Couple things after last night’s election. Although I didn’t see McCain’s concession speech, I read several tweets from folks who were super impressed with it.
Some even said if they had seen this (gracious and classy) side of McCain during the campaign, we may have had different results.
That’s interesting. It made me wonder how much of what McCain did and said during the campaign came from him and how much was directed by others (who told him what to do & say to improve his chances). ?
And how some of the criticism of Palin was that her “handlers” scripted her every move and word; that they’d taken the likeable Sarah out of the equation and ruined her confidence in the process. Many said she’d be better off just being her natural self.
On a related vein, I’ve noticed occasionally when someone interviews me, the conversation before (and after) the recording is often more relaxed, casual and entertaining. When we’re live the discussion sometimes gets more stilted, formal, and careful. Not always, but sometimes. (I love the exceptions, which I’ve had many of recently!)
Have you noticed that at times in your own life? When we think we’re “on,” or when something “big” is at stake, our energy sometimes shifts in ways that doesn’t always serve. Sometimes it makes us tense or anxious, or leads us to behave out of character. (Certainly it does the opposite, as well, like when a “high stakes” situation calls us forth in a positive way – and we are unusually brilliant or eloquent or considerate.)
What I’m getting at is that when we aren’t true to ourselves it doesn’t lead us to where we want to go. When we start pretending or cautioning or taking action that isn’t in alignment with who we really are, we don’t come out winners – however we personally define that.
It’s crucial to remain true to yourself – no matter what’s happening.
How else could we enjoy the ride, anyway? And isn’t that what it’s all about?
Our true selves are fueled by love. If we take any action that isn’t in alignment with love, we leave our true selves behind and we’re not aligning with results that thrill and delight us.
Example, all my best dates were when I was being myself, rather than being a good date. (And I know the difference!) My best writing is when I write from the heart, not from what I think my editor or clients want to hear. My best days are when I follow the inspiration within, rather than let something else guide my choices.
Why would it be any different when the stakes get higher? (Which is just a perception, not a reality. Although I admit, to me last night’s election did feel like lots was at stake.)
Am I making this up – or do you also have experiences that show being true to your nature serves you best? I’d love to hear about it …
PS – in the meantime, I have to admit I’m puzzling over how Abraham didn’t find much hope with a candidate who inspired feelings like this all over the globe, not just here in the U.S.