Q&A: Work It or Let It Go?

work it or let it go?We’ve all had the experience of manifesting things instantly without effort … like when we think about a specific someone and then get an email from them two seconds later.

Or a friend mentions a scene from an old movie, and that night we find the movie playing on tv.

Those experiences may lead us to believe our best manifesting process is a “hands off” one.

But what about all the suggestions we get for engaging regular processes like affirmations, visualizations, acting as if, etc.?

Does our best manifesting happen with conscious effort or when we just let it go?

That’s the subject raised at GVU this week, which I liked so much I wanted to offer for more input. Β Here’s the question:

I never quite know what to do for the best – especially with the ‘larger’ things.

For example, I’ve read that if you don’t put lots of energy towards your goal (i.e. techniques) then you’ll be waiting a long time for your manifestation to show.

Then there’s the more relaxed approach where you perhaps ‘make your request’ to the universe once and then let it go. Β Any thoughts on this??

I’ve written earlier about how much effort is called for and will share new thoughts in the comments, but I’d love to hear from you, too, since my mind isn’t fully made up on this one.

Thanks in advance for sharing!

  • August 30, 2013
  • Mrs. C says:

    @Anonymous on September 13. You are more than welcome. Please please imagine the house done sold. Start packing, do not mentally sleep in it, write down down all the thing you want in the new home and how much you sold the house for. Also a big one is to stop “trying” Do that sound good? I feel excited for you just with those suggestions alone. Fake it until you make it.
    Trust me I know because I have a house in another country that needs to be sold for the last 6 years.
    I needs to be sold so I can get out of this moldy shoe box. I found myself from time to time saying the mold is going coming back next month, and it’s going to be all over my food as well etc. But I told my self stop. See this f#@king place empty and sleep in the new place. I have no idea where I want to move to my I know what type of home I want. So I have to keep bring my self to my new home. Regardless if it’s not in my real life as yet. It is a much better feeling than feeling stuck. I am also grateful that I am living no longer living with my ex bf in the ghost town where I was before.
    Please get a pen after reading this and start writing what you want as if you already have it. With all the nice neighbours and view from your windows.
    Yesterday went to find the smell of my new bf. So I came out of the perfume shop smelling of all sorts of mens aftershave because some of it went on my clothes. I call myself Mrs. C even if I am not married yet and I look after my body like a married woman. (shaving my legs more and taking out another cup when I make myself tea.) I’ve been single for more than 2 yrs and a few men are starting to question my sexuality. One of these men asked me if I like women.
    I am ever so glad because I’m not into theses men as I have my eyes on some gorgeous dapper dude. But anyways because I came into the pizza restaurant from the perfume shop smelling like a man. The waiter who always winks at me and has now stopped his leaching ways. Boy am I so glad.
    Sorry for the long post. LOL
    You have to take your self out of it and tell your mind how to think otherwise you mind will control you. If or when you start feeling depressed. Say to your self “F^#* that I’m going to think better thoughts’ this when repeated and done does make you feel better. Never tell yourself or anyone that you are depressed. Blast it out of your mind.
    Every single morning I say to myself 7 times ” Something very lucking is happening to me now”
    I don’t know what is could be but I know it leaves me feeling good and a feeling of expectancy.

  • Anonymous says:

    Thank you Mrs C. I appreciate your response…I have been trying to sell my house for 16 months thats why I am so depressed …I am living in a place right now because we had to move here for my hubbys job and now he has quit that job and got another job back where we used to live …all our friends and family are back that way …I am sad a lot and depressed because I miss them…no body like to travel to see us because of gas prices and toll costs…I don’t blame them …I am having too many pity parties…I am so discouraged….thanks again your caring … :o)

  • Mrs. C says:

    @Anonymous on September 9
    Sounds like you need to do a clearing process and also work on changing your belief about things getting harder as you get older. Until you change that things will seem to be harder because you gave life to that belief.
    1. You write a list to eliminate all the things and conditions in your life that you don’t want.
    e.g confusion, disappointment….
    2. Write a wish/ goal list of things and conditions you want in your life.
    3. Write a gratitude list.
    Also keep in mind that some times when things look and feel like it’s getting worse or nothing is happening. It could mean that you are closer to your goal than you think. You can give up not knowing that you are a few inches from gold.
    If you say that it’s not working this is another belief in its self. Why not choose to say that “it is working” One that I use myself is “Affirmations do work” and “The unexpected happens, my seemingly impossible good now comes to pass.” You have to be consistent with the repetition
    every single day.
    I hope that helps in some way.

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  • Scott Mac says:

    Just got this today in Abraham’s Daily Quote – 09/5/2013
    “Could I think too little about my desire, for it to manifest?” Actually, no, because as the contrast launches the desire, and then you do not offer any opposing thought, then you’re letting it in, and it will manifest.
    Many of our physical friends really believe that they must find a desire and then hold tenaciously to it. And we say, you do not need to do that. Let the variety of your life keep balance in your life. You just concentrate more on holding yourself in the good-feeling place where you’re letting it in.

  • Mrs. C says:

    β€œThy will be done today. Today is a day of completion. I give thanks for this perfect day. Miracle shall follow miracle, and wonders shall never cease.”

  • mollie says:

    Let it go. But if you haven’t let it go yet, and you’re still letting thoughts enter your mind, pray through those thoughts. Then let it go again.

  • Mrs. C says:

    Hi All,
    I can relate to all of this. One of the main problems I spent soooo much reading and listening to audios about it all from the classics e.g N. Godard, C. Ponder, F Scovel Shinn, J. Murphy and H. Harrison Brown.
    What I needed to was stick to the ONE method which I knew gave me results. My method is to do affirmations and take action and let go after a month. I was doing too many methods at the same time and not sticking to it long enough to find out what really worked for me. I know for sure what works for me as I am grateful for that. I just have to be more consistent.
    I get synchronicities every single day and I say thank you. However these synchronicities are for goals that I’ve been waiting for, for many years!!! Yes the ones that I can’t seem to detach from LOL.
    I also write which also works but I do not do it every day now as I am sticking to affirmations until I get a couple of things first.
    The thing that I have noticed was if I stick to 1-2 goals at a time instead of having a written a list of 10-15 goals every day. I find it just too much to do and end up wasting my energy and not being productive. I did give up completely on LOA for about 5 years but I am glad to say that I’m back in the game.
    My last big manifestation was in 2011. I didn’t even work at this one because I was so detached it was a joke. I needed to move out of my ex bf’s home and move back down to my old town which was 10 hours drive away with no money to rent a place in the town centre let alone the costs for moving etc.
    I kept on making excuses like oh I’ll wait until after Christmas etc. But during this time I thought I was trapped and didn’t stand a chance.
    What I done was visualised myself as already back in my old town living in the town centre. I knew what it really smelt like in summer and the sense of freedom that I had. I saw myself in the hallway of my new flat. This was all for about 5mins then forgot about it. A few weeks later I decided to check out the prices of the flats etc. just to kill time and worked out that it was possible to find something cheap even if it was a shoe box. To cut a long story short I am now wishing to move out of that very shoe box that I visualised to a bigger flat.
    What works for me:
    Working at it for about 4 weeks until I get that knowing feeling then I drop it.
    Visualising for 5mins
    Journaling every few days.
    The more I hang on to it I get very attached and feel low, distant and desperate. Yuck! It doesn’t do my mind any good.
    I would be interested to know how many goals you work on at a time.

  • nikky says:

    My way of handling my vibe to manifest is pretty much similar to what everyone has written. I have had great success in manifesting in the following two ways.
    1) Stuff that I want but doesn’t have any emotional charge to it ( no need it to happen) just a desire. I work on this by using some process or other to fuel the desire and get more clear.
    2) Stuff that I really really really want and that has an emotional charge to it and I feel I need it to happen – For this I just ask and get clear and then forget about it and get busy in truly genuinely getting Happy in the now.
    Bottom line – Getting happy in the now makes the grid fill faster than any process πŸ™‚

  • Danette says:

    I believe that both are correct. Sometimes we may take more action than others. I also believe we can “feel” into which one applies. That’s the way it seems to work for me.

  • Wow…this topic is so appropriate right now. I have been working with a client for over a year and a half (yes, she is an ideal, perfect client!) and has had tremendous success. Her latest “project” is wanting to win the lottery (yeah, I know, wouldn’t we all) but in her case, she is really serious. She is serious that she will win, knows exactly what she will do with the money (it’s about being able to help others on a big scale) and wants to use the actual winning of the lottery as part of her story. Can you say attachment?
    Ha…one of the most interesting and challenging coaching scenarios I’ve ever had and what I love about it is that it is the perfect lesson in being clear on what you want and why you want it and at the same time, let it go, be fine without it and also know it’s coming in the perfect timing. I would have insights about this at random times throughout the day that she needs to “get off having to get the money through the lottery”…we would discuss how and when she would checking the winning ticket – which of course, is just like taking score (is it here YET?). Had a major breakthrough last week as she finally got the maybe, just maybe the surge that is happening in one of her businesses is going to be the way (or at least part of the way) that the money comes to her and how important it is to be open to how it shows up. As we know the Universe delivers at the point of least resistance and how cool would it be to manifest the kind of money she is talking about from various places (which holds less resistance) then having this clear picture that it must come from one place and visualizing the crap out of it and pretending she already has it, etc. when I believe there is the attachment to “One must do something” to get it.
    So, get clear, feel it, plan what life would be like with it and then put your attention elsewhere. It is totally a combination of focus and letting go and like Frank says “it’s handled”..I say “this is what I have decided”. The Universe loves when we state clearly what we want, and then step out of the way.

  • Rosa Muziotti says:

    I visualize my desire every day and then I let it go. When I do not feel at ease, I look for evidences that my good is coming, jot evidences down and then I call out “Thank you Universe, thank you so much”. That has worked out for me.

  • Wow, great point of discussion. I think in the past with something really big… I probably pushed and pushed, then suddenly surrender and it happened. I am trying the calm, cool method this time and it is tough to chill out when your really want something and it isn’t coming. I just keep reminding myself to have faith and that the Universe is bending to my every desire.
    The bottom line is… I think many times we believe we want something really badly but perhaps it’s not quite right. The time delay is about refining the people, places, and things to make it perfect. I believe when we get out of the way of that… We can only receive perfection.

  • Shortly after I read this post and the comments, we had our regularly scheduled morning conversation series calls with Paul & The Communion of Light. In the Harnessing The Efficiency Of The Universe call this morning, it really felt to me that Paul was talking very much about this post and speaking about, in a very direct way, what to do with the contrast of conflicting thoughts when they come up. Here’s a link to listen to that conversation:

  • The one process that works for me, again and again, is pretty simple”
    I put myself on the far end of the experience
    I imagine what that looks like or sounds like or smells like
    I find the feeling of it which is relief or better
    I let it go
    When the thought comes back about “where is it?” I affirm “It’s handled.” Those are golden words for me.
    A few key things I’ve noticed for myself:
    It has to feel real
    There is always a sensory aspect to the story
    I try to be as compassionate as I can with myself when the idea that I can’t have it arises
    My main job is to stay out of the story and let it happen — the phrase “Hand’s Off!” comes to me over and over again
    Ask for help from my non-physical friends in holding the thought that “it’s handled”
    Tell the Universe, as often as needed, “you sort this out.”
    Leverage the heck out of any contrast that arises by re-framing the story and finding the thoughts that feel better
    Being as easy with things as I can
    Realizing all the above are guidelines and not try to work a principle because it sounded good coming out my mouth or hearing it from others
    THANK YOU Jeannette!

  • Jeanette,
    What does my process look like? Good question. A lot of what I’m going to say sounds a lot like Frankie B.’s Paul but it works for me. Also I should say that “formulas” rarely work for very long. We are constantly growing so what works evolves with us. Here is what is working now.
    I imagine what I want until I get the feeling of it.
    I decide that I can actually have it.
    I follow the thoughts or actions that feel better (or like relief.)
    At this point any contrast that runs counter to me having what I want will arise. This is not to be feared or over-come. It is just data. Two or more thoughts are not playing well together. I just have to choose which one feels better. And look for the next thought that feels better from there.
    In a way, contrast is the basis for the surfing theme of my site/ lifestyle. Contrast is the wave, the energy that propels you toward what you desire. And when life makes waves, surf and enjoy the heck out of it.
    So my website is: http://lifesurfersguide.com which you can get to by clicking my name. Thanks for asking.

  • Ashley says:

    Hi everyone! I’m soo happy this question is being discussed. I have been pondering this quite recently.
    How come certain things manifest without feeling like you given and they feel like you’ve hardly given them any energy and the manifestations you feel you have given more energy, seem like they don’t manifest as quickly?
    Here’s something to think about: It’s not that you’re not giving enough energy or less energy, I think that maybe it’s different energy. With the one that manifests quicker, it doesn’t feel like trying.
    Let me explain. When you are thinking of someone, you think of them and see them in your mind’s eye, you might think of a time you spent together, a conversation you had with this person etc. In that moment alone, even though you weren’t trying to manifest this person,you most likely began vibrating at the same frequency that would bring you both together from a phone call or bumping into them at the store.
    Now, when you are trying to manifest someone, your vibration becomes trying to manifest. And even though you may be doing the same thing with the pictures in your mind’s eye, the energy feels different when you are trying to manifest as opposed to just thinking of what you choose to experience and flowing positive energy towards it.
    Thank you and have a great day!

  • Jennifer says:

    The process I find to be the best is to write down what manifestations/goals I would like to have in my life. I focus completely on pouring out the emotion with every single word I write, visualising it, feeling it, being it.
    I will put it away and refer back to it every so often (not every day, not every week, not even every month – it has to have time to work and as they say, you don’t pull up a seed to check its progress after you’ve planted it).
    Then I continue to work on the things I wanted, which generally ALWAYS means me working on the characteristics of what I want in life and in a partner and that is what I get. It takes action to make it all work. It is my own doing, all of it is, as long as I align my own energy with what I want, it will happen.
    I’ve been doing this for a while now and I have incorporated gratitude and appreciation into my daily routine, I don’t even really have to “remind” myself to do it, I just do.
    I woke up one day at a friend’s house in Yosemite in January of 2009 and I was in total transition. I started writing out my “What I want in Life.doc” with such clarity. It was SOOO far from where I was at that moment in time, but now, in 2013 the majority of it has manifested in such truly unexpected ways. I’m now engaged to the most amazing partner (with the qualities I had written about), living in Australia now on a farm with an apartment in the city (all as I had written) and I’m about to graduate with my Bachelor’s from a University near the ocean (also as I had written). It blows me away.
    This stuff is so for real it’s undeniable that the work that needs to be done to align oneself is the key to the magic, to the success from my experience. I get exactly what I need every time. Every. Single. Time.

  • I take the “set it and forget it” approach. I do a daily and nightly alignment where I don’t place emphasis on things/situations I want, rather I immerse myself in how I want to feel throughout my day, visualising and affirming that into my state of being. Then I go about my day without giving it another thought. Before sleep I bring my attention to appreciation for the day’s events and focus on releasing, balancing and restoring wholeness. I also ask to receive interdimensional instruction and guidance while I sleep and intend to recall it while waking refreshed and rested.
    As a Source-ress, when I have a particular desire for a specific result I engage in ritual or spellcastings that I time in accordance with astrological energies and once I close the vortex I raise in Circle I forget about it until the outcome smacks me in the face and says “Here I Am!”

  • Lizette says:

    Currently, things are manifesting in a matter of days instead of years and I think that can be attributed to the fact that I get really excited at the prospect of it. I listened to an Abraham recording the other day about seeing the thing you’re trying to manifest as “the next logical step” and OH BOY is that working!
    When something doesn’t go as desired, I imagine the “even better than anticipated” outcome.
    As for the rest of my process, I say “Oooh, I’d love to..(insert desire”. If it’s a physical thing I want, I ask hubs to slap it into our shared LOA google sheet, then I imagine what it would be like to have it and party when it arrives. πŸ™‚ It’s such a kick to go mark the stuff as manifested… especially if you didn’t realize it was on the list and you mark three to four things at a time!
    Put the perfect house on there yesterday – did a virtual tour and budgeted for the small renovations. Tonight’s lottery should cover it just fine…(Don’t miss me too much if I’m quiet while moving and chilling in the hot-tub!)
    But with emotional stuff, I agree – some regular conscious effort definitely helps.

  • Here’s what I answered in the GVU forum thread on this subject:
    We know both approaches work. And I suspect we’ve all experienced it both ways.
    It seems to me that the effortless stuff manifests because we have no charge whatsoever on it. No conflicting vibrations. So it comes in really easily.
    The other stuff needs more work when we entertain contrary thoughts/pictures of what we want.
    For example: manifesting hot dates is easy for me because I believe in an abundance of amazing men who would be happy to show me interest.
    Manifesting a happy long term relationship is a different deal, on the other hand (for me). It’s easy for me to believe that the beginnings are the best part, and the rest is a lot of work. There are a hundred ways things can go wrong, and they often do.
    So a ‘happy long term relationship’ is something I personally would invest some conscious regular effort in retraining my expectations/beliefs. ‘Hot dates’ is a different story, though – that’s an easy peasy, no work required manifestation for me.

  • Chip, I’m curious to hear what your process looks like … what do you find serves you best?
    PS – can we get a link to your fab new site?!

  • It depends on a lot of things. The fact is, you never know how the Universe is going to bring it to you, so have to “know” or “trust” that it is on the way. Then it is just a matter of following the thought that feels like relief or better. Sometimes, there will be an action that seems like the natural thing to do. Other times–most of the time– there will be nothing to do. Think of it like going to the bus stop. There’s no point in walking away before the bus gets there. So act when it feels better and do something else if it feels like there is nothing to do. The easiest way is the path you want. If it is even slightly like a struggle, find an easier way.

  • I like the way you put that, Bliss. My thinking is very much along those same lines.
    And Lesley, you’re making an important point here – no matter what, it’s got to feel good!
    Thanks for chiming in, you two! πŸ™‚

  • Lesley Reid Cross says:

    Effort in the way of doing things you think will bring your desire? Does that mean both concrete actions and thought processes (ie. pray rain journaling, scripting, visualizing, etc…) I guess it’s the same either way….but I think as long as the doing is feeling as good as you think you’ll feel when you get what you want, it’s useful. When the doing gets graspy, slogging, feeling like a chore…it’s not doing any good and letting it go (in favor of feeling better) tends to have interesting results. At least that’s what I seem to see in my life.

  • Bliss says:

    Ah such a great topic to raise and something i have been tossing up in my own mind too! sometimes i feel like there are people out there who seem to put their desires out there, let it go and not give it a second thought and then boom! Sooner or later they’ve got it! I think it’s to do with not pushing against what you want and sometimes, in a very subtle way, affirmations and rituals and workshops can serve to reinforce a belief that unless we do these things we are not entitled and we won’t receive. It’s almost reinforcing a very deep core belief that we don’t believe we can receive without doing hard work!! However on the other hand, affirmations are supposed to transform our BELIEFS…so if our beliefs are in line with what we are wanting i do believe we receive! πŸ™‚ so the trick i think is to believe without so much hard work, which is what these effortless manifesters out here have a good handle on. Just some perspectives to think about πŸ™‚

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