Technical definition of contrast:
The unwanted crappy side of life. It’s the stuff we don’t want and don’t like, ranging from things like a zit to a bankruptcy to a heartbreak to a life-threatening diagnosis.
(Mine’s probably like a 3 or 4 on the 10 point scale, so don’t feel too bad for me.)
Along the way I’ve gotten really friendly support from savvy creators on what to do about it:
- “Look at the bright side. There’s plenty going right if you just look for it.”
- “Universe is telling you something. Get the message and take action.”
- “Chin up. Don’t let it get you down.”
All good tips!
There is plenty going right and it would be smart to receive any messages it contains.
And since conscious creators know we get what we vibrate, we sometimes have a tendency to want out of the crappy stuff pronto.
But here’s the thing …
Contrast is the fuel that feeds our expansion. (I learned that gem from Abraham.)
It’s what directly inspires new dreams and desires.
Life literally comes to a standstill without it. (Limbo, anyone?)
So it’s not necessarily a thing to be avoided or wished away.
And yet, that’s often our first wish when we see a loved one going through it. (Or ourselves, even!)
We want to see them find their way through as soon as possible. If we had the power, we’d wave it away with our magic wand.
But experiencing contrast doesn’t mean something’s gone wrong.
It doesn’t mean you’re failing as a conscious creator.
It doesn’t mean you’re messing up your life.
In fact, it’s probably the exact opposite …
It means you’re alive and kicking. (Contrast is part of the gig!) You’re in the game! And you’re launching something fabulous – making it possible for life to get even better than before.
When you put it in that light, doesn’t it make you a little bit excited to have some?
Maybe when a fellow creator sees an LOA-savvy friend in the midst of the muck, the more appropriate response might be:
- “Yeah, that sucks. Milk it, girlfriend!”
- “You go, girl! Way to rock the party!”
- “You get all the best problems!”
Okay, that last one made me laugh. And it’s true that this post is a lot easier to write with most of my big contrast in the rear view mirror.
But if we were being honest about how powerfully these unwanted parts of life can propel us toward new dreams and upgraded experiences, wouldn’t we welcome it and wish it on our best friends and family?
Wouldn’t we want to take them out to celebrate, instead of sending a prayer on their behalf?
(Not that someone in a big fat pile of crap is in the mood to celebrate, but you know.)
And yes, if a loved one is stuck in the struggle and forgot that they’re in charge of when they turn on the relief, it might be good to remind them how the system works and their role in it.
And certainly, it would not seem loving to say such a thing to someone who had no idea about their reality-creating powers.
But otherwise, instead of wishing someone else’s contrast away or trying to help them out of it, perhaps the most supportive thing to do is to let them have it and cheer them on from the sidelines.
Because contrast really and truly is where all the good stuff starts.
At least, that’s what I’ve been reminding myself this summer.
You can hear my favorite evidence of the power of contrast in the newest podcast: It’s My Contrast and I’ll Cry If I Want To.
Would love to hear your thoughts on the subject!