler did not. Do you mean just always let go and never do conscious visualization of what you want – just let go and let god all the time and see what happens?

  • Agreed on all counts, Mollie. 🙂

  • It’s all about letting go.
    It’s all about letting go–really.
    (Good question, BTW.)

  • Carolyn says:

    All great comments!!! I love it. Definitely got a lot that helps me get it and actually have better days. Thanks guys!

  • Cristina says:

    Thanks for mentioning that, Cat! I have had great results also when I prelude my requests with something along the lines of “wouldn’t it be fun to see if this actually WORKS!?” I won $20k on a game show, had someone I hadn’t spoken to in over a year pay me back money they owed me and even got a new job in a new field I’ve been wanting to work in! Something about just doing it for the fun of it certainly released a lot of “creating” energy!

  • Cat says:

    I always get the best results in getting what I ask for when I ask with the feeling of “wouldn’t it be fun to see if this actually WORKS!?” If you expect it won’t, it won’t, but if you wonder if it might, it often does. If, with your asking, you’re handing over your power to the Universe to make you happy, It loves you enough to say, “Honey, you don’t need ME for that!” If, with your asking, you invite the Universe INTO your happiness (or at least, with “giving up,” your lack of resistance), It’s always more than happy to join you. I agree with everyone here that it’s what’s behind your asking that gets you the result. You don’t ask with words; you ask with whatever’s behind the words.

  • Sejual Shah says:

    I went on a profound journey of surrendering last year with Frank’s Communion of Light on their Dropping It Series. It is one of THE pivotal series of his that I’ve participated in.
    I listened to the soliloquies again and again and chose in wave after wave to let go of my notions of how I ‘needed’ to achieve certain goals. Clients and money flow in more effortlessly than before. I’m constantly surrounded by the kindnest people I could ask for. Everything became so much easier!
    There was a sizeable journey leading up to this point of surrender. So I can’t say it was one series that nailed it. But, OH, this series is one of most dearly held touchstones for the sweetness I spoke of above. It’s a heady divine nectar!
    The first 3 recordings are free to download at the bottom: http://communionoflight.com/dropping-it-register

  • Susann says:

    The “Pouting Teenager” Technique — love it! And Paige, I think you’re onto something. I have to be very careful when I’m “asking” for something to make sure I don’t trigger that tiny sense of anxiety about really really wanting something I don’t have, and all the “stuff” that goes with that.
    I’ve had success when I (sometimes literally, always mentally) throw my hands in the air and say, “ok, Universe, I have no fracking idea how you’re going to pull *this* off, but I know you can do it . . . .” & then go on to detail what it is I want (a situation to resolve well, or something I want to manifest in my life). I think the magic is not just in the “I give up, this is yours, dude” part of it, but also in the fact I’m not trying to define how it will happen in any way.
    Usually when I ask for a “good day”, it’s because I have a sneaking suspicion that it’s NOT going to be a good day. Acknowledging that only manifests the bad stuff. I think if we affirm our having a great day every single morning — just put the expectation out there as a daily habit — that it would get us into a vibrational place where good just magnifies more good. I just find it hard to do (or to remember to do) every morning, which is probably telling me something . . .

  • Paige says:

    Like people have said…
    RELIEF is the answer for me. When I start to say “Please…..” I get tight in my stomach, I contract, and feel ugh….
    That is why I believe that “Wouldn’t it be nice if I had an amazing day today” Ahhhh that feels so much better for me!
    I hope this post makes sense it is just what came up for me. Relief and ease is the answer for me!

  • My sister does this all the time. She will say, “That would be nice, but it probably won’t happen.” She always gets that “it would be nice thing”. I believe it is her tone of voice and her belief that she will be surprised and excited when it comes.
    Her feeling vibe is, “I can’t do it on my own, but the Universe takes care of me.” It’s almost like she is whining a bit as if saying, ” Universe, I know that probably couldn’t happen but you are so nice and cute and you can do anything, you could make it happen for me.” Like a pouting teenager saying,”Daddy, I know you won’t but you could buy me a car.” Meaning daddy buy me a car…
    At the root of this method, she is speaking directly to her subconscious mind and it gets this language, she has created a belief, and neural pathway that this works.It really is total allowing because my sister does, at a deep level believe she is going to receive. She just asks and gets out of the way of the process.
    I think I am going to call this technique The Pouting Teenager.

  • (Lord knows I’ve done that, Steve!) lol

  • Steve says:

    These are all good points. Speaking for myself there seems to be a lot of finer points that if you spent too much time thinking about them you would drive yourself crazy.
    I sometimes think of this as being the same as the way I sometimes fix computer problems. I try this and that a couple of reboots (not documenting any of these steps) and everything is fixed.
    Keep on going at it until it works for you.

  • helen says:

    maybe it has something to do with releasing resistance and allowing things to flow ….

  • Cristina says:

    If a person is asking for a good day, then it seems like one must first believe that there is something wrong with the day that they are already having, or they have to ask for it because otherwise they might not get it. It would seem to me that it has to do with an underlying belief system around “lack” and so that is what you are perpetuating. Wouldn’t the better thing to ask be for the universe to open you up to an even better day? Or to allow more love, happiness, abundance, etc. to be flowing into your life? That way you are already coming from a place of “what is” rather than “what’s not”.

  • Thank you for the question, Carolyn! It’s leading to lots of good input here that’ll help all of us refine our manifesting processes, I suspect.

  • Carolyn says:

    Hey. I think Sejual is spot on. Surrender and dont care how it goes either way. I am the blog reader who asked the question and real glad Jeannette put up the question here. Thanks Jeannette.

  • I’ll be the first to agree, Blondewizard, that “trying” is not an aligned frequency. And that it’s an easy one to engage without even realizing it.
    This has to be why “giving up” can bring such lovely success, right? A release of the “trying” sure does the trick.
    I’m not saying that’s what was happening in each of the examples posted here, but lord knows I’ve done this one myself many a time!

  • Blondewizard says:

    Perhaps…in the vibration of “trying” you vibrate not yet having/being because you arwtrying. In the giving up, we are allowing the good to flow. There is no resistance. So the next time you try, think if Yoda…”Do or do not, there is no try”. Just be!

  • There is something so magical about that light and free energy, isn’t there, Sejual?
    I think you’re right about how well that gives Universe room to maneuver. Thanks for chiming in here!

  • Sejual Shah says:

    Sweet sweet Surrender’s the name of the game!
    When we don’t care which way it goes the Universe gets more room to manoeuvre. Whereas sometimes with conscious creating we get hung up on pathways for the Universe to deliver.

  • You know, Deanna, I think there are a lot of answers to a question like this, and this is certainly one of them. Being aware of what we’re really truly vibrating seems something of an art. lol
    Thanks for getting the conversation started – I’m sure we’ll see lots of good ideas gathering.

  • Deanna says:

    uhm hello! I need some comments!! because – I think all of us feel this way at least some of the time.. or a whole lot of the time. I think the answer lies in that “other side of that” vibration. perhaps there is a little too much “lack of” in the “wanting” vibe we are putting out there – without meaning too, of course…
    – Deanna

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